i have nothing left now.....
i have nothing left now.....
my fiancee of three and a half years decided to leave me a few days ago and i don't know what to do. she doesn't even want to talk to me. i feel soo alone in this world right now. i don't know what to do.
you still have your car 
too damn young to be getting married, wait at least 7 or 8 years for that crap, Im sure theres gonna be plenty of women in this world that will love to kick you in the balls just like this one did. That's life. Sorry to hear about that, but if you ask me if girls just get up and leave like that then they think they must've found something better so chances are shes been screwing around behind your back for some time.
how do you know i am too young? but, i did hurt her alot. not by cheating on her but in verbal ways. but we we moving to atl and i actually did and she does this so now i am stuck here, just got a place, dont know a soul, and feel all alone. if i even get emotional when i call her she hangs up. which is pretty funny cause she always complained about me not showing my feelings. the hardest part is that i am stuck here now and people here aren't the friendly people i am used to and i don't know anyone and i am a timid enough person as it is.
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nametakennow
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Everyone thinks people cheat all the time. I think it's bs. But here's my take on everything:
Yeah, she was great. Yep, you're gonna miss her. Yep, it's gonna hurt. There are more where she came from. It'll eat at you from time to time for a while. How long? I don't know, but a long time. Find something to escape to when it hurts, find some good friends who always have your back, and find a rebound fling (IF, and ONLY IF that's your thing... if not, DON'T do it.... as bad as it sounds, it really can be nice to have). She was ready to move on, so whether you are ready or not, you have to. It sucks, but life has equilibrium, everything balances in the end.
edit: Atl people are great, you just have to find the right ones. Lemme clarify: most ATL people do suck, but there are some absolutely wonderful people down here, I promise. I've been here nearly 17 years and it took me a while, but I've found a small group of the most amazing people.
Go for a good drive man, it's like morphine for the soul.
Yeah, she was great. Yep, you're gonna miss her. Yep, it's gonna hurt. There are more where she came from. It'll eat at you from time to time for a while. How long? I don't know, but a long time. Find something to escape to when it hurts, find some good friends who always have your back, and find a rebound fling (IF, and ONLY IF that's your thing... if not, DON'T do it.... as bad as it sounds, it really can be nice to have). She was ready to move on, so whether you are ready or not, you have to. It sucks, but life has equilibrium, everything balances in the end.
edit: Atl people are great, you just have to find the right ones. Lemme clarify: most ATL people do suck, but there are some absolutely wonderful people down here, I promise. I've been here nearly 17 years and it took me a while, but I've found a small group of the most amazing people.
Go for a good drive man, it's like morphine for the soul.
I looked at the birthdate and it said 1983 so you're 21, I think much too young to be getting married. I don't know how many of you guys feel like that but I've had my share of these stories happen to me so I guess I kinda got a little bit immune to them. Im a much more defensive guy right now then I used to be when it comes to my feelings. Sorry if I sound harsh but I look at the facts, you're young, and there are alot of women in this country I know we have an obesity problem so most of them tend to be fat so you can travel the world and get yourself and import if thats your fancy. Another thing is it's ok to be down right now and sad, take a few weeks but please do yourself a favor and don't waste too much time on it, life is very short, and it would be a shame wasting it in that way. Also alot of the guys who Im friends with made this same mistake over and over, at some point the would get back with the girl that walked out on them the 1st time thinking it would be different but truth is its never the same and so far this has a 100% failure rate as far as my life and my close friends go. But hey it's your life.
i work from sun up to sun down. i may make damn good money for it to but this isn't a job for someone who is looking for someone. and like i siad, i am a very timid person. i came to atl to settle down and have a family and a career. i didn't come down here to be alone. i have tried to meet up with nico people a couple times since i came here but we never end up getting together for one reason or another. all my friends live 300+ miles away. shoot, it would take me three months of pay to get out of all my leases and such just to go home.
Yes very different. I was up there I think during Spring Break. And they were very Christian too. My friend went into a gas station to buy a condom for her gf and they didn't even have one. When he walked out, people inside were staring at him, and one woman was staring at me, thought we were gay partners, but actually we were just best friends and his gf was back at the hotel with our other best friend. :\
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nametakennow
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Whoa, I went through EXACTLY the same thing, several years ago. I feel your pain, and I know you're hurting because I remember how bad I felt. There is no quick fix, and everything you do or think about will remind you of her or make you think about her.
About your job, "not for someone looking for someone" I understand that too. In fact your whole story is almost identical to mine. I still think about those times and it makes me very angry. The only thing that got me through those hard times was my job, where I could physically exhaust myself, come home and work out(since there was no longer a female to take up my time) and then pass out and hope for death. I used to drink, I remember my kitchen being completely full of beer cans and bottles, stacked/tossed everywhere. I decided it was time to buy a bike and start cheating death. I rode at 180mph on my friend's Gixer and I thought of her and wished that if I died, she'd be sorry for leaving me.....I tried a lot of scary stunts on the freeways, and I raced whatever I had the keys to(large portions of my day I test drive people's cars, you see).
Somehow I knew not to push too far though... I guess I can thank good parenting for that. I knew there were limits. So, I never touched illegal drugs, never shot & killed my ex and her new b/f, although I did imagine how good/bad/wrong/justified it might feel.... and eventually, after a lot of boose, a lot of foolishness at high speeds, a lot of stupidity out in public, I finally calmed down, or at least accepted the fact that she was gone and it was time to move on and stop torturing myself.
In the end, I was in better shape, because I had all this freetime to work out, I was doing better at my job, willing to start early and stay late and work 12's, I learned that I don't really like to get totally ****faced drunk, and I learned to ride a mean wheelie at freeways speeds. Then I met an 18yr old Asian girl..
About your job, "not for someone looking for someone" I understand that too. In fact your whole story is almost identical to mine. I still think about those times and it makes me very angry. The only thing that got me through those hard times was my job, where I could physically exhaust myself, come home and work out(since there was no longer a female to take up my time) and then pass out and hope for death. I used to drink, I remember my kitchen being completely full of beer cans and bottles, stacked/tossed everywhere. I decided it was time to buy a bike and start cheating death. I rode at 180mph on my friend's Gixer and I thought of her and wished that if I died, she'd be sorry for leaving me.....I tried a lot of scary stunts on the freeways, and I raced whatever I had the keys to(large portions of my day I test drive people's cars, you see).
Somehow I knew not to push too far though... I guess I can thank good parenting for that. I knew there were limits. So, I never touched illegal drugs, never shot & killed my ex and her new b/f, although I did imagine how good/bad/wrong/justified it might feel.... and eventually, after a lot of boose, a lot of foolishness at high speeds, a lot of stupidity out in public, I finally calmed down, or at least accepted the fact that she was gone and it was time to move on and stop torturing myself.
In the end, I was in better shape, because I had all this freetime to work out, I was doing better at my job, willing to start early and stay late and work 12's, I learned that I don't really like to get totally ****faced drunk, and I learned to ride a mean wheelie at freeways speeds. Then I met an 18yr old Asian girl..