Inventing Argument: Child Support

[Pieceofsand]

a bit off topic, but what's with these women cheating on men..it sickens me.

IT F*CKING SICKENS ME!!!

[93coupe]

I know, it is disgusting! Now men cheating on women...

[themadscientist]

Your honor. I understand that she has become accustomed to my income, so I do not dispute the settlement. That being said, I am accustomed to hittin that about three times a week; this way, that way, back door, foot behind the head with a tubful of jello, et-cetera. So, I would like to finalize my cootchie visitation arrangement.

[Rex]

One of the big issues here is that if the man says "I want no involvement" and is willing to sign any and all parental rights away he can still be held financially responsible. Though a woman can decide she wants no parental involvement, sign them away and have no financial involvement.

That's where things get screwed up.

[NissanXEPIlot]

Dang Audtatious, sounds like it. Yer Ex rollin in a white Accord that some sugar daddy hooked her up with? She have a sister named Sharon who is also a dancer?

I do know this though. My Ex cant make it on her own. Dont know what the heck happened but she used to have common sense and the brains to back it up. I have never heard of her doing any drugs, and deep down I dont think she has. It's like she just woke up one morning and kicked her pride, dignity and any sense of morals to the curb. Im happy to say my daughters are not like that. Im not trying to change the topic, though it seems to have shifted anyway, but I feel church is the main reason behind this. Both my kids are active in the youth group, and while I cant make church every Sunday, my girls do. They are better for it. Nobody will deny that this country is going into the crapper and it's because of a lack of morals. Divorce, single parents, teen pregnancy, abortion, drugs, homosexuality. just the total erosion of family values. Society as a whole has become so numb and desensitised to these issues that is concidered normal. Which is seriously screwed up.

[Bubba1]

Well this is a bitter sweet subject for me. Yes, the system is flawed and is unfair toward the father of the child. I'll state why. and then tell my sob story. I'll TRY to keep it short.

The system does not look into family history, employment stability or even for employment. A parents mental state is often overlooked as is any addiction to a substance. I wont argue the case on morals, I have lost all respect for anything that involves DHS, Child Services, or Youth Court Services. Those that think they are doing what is best for the children often don’t have children of their own and have their heads stuck up their butts.

Got married, during the 4 years or our marriage we had 2 super sweet girls.Just before our 5th year anniversary I discovered she was having and affair. I hired a investigator and got not only audio but video proof of who she was screwing and where it was happening. I started talking to a lawyer and he left be with the bitter sweet reality that no matter how I pleaded my case and concern for my children, the odds were against me having primary rights for custody. I divorced, and was ordered to pay $275.00 in support each month, as well as 50/50 in medical & education expenses. - I paid directly to the witch, and made damn sure I got receipts on each payment. No clue where the money was being spent, but it wasn’t on my girls. I was always buying them clothes, I know kids grow but when you buy a pair of shoes or jeans they normally last more than a month. April 15th of 2002 my youngest daughter Anna was attacked by a dog, after hauling butt to the hospital, not only did I have to pay on the office visit, but it was that point that My Ex decided she couldn’t take care of our daughters anymore. Of course I was stoked about this and agreed. My girlfriend insisted that I pay the support payments into a savings account and file as primary care provider, which turned out to be pretty good advice, because 3 years after getting guardianship Rankin DHS came after me for back child support. Well once I showed I had custody that matter was dropped, but then I was hit by another back child support from Houston, Tx. youth services. It seems that the entire time I had the girls my Ex was filing for state assistance (food stamps) and listing me has not paying child support, and that she had custody. I got that matter sorted out, though it forced me to miss a few days of work. It was while my last visit in Texas I discovered that not only was the Ex a frikken Alchy but was dancing at the St. James club. Needless to say I don’t want my girls around their mother, not that it’s a issue since she 2 states away and never calls.

I wont even comment on the BS from my 2nd marrage, other than I'm glad I didnt have any kids with her!

Wow, what a story. The silver lining is you got the two nice kids out of the deal, have custody, and the mom appears out of the picture. Good luck.