JayPat83,
I remember my very first love/girlfriend during high school when I was 17. We went out for what seemed to be the longest year of my life. I thought we would end up dating for the longest time and maybe perhaps one day get married and have cute, adorable, beautiful children. Boy was I wrong. Eventually she broke up with me so she could date Mr. SCA President AKA the most popular guy in school. Maybe Filipina girls go through a I-wanna-date-a-white-guy-with-absolute-power-over-every-social-status-in-high-school-phase. Anyways I was crushed. Heartbroken. My grades started to slip and I was so depressed that thoughts of suicide and other crazy things did cross my mind. But then I thought about my friends and family who loved and cared about me. Of course reflecting back I was being a young, stupid, and unfocused child, but I turned my grades around and graduated with honors. Wo0t.
It's crazy how life deals you certain cards you just don't wanna deal with, but I think God never gives us more than we can handle until...
..Recently, I lost my father [he was only 49 years old] almost a month ago as he passed away at Portsmouth Naval Hospital, May 24,2004 due to a string of complications including diabetes, Sepsis syndrome (bacteria in the blood), and a hemorrhage in the brain from a major heart attack. He retired from the Navy in 1998 as a Chief Petty Officer(E-7). From that point in time he had been trying to work hard from job and job, putting food on the table, put me through college, and raise his two sons (me and my 13 year old little brother Richard) ever since my parents divorced a while back. Anyways, myself being only 20 years old, I was forced to grow up ridiculously within the past couple weeks taking care of many things that a 30 year old man would normally do. You guys can see PictureS from the Funeral Mass on my XANGA or read about my experiences on ROROKIDS.
Point being...
BRO. Although I have not been through the same situation as you have experienced, I definitely DO feel for you about losing someone who you were so close with and loved very much. My only regret is that my relationship with my father slowly declined over the years.
Sometimes I wish I had a wifey-type girlfriend just to talk to at depressing moments like these, but I asked myself the question do I really need one right now? No. I realized that's the last thing in the world I should be worrying about when I know I have to concentrate on finishing college ( which I'm already behind in credits), working part-time at this networking consulting firm I got picked up at after high school, and maybe later putting my little brother though college in 4 or 5 years time.
To get rid of that depressed/lonely feeling, that's why I got back into hobbies and things that made me happy or held my interests and keeps me busy. Video games. Anime. Working on the '92 240 I just bought. I'm so sorry if it seems like I've gone off tangent a couple times there's just so many things running through my mind now.
I'm so sorry your close friends and family are 300+ miles away from you dood. Perhaps you should network. Meet people. Nice people. People that will raise your spirits or that share your common interests. Use the 240 forums. Use
http://www.myspace.com or
http://www.friendster.com. If you're the type that likes to type or write maybe you should start a journal or web blog. Working out at the gym or around the house really helps out a lot to keep your mind off things or to blow off some steam. It does help for me. I've been to Georgia before a long time ago, but no where near ATL. It seems to be a pretty big city. I'm sure there is at least some great individuals that are willing to be your friend man.
As for me I'm really really really grateful to Team Pwncaeks, especially Zach (BoyWonder), Blake (SeVa-S13), Rob ([ZERO-S]), and Weion (anumeric) for taking me under their wings. I've gotten to know them all personally and they really are a great group to kick it with.
I know it's going to be VERY extremely difficult trying not to think about her dood I know, but at least try to move on. Life is too short. Most of the other guys that previously posted already gave some pretty sound advice. If you ever need someone to talk to on AIM if you ever get AIM (LOL) it is: VIDEOGAMEZNANIME and my e-mail is
[email protected]
I hope some of my usless bantering and ranting makes you somewhat better.
GOD BLESS AND TAKE CARE.