FlatBlackIan wrote:
There is a very simple solution. It takes 2 to dance, she takes away sex, you take away something she needs.
Thats right, I said need. Once sex has occurred, it is almost always necessary for a relationship to continue. If she took it away without discussing it, then I say return the favor......
Choking should fit the bill nicely.
Seriously though, it will go one of two ways. It will show her what its like to be mistreated, and she will reconsider, or she will up the anty and deny you something else. If the later occurs, then you should re think the relationship, you need to realize how immature she truly is.
Great advice Ian. We did discuss it though. She wants to wait till marriage now because she feels we went to fast in the beginning. (which is BS it was 4 months before we had sex)
There is another problem though. For the last 7-8 months she wasn't very horny. Ever. That is part of the reason she wanted to stop having sex too. (Even if she won't admit it.) But she did research recently because it was really starting to freak her out that she was never in the mood. She found two explanations that fit perfectly.
1) She doesn't like the way she looks. She started nursing school this year and it's hell. All of her time is spent studying. She gained like 10 pounds (which is nothing, she only weighed 105 to begin with) But she started to just feel fatter. She read a few medical journals saying that if you don't like the way you look, your libido dies down.
2) If you get scared that you are preggers, that can cause a lower libido. We had a few scares a while back. Like, she was 10 days late. We were both freaking the hell out. That was another major factor.
But she bought the p90x dvd's and it seems to be working great. I'm also working out hardcore so that maybe I'll be more sexually appealing to her and hopefully that will help too. She has already said that she can tell her libido's back, because she is always day dreaming about doing things with me now.
Who knows, maybe she'll finally realize that what she has been doing has been really hard on me and give in. If not.....well the idk.
