Jesda wrote:As some of you know, there was this girl from my school, lets call her N.G., that I was seeing a little over a year ago on and off. She nagged, annoyed, and harassed me until I finally had enough. I'm not a very patient person, and relationships are the last thing I should be in right now.
Since the parking lot incident a while ago (where she confronted me for never calling and totally ignoring her) I gave in to her nagging and we hooked up a couple times. It was stupid, not only because she has obvious issues with self-esteem (combine that with her strict Catholic upbringing), but because we didn't always use protection. Alcohol or being sexually eager or whatever you call it got in the way -- I know there's no excuse.
She left me a voice mail last night telling me she felt sick, was late, and took a home test. She was certifiably pregnant. It felt like someone kicked me in the stomach and I could barely breathe.
I'm just over a year away from graduation and was eager to go to grad school and get my career moving. I had no intention of having a family for YEARS (if ever) until this hit me like a sack of bricks.
Now suddenly everything has changed. I have to live for others now, and the selfishness I was enjoying is now over.
Fortunately, she doesn't believe in abortion. I'd be devastated if a woman killed my child. I guess now I have to find full time work, because despite being well off, I know her parents and my parents will NOT be paying a dime for our mistake.
Everything seems surreal, like it isn't really happening. You normally laugh at the people who get themselves into these situations. Now I'm one of them.
When I saw the thread title, I figured you were gonna say yes to PMQ dating your sister. If this is a practical joke in honor of your 15K post, not funny. But if it is true. I'm not sure congradulations are in order. But Im gratified to see you stepping up to the plate as far as accepting your share of responsibility for the situation.
You life is about to change drastically, my friend. Not necessarily in a bad way. Don't write off parental help yet. I'm sure once the shock wears off, they will help you, as this will be their grandchild. They may not back the Brink's truck up to your door to finance you, but I'm willing to bet they'll help you in other more important ways.