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Yeah, definitely come down here for the July 3rd meet... I need something to get my mind of **** too, though nowhere near as worthy of venting about as your's, so I'm pretty sure I'll be there July 3rd...


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you're single and in atlanta...trust me, you'll get over her.

-demetrius

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Sorry to hear about your trouble. You'll get over it eventually I promise. And btw, get AIM...it's free. :D

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JayPat83
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and i'll keep repeating to others, i may be in this place with lots of beautiful people but i am shy in nature. i have never persued, only been persued.

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JayPat83 wrote:i have never persued, only been persued.
and trust me, you will be persued ;) .

-demetrius

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get out and meet some people, go to a local hangout place like starbucks or where ever and just make some friends

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i tried for the past two weekends. i even started a thread about people down here and their clicks. it seems that it would be hard to get into them.

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if anyone would like to get in touch with me email me at [email protected]

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I actually kinda wish that my former girlfriend had cheated on me and made me really mad. At least it wouldn't leave me with any regrets about tossing her to the curb.... I ended up breaking up with her due to family issues with her rather than one-on-one personal issues. It really left much to be desired, but at least I get along with my family much better now.. she was asian too :(

Anyway, the point is, maybe you can use the fact that she's not worth your time to help you get over her. good luck

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id like an asian g/f

nametakennow
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JayPat83 wrote:i have never persued, only been persued.


Dude, who the hell do you know? I always have to pursue, it sucks.

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same here... sucks

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Alright, ATL folks - Go take JP out and show him a good time.

You always have your NICO brothers.

Hang in there - We've all been through it, and while it hurts now, it'll make you stronger and a better person. Be safe.

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JayPat83
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i was just looking over the letters from like a year ago and two from just last month. man it hurts losing the only thing that matters or has mattered in my life.

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Ouch, I feel ya... I had to shred all the notes my exgf gave me a couple weeks ago when my mom found them (OUCH!)... that was 20 minutes of brutal memories....

edit: I had meant to chuck them in a dumpster one day when I was out, but never remembered to do it...

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dont look through that stuff that will make you sad and depressed.

do some stuff that will make you happy for a while, for me i like to work on my car, even if it is running perfectly, make somthing to do, pull your spark plugs or somthing, thats what i do.

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i wish there was something someone could say that would just make me instantly get over this!

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The ATL girls will deftnately show you a good time. They aint in all those Lli' John and Ludacris videos for nothin. You may be a bit shy, but try to overcome that. If that dont work, maybe we can set up a NICO dating service where our NICO brothers could help find you a date. Who knows? Just dont sit around and let the time fly by. Find something to keep your mind off of her and move on.

Why'd she leave you anyway?

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getting over these things takes time, but you can make it easier by meeting new people and doing things that take your mind off of it.

seriously, if your ever in the area, tell me and we can meet up or somthing

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I'll give it my best shot.... The ***** wasn't worth your time...

Imagine if you did marry her and she ran out on you after you guys really did start a life together. You should be glad that she showed her true colors before it was too late. Be angry. Be sad. Scream in a pillow. Cry. Break things. Just get over her. Use the energy that you would be spending thinking of her on something constructive. Start working out if you haven't done so yet. If you have, make it more rigorous. After you grow up more, you'll be wishing you hadn't wasted so much time.

Sadly, you can't instantly get over things like this.. it usually doesnt work like that.. they go through the grieving(sp?) process.

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true. i guess we'll have to see about the july 3rd event. jdmfreak03, i don't know.

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Not to make you feel worse, but are you SURE she's the only thing that means anything to you? Because that's unhealthy.

People are fallible and flawed, bad idea to put ALL your trust in one.

p.s. Good advice from ^.

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Dude, you gonna have to cheer up. I cant really say I understand. I am sort of one of those cold hearted persons. Never been in love. What is that saying, "better to have loved and lost, than never to loved at all." At least you know the feeling.

Anyway, it may be a long drive for you, but the Carolina crews are putting together a meet on July 31st. I think it is going to be somewhere in South Carolina. We hadn't really decided on an exact location. We have a thread in the 240sx general section and a link to it in the meets section.

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Actually.... in some ways it's better to never have loved at all. Loved and lost SUCKS cause you're always subconsciously (or consciously) comparing everyone to the lost...

Oh, and yeah, it's not a good idea to look at the old stuff... just throw it all in a corner til you're mentally ready to deal with throwing it away.

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Man, that sucks. But remember, ya gotta keep on keepin' on. I wish you the best of luck and hope you meet that girl of your dreams. Or maybe she'll meet you! Look forward to the days ahead of you and get out and DO something. Or someone... :naughty

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Yea put it in the stuff from the past in a part of your house that you least visit.

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JayPat83,

I remember my very first love/girlfriend during high school when I was 17. We went out for what seemed to be the longest year of my life. I thought we would end up dating for the longest time and maybe perhaps one day get married and have cute, adorable, beautiful children. Boy was I wrong. Eventually she broke up with me so she could date Mr. SCA President AKA the most popular guy in school. Maybe Filipina girls go through a I-wanna-date-a-white-guy-with-absolute-power-over-every-social-status-in-high-school-phase. Anyways I was crushed. Heartbroken. My grades started to slip and I was so depressed that thoughts of suicide and other crazy things did cross my mind. But then I thought about my friends and family who loved and cared about me. Of course reflecting back I was being a young, stupid, and unfocused child, but I turned my grades around and graduated with honors. Wo0t.

It's crazy how life deals you certain cards you just don't wanna deal with, but I think God never gives us more than we can handle until...

..Recently, I lost my father [he was only 49 years old] almost a month ago as he passed away at Portsmouth Naval Hospital, May 24,2004 due to a string of complications including diabetes, Sepsis syndrome (bacteria in the blood), and a hemorrhage in the brain from a major heart attack. He retired from the Navy in 1998 as a Chief Petty Officer(E-7). From that point in time he had been trying to work hard from job and job, putting food on the table, put me through college, and raise his two sons (me and my 13 year old little brother Richard) ever since my parents divorced a while back. Anyways, myself being only 20 years old, I was forced to grow up ridiculously within the past couple weeks taking care of many things that a 30 year old man would normally do. You guys can see PictureS from the Funeral Mass on my XANGA or read about my experiences on ROROKIDS.

Point being...

BRO. Although I have not been through the same situation as you have experienced, I definitely DO feel for you about losing someone who you were so close with and loved very much. My only regret is that my relationship with my father slowly declined over the years.

Sometimes I wish I had a wifey-type girlfriend just to talk to at depressing moments like these, but I asked myself the question do I really need one right now? No. I realized that's the last thing in the world I should be worrying about when I know I have to concentrate on finishing college ( which I'm already behind in credits), working part-time at this networking consulting firm I got picked up at after high school, and maybe later putting my little brother though college in 4 or 5 years time.

To get rid of that depressed/lonely feeling, that's why I got back into hobbies and things that made me happy or held my interests and keeps me busy. Video games. Anime. Working on the '92 240 I just bought. I'm so sorry if it seems like I've gone off tangent a couple times there's just so many things running through my mind now.

I'm so sorry your close friends and family are 300+ miles away from you dood. Perhaps you should network. Meet people. Nice people. People that will raise your spirits or that share your common interests. Use the 240 forums. Use http://www.myspace.com or http://www.friendster.com. If you're the type that likes to type or write maybe you should start a journal or web blog. Working out at the gym or around the house really helps out a lot to keep your mind off things or to blow off some steam. It does help for me. I've been to Georgia before a long time ago, but no where near ATL. It seems to be a pretty big city. I'm sure there is at least some great individuals that are willing to be your friend man.

As for me I'm really really really grateful to Team Pwncaeks, especially Zach (BoyWonder), Blake (SeVa-S13), Rob ([ZERO-S]), and Weion (anumeric) for taking me under their wings. I've gotten to know them all personally and they really are a great group to kick it with.

I know it's going to be VERY extremely difficult trying not to think about her dood I know, but at least try to move on. Life is too short. Most of the other guys that previously posted already gave some pretty sound advice. If you ever need someone to talk to on AIM if you ever get AIM (LOL) it is: VIDEOGAMEZNANIME and my e-mail is [email protected]

I hope some of my usless bantering and ranting makes you somewhat better.

GOD BLESS AND TAKE CARE.

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dude aren;t you like 21-22 years old? Jesus christ, I am not going to EVEN think about marriage intill I atlEAST 28-30.. anything before that, will fail unless.... well tis works out. Most of the time, before 28, you ar enot READY to settle. All well, I hope things work for you and if you want to meet people, go to a comunity college or something..

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this is the last email i sent to her

ok, so weve done the dirty deed and broke up. so where do we go from here? i would like to hope that we BOTH still love eachother. while there is not much hope in salvaging the relationship right now, i sometimes find myself thinking about how much i would like for it to start again some day for us no matter how long it may be. i don't know where to start or even if it is possible. how and where did it go wrong? there is alot of resentment between us and i wonder how we let it go this far to the ultimate end. everyone makes mistakes and does things in life in general that they regret. what i know now is that once the mistakes start happening humans have a natural inclination, had to look that one up, to cover their tracks. we do this with dishonesty, lies, and things we don't even really mean when we say them. i started feeling guilty inside, for the way i was making you feel, and for some reason i couldn't myself do anything to change those feelings. *sentence omitted* i'll come out and say that i don't think that we were ready. that might have been the first mistake in our relationship. from there we just let it go from good to bad. other mistakes were the snippy remarks we might have made, i more than you, hurtfull things. i'm not a perfect person, there are many things i wish i didn't do. but i continued learning, i NEVER mean't to do those this to you. i just want you to know that i've found a reason for me to change who i was. well, that would be you. i am sorry that I hurt you, all the pain i put you through, it will be something i have to live with everyday. i wish i could take that all away and be the one that is there for you to catch all of those tears you have been crying. you have given me a reason to show this new side of me that really nither of us knew. i hope it doesn't fade away cause i like having him around, and being able to express myself in words that are more peaceful than violent. i did blame you for too much. really, probably nothing was really able to be pinned soley on either of us but for some sutpid reason i did. the first thing we need to do is realize that there was a time that we loved eachother and that we were in-love. think back to the first time we each realized we had romantic feelings for eachother. how our hearts actually skipped a beat whenever we saw eachother or even thought of eachother. i know it did for me. they say to realize that at one stage in our time together there was some long lasting happiness. they say if you can even remember some of those times it might be worth trying to save and salvage someting. i have a huge part to play in this. i realize that now. but i do need for you to somehow, someday trust my sincerity i now have. there are alot of things i am ashamed of. maybe if you would like to ask me someday about those things i could let you know about them more. i am taking full responsibility for my actions in our relationship. i'd like a chance oneday to make it up to you. that will be up to you though. i obviously can't make you do anything you don't want to. i just wish i had a chance to take you out on a special date/dinner to show to you how i feel and to try to clear the air between us. maybe, at the very least, part as friends. it is up to us to sit down and discuss wether or not we have any possibility of a future together. i don't want to rush things. you say you need to trust me, and i want you to trust me. but right now you can't. trust can take a long time to come back, if ever. i guess i want to make this appeal to you and to your heart cause if i don't now i probably wouldn't have a chance to later. that is almost how this feels, like you are the judge and jury and the you are having to decide my fate. what else can i do? who knows? please get back to me Heather. i will be waiting. P.S. i hope none of this was hurtfull or inapropriaete.

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man, you're still 20.

it ain't gonna be easy, but just roll on, you still gotta a lot of life left. see and experience life and the world.

what happens will happen. put your fate in your own hands.


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