How did you pop the question?

[Bubba1]

Never put a time limit on life.

So true.

[AZhitman]

You are a MUCH better man than I am. She could be the most awesome, amazing, wonderful person, but if I get scared to see her nekked, it's not going to work.

Then you're screwed in about 10 years.

Besides, that works both ways... poor gal.

[nissangirl74]

Being grossly overweight, *usually* is because of laziness and gluttony.

I have put on 18 pounds since I met greg. Think he should put me out to the curb?

[S13_love]

So true.

x2

[Beancooker]

I feel like I'm the fish, and there is a bigass hook with some tasty bait...

Quick reply, whatever makes you and Greg happy, is your business. If you two would be happy having to ride around on "Lil Rascals" because you couldn't walk from the couch to the kitchen, and are weighing in at half a ton, then I am happy for you both.

I never really "checked you out" before or after you gained 18 pounds. My wife is 5'2" and weighs just a hair over 100 lbs. If she gained 18 pounds it would be quite noticeable. I wouldn't put her "on the curb", nor would I have to. Our feelings toward health and looking attractive for each other is mutual.

Apple summed it up perfectly when he said this:

My guess is we would have already divorced. It has nothing to do with the appearance side of things either. I generally enjoy eating healthy, going to the gym and being active. If my (hypothetical) wife let herself go and gained that much weight, we would be rapidly drifting apart. It's pretty hard to have a functional relationship without common interests, and most of my interests would be hard to maintain completely out of shape...

[Bubba1]

Seriously, I wouldn't let it get that out of hand. As the weight started to gain, to the gym we would go. In the amount of time it would take to add on that much weight, she would know it would turn me away.

Here is where I will start to get flamed...

Being grossly overweight, *usually* is because of laziness and gluttony.

I am a fairly small framed guy. I put on a ton of muscle. I quit working out and started to get fat (10 pounds overweight) 4 years later. I was so disgusted with how I looked, I stopped overeating. I may have been a little hungry sometimes, but I like to see my 6-pack, not a fat belly.

So if she started to pile on the pounds, and didn't feel like working it off, didn't want medical help, didn't want to talk to a doctor about depression causing her to overeat, didn't want to stop the unhealthy habits, then we would have grown apart, and it would be time for us to end it anyways.

Beansie, there's nothing wrong with that position, it just means you place a higher priority on physical appearance than other folks. There are many women who feel the same way about appearance as you. But you are wrong about the gluttony and laziness usually being the cause for obesity. Add in stressful careers, long commutes, medications, late dinners, lack of time to spend at the gym, childcare, eldercare, travelling, etc. all contribute to weight gain as well.

Fortunately for me, my wife doesn't feel the same as you about appearance as I have a case (where you have a 6 pack) . For the record, I've begun to address that.

[nissangirl74]

I feel like I'm the fish, and there is a bigass hook with some tasty bait...

I'm not hanging you out to dry, I swear. I just knew you would give me an honest answer. The primary reason I gained the weight was because my thyroid decided to take a s*** and slow WAY down. Another reason is I LOVE to eat. As I have gotten older, my metabolism slowed way the hell down too so that didn't help.

For what it's worth, I'm working on it.

[Beancooker]

I don't mean it in a bad way, and I know that it doesn't apply to everyone.

But it amazes me that the office at work is full of really hefty women, who complain about their weight all the time. They have all sorts of weight loss challenges, are always high-fiveing each other when they spend 1/2 an hour at the gym.

I think that is great. It's a great way to get on the right track...

But... Then after a week of all this hard work, they decide to reward themselves and have a pizza party, or get a round of Double 1/4 pounder meals supersized with a shake.

Your average (not all) American that is overweight, is so because of choice. Look at the fast food restaurants. Who is in line? The majority are not the skinny people.

I understand that stressful careers, long commutes, medications, late dinners, lack of time to spend at the gym, childcare, elder care, traveling, all add to the situation.

But what about taking the time spent while watching TV, and doing a little exercise? Hell, just do push ups and jumping jacks during the commercials. You would be surprised at how much exercise you can get in during commercial time.

Late meals... Don't eat as much. Plain and simple. If your body is storing fat, your intake is probably a little more than needed.

I realize that is the hardest thing. I am a lean guy. I have been able to eat anything I like, and as much of it, all my life with no consequences. Now that I'm getting older, I have to watch how much I eat. It also means that after I eat dinner, I am hungry sometimes. That sucks. But I am also giving my body more than enough food to healthily sustain itself. I just stretched my stomach enoiugh that when I should feel full, I still feel hungry.

[Bubba1]

. As I have gotten older, my metabolism slowed way the hell down too so that didn't help.

.

Yep, same thing happened to me when I hit 40. Metabolism slowed way down.Beans, you have much to look forward to....

[Beancooker]

Yep, same thing happened to me when I hit 40. Metabolism slowed way down.Beans, you have much to look forward to....

It's already happened. I have taken a completely different approach to it. I have to watch what I eat now. More veggies, lean meat and less pasta. I had to cut back on all of the stuff I really enjoy. Pasta and cheese are my two favorite things in life. That's like candy to me. I had to trade them in for chicken and broccoli. I get pasta with cheese once a week, if I have watched what else I have eaten all week. If I haven't cut back a little bit all week, no pasta and cheese. I don't get to eat half a pie for dessert. I have to make a pint of ice cream last two weeks, not 10 minutes. I had to change my entire diet. No more fast food. My daily "fru fru faggy espresso drink" is not daily, or 16 ounces. It's an 8 ounce and only once in a while. Plus if I drink that, I owe myself 100 push-ups and 30 minutes on the Gazelle. (yes, the God damned Gazelle) I can't run because of terrible knees and ankles.

So yeah, I do have a lot to look forward to. New challenges and goals. It's all part of life.

Speaking of which, it's about time for a chicken salad sandwich and some fruit.

[Empty V]

Yep, same thing happened to me when I hit 40. Metabolism slowed way down.Beans, you have much to look forward to....

40? Damn! I'm going to hit 30 in a few weeks and my metabolism came to a screeching halt about 5 years ago. 6 weeks ago I booked tickets for the wife and I to head out to Puerto Rico for a 3 year overdue honeymoon. At that point we decided it's time to change our lifestyles, we need to get in shape. I joined this program called Crossfit which has helped me undergo a complete reformation. Working out 3-5 times a week hardcore military style, new lo-carb/no-starch diet and improved sleeping habits. I've been getting compliments weekly by people I haven't mentioned my reformation to and feel better then I've ever felt. Hopefully in the next 4 months my keg will dwindle down to a 6-pack. Ohh yeah I had a few frito scoops just now and they were amazing! First slip up of the week. I try to eat ultra healthy 6 days a week and one day eat starches and carbs.

[Bmore-coupe]

40? Damn! I'm going to hit 30 in a few weeks and my metabolism came to a screeching halt about 5 years ago.

mine was at about 24-25

[AZhitman]

It's already happened. I have taken a completely different approach to it. I have to watch what I eat now. More veggies, lean meat and less pasta. I had to cut back on all of the stuff I really enjoy. Pasta and cheese are my two favorite things in life. That's like candy to me. I had to trade them in for chicken and broccoli. I get pasta with cheese once a week, if I have watched what else I have eaten all week. If I haven't cut back a little bit all week, no pasta and cheese. I don't get to eat half a pie for dessert. I have to make a pint of ice cream last two weeks, not 10 minutes. I had to change my entire diet. No more fast food. My daily "fru fru faggy espresso drink" is not daily, or 16 ounces. It's an 8 ounce and only once in a while. Plus if I drink that, I owe myself 100 push-ups and 30 minutes on the Gazelle. (yes, the God damned Gazelle) I can't run because of terrible knees and ankles.

So yeah, I do have a lot to look forward to. New challenges and goals. It's all part of life.

Speaking of which, it's about time for a chicken salad sandwich and some fruit.

psssst.... no one cares about your pale hairless belly.

More proposal stories, you guys take notes!

[dusred]

Never put a time limit on life.

You have much to learn young grasshopper!

Maybe in 7-8 years if Nico is still around I'll give you guys my story but until then you old timers have the floor.

[nissangirl74]

Maybe in 7-8 years if Nico is still around I'll give you guys my story but until then you old timers have the floor.

We'll still be here. You'd better be too!

You have lots of time before you have to worry about serious relationships. Have some fun first!

[Bubba1]

mine was at about 24-25

newsflash. It slows down again when you hit in your 40's. Tuck that tidbit away until then... .

[PoorManQ45]

Sorry guys, but Ozzie blew all of you out of the water

[Bubba1]

Sorry guys, but Ozzie blew all of you out of the water

[PoorManQ45]

It's easier if i just post a link to the thread I created ages ago about it.

zerothread?id=341435

That to me is the ultimate story!

[Bubba1]

That to me is the ultimate story!

Wow.

[Ozzie]

Thank-you!