Hmm, so it's probably head gasket then? I have one, and i also have some valve seals too. I've been searching google on how to diagnose oil on plugs and what not and came across this link from autozone.
http://www.autozone.com/az/cds...s.htmI realize it's for a completely different engine altogether.... the procedure should apply for any engine though.
HEAD GASKET: The compression reading is low between two adjacent cylinders. the head gasket between the two cylinders may be blown. If there is the sign of white smoke coming from the exhaust while the engine is running may indicate water leaking into the cylinder.
It seems that one might be it. Because both #2 and #4 (which are right next to each other) seem to be missing. Like i said, unhooking the connector from the injectors or the coil on these two cylinders has no effect on the idle. A leak down test will either confirm or deny that assumption. I'm hoping thats what the problem is because i could probably do that in a weekend no problem.
Edit:
#8 from that link states:
"If a cylinder is unusually low, shoot about a tablespoon of clean engine oil into the cylinder through the spark plug hole and repeat the compression test. If the compression comes up after adding the oil, it appears that the cylinder's piston rings or bore are damaged or worn. If the pressure remains low, the valves may not be seating properly (a valve job is needed), or the head gasket may be blown near that cylinder. If compression in any two adjacent cylinders is low, and if the addition of oil does not help the compression, there is leakage past the head gasket. Oil and coolant water in the combustion chamber can result from this problem. There may be evidence of water droplets on the engine dipstick when a head gasket has blown."