Need help with girls?

[Rev_D21]

Nala didn't read any of the signs that this girl didn't want anything to do with him so she played the only card she had left, hump someone in front of Nala in hopes he finally gets the message. One must be pretty hard-headed to reach this point.

[themadscientist]

im tired of posting my personal life on the forum

*A BUNCH OF WHINY s****.

Nala, first Man the f*** up already.

Now the love can begin.

You are going to get nowhere reading books and websites and other lame s*** like that. Life doesn't come with an instruction manual and the only way to learn how to live is to do it. All women are different, but they are sort of the same in that they don't dig guys that stare at their shoes and start sentences with "I was just wondering" followed by a dramatic pause and a quivering lip and a clumsy recitation of page 27 of the lame guy's guide to scoring with chicks damaged enough to fall for these crap lines. They are into guys who are together and confident.

Figure out who you are, what you are about and find a woman who digs that. Don't be shy, step up and make your move. The worst she can do is say "no," maybe kick you in the nuts, but at least that way a woman will have touched your junk. Sooner or later you will find some woman who digs the freaky weirdo you are IF you rock your own style and don't act all goofy about it. Until then you are an EMO song waiting to happen.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nl4hbHwylYA[/youtube]

[Bubba1]

Nala didn't read any of the signs that this girl didn't want anything to do with him

Exactly. Nala, your refusal to read any of the obvious signs plus your creepy use of braille in getting to know girls (i.e. rubbing your shlong against them on a dance floor, or groping your sticky hand down their pants) only works if you're blind, not clueless.

So once again....

[PoorManQ45]

I'm actually going to disagree with you guys about the books.

I don't own any of them, but I've glanced over them. They aren't instruction manuals at all. They're basically confidence builders to help you deal with opposite sex interactions. That may be exactly what he needs.

I agree that the advice that has been provided is excellent, but none of it works when he has difficulty even "opening" a girl in the first place. Most of the advice is great when you can cold approach already. That's the most important part and he doesn't have that down.

[Jesda]

Confidence comes from going out and doing/achieving things, and you meet decent people by doing the things you love. A book can help you force or fake it, which might be enough to talk to a girl and get sex, but it won't sustain a relationship.

[krash]

Confidence comes from going out and doing/achieving things, and you meet decent people by doing the things you love. A book can help you force or fake it, which might be enough to talk to a girl and get sex, but it won't sustain a relationship.

I don't think Nala is looking for a sustainable relationship. He's just trying to toss his v-card.

[Jesda]

He's pissing and moaning about his feelings. He thinks his first hookup is going to give him offspring and a white wedding.

[naladude911]

This girl really wants to be friends still, she came up to my room to ask to get lunch. Ugh. I feel like string being pulled by a cat, and the string can't get away

[naladude911]

btw thank you for the advice. This book is all about confidence building and dealing with certain scenarios as well as breaking the ice in a non creepy way.

[Jesda]

She probably doesn't even want to be friends. She's just being polite.

[Amays U G37S]

Nala, when the time is right, The time is right. You may want to share interest and conversation with someone else who shares the same qualities, habits, and hobbies as yourself. I for one, date women who are equally attractive as smart. With that, sometimes one is better than the other. For instance, the girl I'm dating right now is smart as hell, ya her looks aren't a 10, but shes got it covered from head to toe. I've dated girls who were 10's with no smarts, and those relationships suck.


Find a girl who likes stuff like you, and then you won't have to try as hard to impress her. Matter of fact, girls may see that you are trying to hard, and that's why you keep getting the cold shoulder. Figure out which situation you are SUCCEEDING AT, and go with your best intentions.


Ugly b**** = sexy time, less motivation to get naked
Hot b**** = spend money on me, take me places, work for the "p" but never get it in the end.


SEE WHAT I DID THERE NALA

[PoorManQ45]

btw thank you for the advice. This book is all about confidence building and dealing with certain scenarios as well as breaking the ice in a non creepy way.

You're welcome.

I think this situation may work out better for you in the long run.

Having a female friend is great for learning how to talk to them. When you're in the friend zone they will actually tell you when you do something wrong rather then just blowing you off like a chick would normally do.

[Bubba1]

This girl really wants to be friends still, she came up to my room to ask to get lunch. Ugh. I feel like string being pulled by a cat, and the string can't get away

If there's a free lunch involved, of course she'll have lunch with you. but if all you want is sex from her, then you're wasting your time and (your parent's) money.


You actually thanked PMQ for advice?? Geez, that's both a NICO and Nala first.

[Bubba1]

This book is all about confidence building and dealing with certain scenarios as well as breaking the ice in a non creepy way.

So are you finally going admit you've been creepy..?

[PoorManQ45]

This book is all about confidence building and dealing with certain scenarios as well as breaking the ice in a non creepy way.

So are you finally going admit you've been creepy..?

Joel, you're not helping. Not that it matters because he doesn't listen

[timay]

This book is all about confidence building and dealing with certain scenarios as well as breaking the ice in a non creepy way.

So are you finally going admit you've been creepy..?

I think he might actually have gotten his head out of his a**...might be to early to tell.

[naladude911]

She pays for her own things, we just hang out

Right now, were just good friends. Im not sure if anything will escalate in the future but I hope it does since we click, and have a lot of good traits that we share.

Tonight I am going to an offcampus party, basically the typical American Pie party. Hopefully (chances should be high) I will find a girl.

[snwbrdr435]

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL American Pie Party




Hope you enjoy the pale ale nala or the cops

[PoorManQ45]

She pays for her own things, we just hang out

Right now, were just good friends. Im not sure if anything will escalate in the future but I hope it does since we click, and have a lot of good traits that we share.

Tonight I am going to an offcampus party, basically the typical American Pie party. Hopefully (chances should be high) I will find a girl.

Nala, you need to stop thinking about this girl sexually at all. I would recommend being her friend.

I guarantee that this will get you much further with other women if they see that you are comfortable around an attractive women.

[Bubba1]

[Joel, you're not helping. Not that it matters because he doesn't listen

It's called tough love, Brien. You're right he won't listen, but you've worked hard over the years to proudly be a "turd in the punchbowl". So it's not only surprising that you're giving him advice, but that our obsessive virgin actual thanked someone, and that someone was you.

[PoorManQ45]

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL American Pie Party




Hope you enjoy the pale ale nala or the cops

It's college dude, cops no come unless they are disturbing the peace.

[alms24sebring]

I agree that sexual feelings for this girl are a no go. If you cant handle that (which is acceptable), break off the friandship. It might help saying you want more than friends but it depends on the personality of the girl snd how she will take that ex. laughing it off and saying sorry not interested, or, having a very akward silent pause and no friendship at all after that.

Just dont bang the pie on the counter.
props to you if you bang the hostesses mom

[PoorManQ45]

Just dont bang the pie on the counter.

How else would he get his red wings?

[themadscientist]

This girl really wants to be friends still, she came up to my room to ask to get lunch. Ugh. I feel like string being pulled by a cat, and the string can't get away

You are in the freind zone, cut the string or you will wind up the maid of honor at her wedding. If you want to tag this girl don't play along, ignore her and treat her like she doesn't matter. If she is damaged or narcasistic she will chase you to prove to herself she can get you. People like that aren't worth your time IMO, but they can be useful for wetting your wick if it's that important.

You can avoid such troubles by being straight up with the next girl. Not pushy or clingy, just matter-of-fact and chill. It's not as hard as you make it seem. The key is not to care what response you might get and just be real.

[sx moneypit]

[Joel, you're not helping. Not that it matters because he doesn't listen

It's called tough love, Brien. You're right he won't listen, but you've worked hard over the years to proudly be a "turd in the punchbowl". So it's not only surprising that you're giving him advice, but that our obsessive virgin actual thanked someone, and that someone was you.

[naladude911]

the party got canceled so i am going to a venue where there are lots of girls. I will make a move, and try to make this chick jealous. See what happens

[uber240times2]

Oh my god... please tell me your not serious... a movie to make her jealous?

[sbird1]

[naladude911]

i never said a movie, i said move. This chick is coming.

[ADDirishboy]

Im not sure if anything will escalate in the future but I hope it does since we click, and have a lot of good traits that we share.

It won't. Stop hoping it will. You have been effectively placed in the "friend zone".

Look at it this way. Every girl has two different sets of ladders. One ladder is for friends. This is the ladder you are on. This ladder does NOT involve sex. s***, chicks don't even think about sex with anyone on this ladder.

The second ladder is for guys they would f***/date. THESE are the ones they are going to actually want to screw. This is obviously not the ladder you are on.

Now, it is not impossible to jump from the friend ladder to the doable ladder, but it's difficult. You have to be super hot, treat her like a damn princess, and just be overall an really fun, cool person she wants to be around.

Now stay with me, cause this is where the ladder analogy comes in. You have to get high enough on her "friend" ladder, before you can make the jump to the "I wanna bang your brains out" ladder. If you're not high enough on the "friend" ladder, and try and make the jump to early, you will fall, miss the f*** ladder, and wind up on neither. If this happens, you're screwed. There is no getting back on either ladder. But if you're able to make it high enough on the "friend" ladder, you may be able to make the jump to the other ladder.

But honestly, if you're just looking to get you're d!ck wet, this will take far to much time and energy to be even remotely worth it.