I am considering a friend. Well she's my closest female friend.
Ive known her since I was in 4th grade but we didnt start talking till 8th grade. We talked so much that my friends though we were the perfect couple. Then there was the 8th grade 6 Flags trip. I played her "pretend boyfriend" so that all these grubby guys stop hitting on her. It was a fun day. Then on the bus ride home, while all my other friends were messin around, we fell asleep with our heads leaning on each other. They got a pic. And she though we looked "cute" together.
On to summer vacation. We talked every day(At least 2 hours throughout the day). The time came that she made her annual week long trip to Georgia. When she came back, she ended telling me that she has a new b/f in Georgia. I still talked to her though and I was there when they broke up(predicted it'll be quick) Since she was feelin down, I took her along to a family outing at a small amusement park. Any1 thats seen us together, though we were cute. OK.
9th grade...Well more of the same until about mid school year. Then it slowed down. Since her sister(senior) was somewhat popular, it made it easier for her to fit in with the older kids. I was only popular with the 9th graders. More guys were tryin to get with her so I backed off. By the time the summer vacation came, I had basically broke off all contact with her. We only talked every once in a while. Then I stopped calling completely.
10th grade...Had a b/f and was pretty serious, while I was racking up the female friends. Didnt talk all year except in school. I had Spanish class with her. She would always ask me silly questions about her body. One day she was like, "Are my tits too small" I replied,"No they suit your figure just fine." Later on in the class(Mostly freshman), outta no where, she starts rubbing her boobs. Me and this freshman started laughin. Shee started laughing and then stopped feelin herself. Odd? Yes Fun to watch? Yes.
11th..We began to talk more. Her relationship was off/on. I still didnt call her till about a week and a half ago. Im supposed to take her out to lunch next week. Since I didnt bring her along(didnt feel like driving to her house) when I went to lunch with two my good friends(Needed some guy time since we hardly go out together at the same time). Why? IDK. I also sense that she's droppin hints. She keeps asking me if I found a girl yet. Then I ask her if she knows any1, but she always says no. I have sworn off girlfriends for 4 years and passed up MANY opportunities with plenty of girls for the fact that they are money pits and problematic. I might end that promise to myself now. She used to have a NICE arse(many of you know that's what I like), but for some reason it got a lil smaller. It doesnt bother me though. I make fun of her all the time. "HAHA! your *** is shrinking." Oh well....What will I do. She's definately hot, but IDK if I should. If she is waiting for me, then I know I dont have much time. Still though. Do I really wanna? Ill figure it out next week.
One MAJOR problem is that Im used to having A LOT of female friends. Im really gonna miss the hugs and kisses. Oh and the friends with benifits. No more of that. Id just have end it all cold turkey.
WHAT TO DO. WHAT TO DO....
Compatible-YESNice-YES(At times, but who isnt)Attractive-YESIntelligent-YES(Doesnt always show it)Confident-YES(A whole lotta that ****)
All in all she's a 4-4.5. Maybe a 3.8 on a bad day
Hmmmm.......
woman and me... why woman don't like me or other
Quote »One MAJOR problem is that Im used to having A LOT of female friends. Im really gonna miss the hugs and kisses. Oh and the friends with benifits. No more of that. Id just have end it all cold turkey. [/quote]Here's what'll happen, trust me, first hand experience, one of them will be interested for about 10 minutes then you get all confused. Go with the one whom you think is right. Probably the chick you've known for a long long time. Secondly, get with her because you'll never know the sweet without the sour (Bam, copyrighted material). Then when you guys break up in a while, you'll grow more as a person.
Well Im not lookin for a relationship with any girls. As one of my friends stated, "Why dont you get a girl? YOU KNOW JUST ABOUT EVERY ****IN GIRL IN THE DAMN SCHOOL!!!" True. And the good part is that I have a good or close relationship with most. Some have boyfriends(Jealous since they think Im hittin on their girl when Im not). Most girls dont want to even talk to me at first. Since Im a 6ft, 250lb(75% solid), black guy, I guess they get scared by my facial expression(Tired/annoyed/angry). Once they get to know you its a TOTALLY different world.
Im not a ladies man in any way. I just know how to deal with them. There's something about me(I have no clue what) that the girls like once they met me. Eventually you learn the things they want(Helps out A LOT). From there, ther possibilities are endless.
Hoped that helped.
Im not a ladies man in any way. I just know how to deal with them. There's something about me(I have no clue what) that the girls like once they met me. Eventually you learn the things they want(Helps out A LOT). From there, ther possibilities are endless.
Hoped that helped.
Sircnay wrote:Here's what'll happen, trust me, first hand experience, one of them will be interested for about 10 minutes then you get all confused. Go with the one whom you think is right. Probably the chick you've known for a long long time. Secondly, get with her because you'll never know the sweet without the sour (Bam, copyrighted material). Then when you guys break up in a while, you'll grow more as a person.
The thing is that after a year the ones that havent moved on(The ones with "benifits") are still interested. That could mean trouble if they dont back down. The other girls(including the ones with b/fs) all share a special bond with me. I want to keep that bond, but it'll be hard if I had a girl.
1) I cant have any girls coming up and giving me hugs and whatnot.2) I cant be their shoulder to cry on anymore3) I can still give relationship advice, but the time I spent talking to them will be cut down4) Some depend on me to protect them from some guy(pretend to be their b/f of threaten/scare the guys) 5) I help solve a lot of problems6) I generally feel comfortable around them
Thats just some of the problem. Im like a semi b/f for some and a VERY close friend to others.
All that will be gone. I can still do some of those things to a certain extent, but knowing her, that'll still ba a problem.
Oh well I got a week and a half till school starts and during that time, Ill probably decide.
Just don't turn into a stool *****. You sound like you're an intellectual whore. That's that one thing girls find about you that they like. They can treat you to be their little intellectual whore. Get FAR FAR away from that. TRUST ME.
I was exactly like that. I knew EVERY girl in the school, we were all friends and such. I had 1 girlfriend in highschool, ended up bad. Now I'm out of highschool and have a relationship with this GREAT wonderful girl who IS in highschool. Her friends are envious of her ("Ooh! You're dating a college boy!") and I can/do trust her. Our relationship is storybook perfect... which scares me because that just means its gonna go downhill and when it reaches the bottom, one of us is gonna be dead/hospitalized/jail.
What you need to do is get away from being the shoulder. They'll get used to that and that's ALL they'll use you for. Then later your chances will be ruined FOREVAARRRR!!!!!oneoeneneleveonhundredeleven
Get a girl, preferably with at least a 3/5 on Jesda's scale. Stick with it, grow with the relationship and when its over find another one until you find that 5/5, marry her, have a family, live happily ever after then send me $10,000 for helping you in life.
I was exactly like that. I knew EVERY girl in the school, we were all friends and such. I had 1 girlfriend in highschool, ended up bad. Now I'm out of highschool and have a relationship with this GREAT wonderful girl who IS in highschool. Her friends are envious of her ("Ooh! You're dating a college boy!") and I can/do trust her. Our relationship is storybook perfect... which scares me because that just means its gonna go downhill and when it reaches the bottom, one of us is gonna be dead/hospitalized/jail.
What you need to do is get away from being the shoulder. They'll get used to that and that's ALL they'll use you for. Then later your chances will be ruined FOREVAARRRR!!!!!oneoeneneleveonhundredeleven
Get a girl, preferably with at least a 3/5 on Jesda's scale. Stick with it, grow with the relationship and when its over find another one until you find that 5/5, marry her, have a family, live happily ever after then send me $10,000 for helping you in life.
Sircnay wrote:Just don't turn into a stool *****. You sound like you're an intellectual whore. That's that one thing girls find about you that they like. They can treat you to be their little intellectual whore. Get FAR FAR away from that. TRUST ME.
I was exactly like that. I knew EVERY girl in the school, we were all friends and such. I had 1 girlfriend in highschool, ended up bad. Now I'm out of highschool and have a relationship with this GREAT wonderful girl who IS in highschool. Her friends are envious of her ("Ooh! You're dating a college boy!") and I can/do trust her. Our relationship is storybook perfect... which scares me because that just means its gonna go downhill and when it reaches the bottom, one of us is gonna be dead/hospitalized/jail.
What you need to do is get away from being the shoulder. They'll get used to that and that's ALL they'll use you for. Then later your chances will be ruined FOREVAARRRR!!!!!oneoeneneleveonhundredeleven
Get a girl, preferably with at least a 3/5 on Jesda's scale. Stick with it, grow with the relationship and when its over find another one until you find that 5/5, marry her, have a family, live happily ever after then send me $10,000 for helping you in life.
I see where you are coming from, but its a lil different situation with me. You see in 9th grade, I used to play this game to see how many girls I could be friends with/get close to. I know a lil shallow, but I was a freshman:). Anyway, it became a habit. Now Im used to having girls around me. I dont care about my 9th grade goal anymore. I just like havin them around.
They are also not using me for comfort. Although I do offer them comfort, I do it when ever I want. Im gonna say 60-75% of the time I will help, but at those other times I just try to ignore it. I can only take so many problems. Its the total opposite of your situation. I listen to them to learn more. And to build a relationship with them. Whether they think that they are using me or not I dont care. 75% of the time, its without problems. Just a normal Friend to friend relationship.
All Im saying is that I'll take time. I have a week and a half before school. NOT ENOUGH TIME to inform them all. BTW most of the girls know that Im holding out. I dont talk to most of them over the summer(Have the #s. Just dont call). So when I walk into school it'll be even worse since they havent seen me in a while.
I might go through with it though.
Jesda wrote:I have a habit lately of meeting a few wonderful girls, then pigeonholing them into the friend category. Why? I dont wanna lose them. Good women make good friends.
One of these days I need to stop doing that.
I guess, now that you mention it, Im kinda doin the same. I passed up all the opportunities, but in a way I wanna choose one of them since some are still waiting.
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Theres so many different ways its not even funny.
Me, I usually shoot for the smart girls that usually doesnt get much attention. A girl with some intelligence is one of the biggest turn ons for me. Somehow, by being myself, (if they make some sort of eye contact with me) I'll go and just talk to them, (im a junior in hs) a few of the times I'll just ask if I could get some help with what we're workin on (it's worked) and go from there. I haven't any odd stories or anything about how I get the females I do, but, for some reason it just works. I also shoot for girls that look too good for me, but having some confidence in myself I guess attracts them or something, so I'll end up with a phone # soon after (if at the mall/movies)
Well, my current gf, as some of you all know, was ( I moved about 3 miles away) my neighbor. I had been living there for 2 years and I had noticed her week I had moved in, but on until about April of this year is when I started talking to her. I became good friends with her lil bro , which, mainly consisted of just borrowing video games from e/o or something. He then invited me in to play some Halo. My gf (friend at the time) was also playing as well (shes really really good), so I of course could not pass up this golden oppurtunity to talk to her. She has a huge movie selection so it ended and we both share the same interest in allot of them, so we'd watch movies together. Well day, on the goverment twinky, she just grabs my hand and starts carressing it/playing with it, this of course sealed the deal for me, and that little move she did basically told me that I can take it a little further. Time passes (I'm going to her house every day btw, like, right next door, not a few houses down) and eventually, after allot of cuddling/holding hands during movies, w/e, shes just staring at me, we make out (kinda sloppy, me being her first bf/ first time shes kissed). I ask her out last day of school, at her house of course, and been together since. Heres some qualities I really like about her-Cheap, as in, we can do anything together and have fun doing so (she has a pool, xbox, ps2, air hockey table, *** load of movies)-Blonde hair, blue eyes, and very smart, really cute-32C-5'6"-She doesn't have too many friends (I'm the only person she has ever had spend a night-Her mom is bad ***, and lets me spend a night, I get to sleep with her on her bed:)-Mom looks good as well*edit: She likes offroading/big trucks, my attempts to convert her over to sport compacts have failed, but I did get her into liking the 00' Xterras (I dont have a clue about them) so, now she wants a black 5 spd, with black wheels and superswampers and other shiatand since I've already gotten sidetracked I'll end it here.
Me, I usually shoot for the smart girls that usually doesnt get much attention. A girl with some intelligence is one of the biggest turn ons for me. Somehow, by being myself, (if they make some sort of eye contact with me) I'll go and just talk to them, (im a junior in hs) a few of the times I'll just ask if I could get some help with what we're workin on (it's worked) and go from there. I haven't any odd stories or anything about how I get the females I do, but, for some reason it just works. I also shoot for girls that look too good for me, but having some confidence in myself I guess attracts them or something, so I'll end up with a phone # soon after (if at the mall/movies)
Well, my current gf, as some of you all know, was ( I moved about 3 miles away) my neighbor. I had been living there for 2 years and I had noticed her week I had moved in, but on until about April of this year is when I started talking to her. I became good friends with her lil bro , which, mainly consisted of just borrowing video games from e/o or something. He then invited me in to play some Halo. My gf (friend at the time) was also playing as well (shes really really good), so I of course could not pass up this golden oppurtunity to talk to her. She has a huge movie selection so it ended and we both share the same interest in allot of them, so we'd watch movies together. Well day, on the goverment twinky, she just grabs my hand and starts carressing it/playing with it, this of course sealed the deal for me, and that little move she did basically told me that I can take it a little further. Time passes (I'm going to her house every day btw, like, right next door, not a few houses down) and eventually, after allot of cuddling/holding hands during movies, w/e, shes just staring at me, we make out (kinda sloppy, me being her first bf/ first time shes kissed). I ask her out last day of school, at her house of course, and been together since. Heres some qualities I really like about her-Cheap, as in, we can do anything together and have fun doing so (she has a pool, xbox, ps2, air hockey table, *** load of movies)-Blonde hair, blue eyes, and very smart, really cute-32C-5'6"-She doesn't have too many friends (I'm the only person she has ever had spend a night-Her mom is bad ***, and lets me spend a night, I get to sleep with her on her bed:)-Mom looks good as well*edit: She likes offroading/big trucks, my attempts to convert her over to sport compacts have failed, but I did get her into liking the 00' Xterras (I dont have a clue about them) so, now she wants a black 5 spd, with black wheels and superswampers and other shiatand since I've already gotten sidetracked I'll end it here.
jdmfreak03 wrote:You better be taking notes. Im not postin all this fo nothin.
Main key is be yourself. Thats what I did and see where it got me? The way you see me on NICO is the same way I am with the girls. Just a little bit less cursing.
I am being myself. Don't care if i have a girlfriend. Love cars. and going to work and back a billion times. Other then that nothing really much. But, *shrug* woman don't like me much like i said. They make some smartass comment i just bite right back
Its too hot and its ruining their temperament! Run far far away...one other key to getting/keeping a girl is to be happy. Now this is missleading, because you really only have to PRETEND to be happy. If you put off some good vibes and an aurora of confidence and happiness in being yourself your set. In actuality, it can all be bull****, but dont let em' know that until AFTER your hitched or happy again 
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BB Turbo wrote:*edit: She likes offroading/big trucks, my attempts to convert her over to sport compacts have failed, but I did get her into liking the 00' Xterras (I dont have a clue about them) so, now she wants a black 5 spd, with black wheels and superswampers and other shiatand since I've already gotten sidetracked I'll end it here.
I fit into that category. I don't have a big truck, just my Taco, but I offroad with it when I get home. I'm also into the performance cars, so I got it all covered.:ylsuper
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Thread about getting chicks and I haven't replied... damn, I'm off my game.
There are a few workable methods, it depends on how much of a puss you are, but morese it depends on how independent she is.
Really independent chicks are incredibly hard to get, but are also usually very unneedy. The best way is to let them be them and do their thing, as well as doing your own thing. Throw in the sweetness every once in awhile, and prove that you can handle yourself, and she's won... usually. Don't ever ever ever let yourself be any bit needy with this kind, unless she has a really strong maternal streak.
Dependent chicks: smile. Done.
Well, I'll explain further. Talk to her, that sort of thing. The problem with these chicks is that they tend to be quite needy. Good in the sense that they want to see you a lot, bad in the sense that you have to constantly deal with their "when can I see you!????" stuff.
Basically, getting women is a matter of taking a few losses (or a lot) in search of gains. Think of it like suspension settings. A little more toe here, add some camber there, raise spring rates just a hair, and tighten the rear strut, then take it to the track and see how it goes, then it's back to the garage.
Simply put, it's a matter of just being generally nice whilst still being you. The best thing ever is a chick who treats you like she wants to, and you like it, and equally importantly, you treat her like you want to, and she likes it. (assuming you're not a prick to her)
Oh, possessive people suck. Don't be possessive, don't let her be possessive.
Finally, to quote a friend of a friend, as I did in my "manipulation?" thread- "I don't understand high maintenance people."
There are a few workable methods, it depends on how much of a puss you are, but morese it depends on how independent she is.
Really independent chicks are incredibly hard to get, but are also usually very unneedy. The best way is to let them be them and do their thing, as well as doing your own thing. Throw in the sweetness every once in awhile, and prove that you can handle yourself, and she's won... usually. Don't ever ever ever let yourself be any bit needy with this kind, unless she has a really strong maternal streak.
Dependent chicks: smile. Done.
Well, I'll explain further. Talk to her, that sort of thing. The problem with these chicks is that they tend to be quite needy. Good in the sense that they want to see you a lot, bad in the sense that you have to constantly deal with their "when can I see you!????" stuff.
Basically, getting women is a matter of taking a few losses (or a lot) in search of gains. Think of it like suspension settings. A little more toe here, add some camber there, raise spring rates just a hair, and tighten the rear strut, then take it to the track and see how it goes, then it's back to the garage.
Simply put, it's a matter of just being generally nice whilst still being you. The best thing ever is a chick who treats you like she wants to, and you like it, and equally importantly, you treat her like you want to, and she likes it. (assuming you're not a prick to her)
Oh, possessive people suck. Don't be possessive, don't let her be possessive.
Finally, to quote a friend of a friend, as I did in my "manipulation?" thread- "I don't understand high maintenance people."