Wife in PANIC ... zero sound ... divorce imminent

[Tampa G35 Sedan 6MT]

Have you met jacko or are you his bed partner

I think we have another Jacko But in the Female version!



DJ

[Infiniti Chica]

Have you met jacko or are you his bed partner

I think we have another Jacko But in the Female version!



DJ

You must've learned to wave when you were 16.

[TeflonG35]

Make her drive a dodge neon for a week so she appreciates how good she has it with a G.

[telcoman]

Make her drive a dodge neon for a week so she appreciates how good she has it with a G.

Or a 1958 Ford with an AM radio

[gwoods]

OK Mr. ImpliedConsent, here's the issue, sweep aside all the joking and slap happy anti-female talk here (yep, I know it's all in good fun) and let's really deal with this.

Problems are rarely one-sided, they go in circles and travel in pairs when you're married. What I mean is that while your wife may have spoken to you this way (unfortunately), the realities are that BOTH OF YOU CREATED A RELATIONSHIP IN WHICH THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR IS ACCEPTABLE. In other words, spouses don't typically behave this way towards each other unless this has been embedded into the relationship. It was embedded early on and now "poisons" the relationship: today was her day to be this way and I'm almost 100% sure that there are days in which you behave in ways that poison the day so that she feels like the one being punished.

Bottom line, you've treated her in ways that allow this type of behavior and she's treated you in ways that allow you to behave in a toxic manner: wanna change the outcome or the way she talks to you, change your behavior first and she will soon follow. All joking aside, we all create our relationships and if we keep getting into toxic ones or keep having toxic communications, then we're 100% responsible for the way in which the relationship has emerged. If there's a pattern of toxic talk or toxic bf/gf relationships, it's time to look within ourselves.

Modified by Infiniti Chica at 5:24 AM 4/17/2008

Lets make it a socialogy study

Women marry/date men expecting to change them. Then are unhappy when they are unable to make the change. Solution... don't settle find a man that does/has everything you want.

Men give up things or make changes to date/marry women they are physically but not emotionally attracted to. They are unable to sustain the changes that the women want and this causes fights. Solution.... don't give in/up to your wife/girl

That and money.

[AZhitman]

If there's a pattern of toxic talk or toxic bf/gf relationships, it's time to look within ourselves.

I like this woman already!

I.C., next time I'm out your way, dinner's on me.

OK, back to being a pig.

[ArizonaG35]

Well, I'm certainly sure you guys posted all of this b/c you knew I'd be coming along eventually, would read this and have some sarcastic or cutting comment.

Leave it to a female to think so highly of herself to believe that we're posting these mesogonistic comments simply to get a rise out of her. Try not to think so highly of yourself, we were posting these off color views long before you came along so you might want to step off your high horse.

I'm glad you find us amusing and I like your point of views, you make a great addition to the Nico family! Keep bringing on the sass 'cause we need more of it around here.

I like this one too! She's a pistol!

Dave

[Sentientbydesign]

I wanna disagree...because...I can!!!

Women nag at men because they are more responsible... Not for all of the "guy stuff" just the child rearing and uni-gender responsibilities.

At some point, the women in many (I stress many, not all) considers her "unfair" responsibility as a free pass to slam on her significant other.

She does not think about the fact that her significant other is the one who made that G magically appear with his 54 hour work week. She doesn't consider that more is expected of him at work BECAUSE he is a man.

She also doesn't take it upon herself to be informed regarding "guy stuff" and call the dealer herself regarding the problem.

As this role progresses, the man will begin to regress into a more childlike behaviour because he knows "either way she's going to nag".

In my experience, the man will reach an age between 40-50 years of age at which point he reaches "Toy store mode" and buys himself some ridiculously expensive toy.

A perfect example is my wife. I work over 50 hours a week 7-days. She (at most) has worked around 30 hours a week. I make around 4-5 times as much as she does. Not because I'm better qualified, but because I do what it takes to make our finances work. She gets flustered easily and takes on less stressful jobs that pay about half to a third of what I make.

Her car...That celica that she loves so much. I found it for her, I pushed her to buy it even though my car was in worse shape and I drove around twice as many miles as her.

Yesterday (she just got layed off), I felt horrible because she's over due for an oil change and I haven't done it yet, she said she'd do her own oil change. Partially in an annoyed "you don't love me", partially in a "I don't want to be stupid twit like my mom that won't learn guy stuff".

THAT is female behavior in the right direction. Calling your hubby and yelling at him regarding the Bose not working is just plain stupid. It doesn't effect the usability of the car, so get over it!!!

[tollboothwilley]

I gotta be honest,

I love how this is more of a community than a forum. We talk about so much stuff and always find a way to go completely off topic and thread jack!

And as for women, we love you and your bodies!! Keep making those pies!!!

[AZhitman]

...don't forget their minds!

I don't want Infiniti Chica to blow off our dinner date!

[ArizonaG35]

...don't forget their minds!

I don't want Infiniti Chica to blow off our dinner date!

Be careful Greg, this chica could end up being like the one on the left and eat the hurricane glass at dinner!



Impliedconsent, I'm sorry but I think this is the thread jack of the century... hows the sound system by the way?

[Infiniti Chica]

Lets make it a socialogy study

Women marry/date men expecting to change them. Then are unhappy when they are unable to make the change. Solution... don't settle find a man that does/has everything you want.

Men give up things or make changes to date/marry women they are physically but not emotionally attracted to. They are unable to sustain the changes that the women want and this causes fights. Solution.... don't give in/up to your wife/girl

That and money.

Well, I'm not married but have been asked a few times. But more to the point, we don't marry to change, we marry b/c we believe there is actually more there than what is being presented (me thinks women may be out of touch on this one though) to us, and then, well, we are disappointed. This is the endless romantic in women. Many women would rather part with their man than their illusion: but some would rather beat the man down b/c he did not meet the unspoken expectations than to part with their illusions. In the end, we all lose.
Modified by Infiniti Chica at 3:24 PM 4/17/2008

[Infiniti Chica]

I like this woman already!

I.C., next time I'm out your way, dinner's on me.

OK, back to being a pig.

Well, I think this will be a nice home for me. Now, how to change you guys and, make you more civilized respectful and decent. And I wasn't even invited to dinner!!!

[iLL_G35]

dude grow some balls and tell her you'll deal with it when u get home

[Infiniti Chica]

Leave it to a female to think so highly of herself to believe that we're posting these mesogonistic comments simply to get a rise out of her. Try not to think so highly of yourself, we were posting these off color views long before you came along so you might want to step off your high horse.

I'm glad you find us amusing and I like your point of views, you make a great addition to the Nico family! Keep bringing on the sass 'cause we need more of it around here.

I like this one too! She's a pistol!

Dave

Too bad you guys live all over the place. I may not be perfect, but I am interesting(she says with no humility or hesitation)! Thanks for the back-handed compliment.
Modified by Infiniti Chica at 3:23 PM 4/17/2008

[AZhitman]

Well, I think this will be a nice home for me. Now, how to change you guys and, make you more civilized respectful and decent. And I wasn't even invited to dinner!!!

I like this woman already!

I.C., next time I'm out your way, dinner's on me.

OK, back to being a pig.

[AZhitman]

Be careful Greg, this chica could end up being like the one on the left and eat the hurricane glass at dinner!

I'm dyin' here...

[Infiniti Chica]

I wanna disagree...because...I can!!!

Women nag at men because they are more responsible... Not for all of the "guy stuff" just the child rearing and uni-gender responsibilities.

At some point, the women in many (I stress many, not all) considers her "unfair" responsibility as a free pass to slam on her significant other.

She does not think about the fact that her significant other is the one who made that G magically appear with his 54 hour work week. She doesn't consider that more is expected of him at work BECAUSE he is a man.

She also doesn't take it upon herself to be informed regarding "guy stuff" and call the dealer herself regarding the problem.

As this role progresses, the man will begin to regress into a more childlike behaviour because he knows "either way she's going to nag".

In my experience, the man will reach an age between 40-50 years of age at which point he reaches "Toy store mode" and buys himself some ridiculously expensive toy.

A perfect example is my wife. I work over 50 hours a week 7-days. She (at most) has worked around 30 hours a week. I make around 4-5 times as much as she does. Not because I'm better qualified, but because I do what it takes to make our finances work. She gets flustered easily and takes on less stressful jobs that pay about half to a third of what I make.

Her car...That celica that she loves so much. I found it for her, I pushed her to buy it even though my car was in worse shape and I drove around twice as many miles as her.

Yesterday (she just got layed off), I felt horrible because she's over due for an oil change and I haven't done it yet, she said she'd do her own oil change. Partially in an annoyed "you don't love me", partially in a "I don't want to be stupid twit like my mom that won't learn guy stuff".

THAT is female behavior in the right direction. Calling your hubby and yelling at him regarding the Bose not working is just plain stupid. It doesn't effect the usability of the car, so get over it!!!

As I read this post and most of the others, it dawned on me-- you guys really don't understand us do you? The lens thru which we are viewed is quiet distorted, microscopic at times and reactionary. Just as women's lenses are about men. By the way, we nag b/c we feel discounted, unheard, ignored and disconnected from you: you in turn feel nagged upon and thereby withdraw and ignore us, so we become louder and more "bitchy." For the record, I don't nag, I say it once, say it twice in case the male brain was disengaged and then stop repeating myself and go into action (i.e., I don't play). Action speaks volumes.

By the way, did you know that in its resting stage, a man's brain is engaged at about 10%: a woman's at 70%. What this means is that men often are less aware and attentive to their environment. This inattentiveness often means not paying attention when the children are hanging from the tree or about to get run over in traffic or paying attention to their spouse/gf. Inattentiveness = being discounted, ignored, not valued or appreciated. And if you know anything about women, we want to be valued and appreciated: men want to be admired and looked up to. nuf said

[joe603]

^ nice AzG35!!!!!!!!!!

[Infiniti Chica]

Be careful Greg, this chica could end up being like the one on the left and eat the hurricane glass at dinner!



Impliedconsent, I'm sorry but I think this is the thread jack of the century... hows the sound system by the way?

5"4" & 116 lbs-- now you tell me Mr. Brilliant, does my height and weight match her appearance? Talk about being aware and attentive to the cues from an earlier post.

[tollboothwilley]

haha

i love it

Gettin' all serious now!!!

did you post a pic of yourself in the "getting to know us" thread?

zer...age=1

[ArizonaG35]

By the way, did you know that in its resting stage, a man's brain is engaged at about 10%: a woman's at 70%. What this means is that men often are less aware and attentive to their environment.

Of course we're less aware of our environment in our "resting" stage... that's what resting is! We drop down to 10% when resting to rejuvinate ourselves to hunt and gather at our peak another day! Maybe if you all would take a hint and drop down to oh say 40% in your resting stage, you'd be a little less naggy. This is why I can't take a decent Goddam nap in my house... Just because your 70% at rest consists of nail colors, blush, coordinating outfits, grocery lists, chatting with the girls and bagging a rich doctor doesn't make you more attentive, it only means that you are thinking about more $hit that is totally irrelavant to the male brain!

[Infiniti Chica]

Still love you guys! This has become the most convoluted but interesting thread. Now, to go to the gym, put on my skin tight and transparent (see-through for those with lower IQ's) thong and perform my daily pilates and Salsa dance exercises.

[Infiniti Chica]

Of course we're less aware of our environment in our "resting" stage... that's what resting is! We drop down to 10% when resting to rejuvinate ourselves to hunt and gather at our peak another day! Maybe if you all would take a hint and drop down to oh say 40% in your resting stage, you'd be a little less naggy. This is why I can't take a decent Goddam nap in my house... Just because your 70% at rest consists of nail colors, blush, coordinating outfits, grocery lists, chatting with the girls and bagging a rich doctor doesn't make you more attentive, it only means that you are thinking about more $hit that is totally irrelavant to the male brain!

You sound angry... bitter and needing to cling to your guns and religion! No wait, that was us PA people. Relax.... breathe in... breathe out... goooood... now, here's 10mg Ativan to put you to sleep.

[AZhitman]

By the way, did you know that in its resting stage, a man's brain is engaged at about 10%: a woman's at 70%.

I found the missing 60%!!!!

10% Thinking about what she should cook for dinner10% Thinking how tacky that blouse looks on the woman that just walked by10% Wondering if her makeup is perfect10% Worrying about her hair10% Plotting revenge for you not noticing her hair10% Stressing over the in-laws coming to visit



(Just kidding, I.C. - Don't lump us all in the same category, some of us are quite adept at understanding women.)

[AZhitman]

You sound angry... bitter and needing to cling to your guns and religion! No wait, that was us PA people. Relax.... breathe in... breathe out... goooood... now, here's 10mg Ativan to put you to sleep.

BEST POST OF THE DAY.

p.s. Can I get my bolus of Ativan IM? I won't even flinch - Promise.

[Infiniti Chica]

haha

i love it

Gettin' all serious now!!!

did you post a pic of yourself in the "getting to know us" thread?

zer...age=1

I think I'll wait a bit here. I can only say I'm not at all hard on the eyes. One small hint, I do have a an abdominal six-pack.

[ArizonaG35]

I'm actually a really nice guy Chica, I just had to give you a few lumps for being the new kid in town. You'll find I'm really mostly here for comedic value. I'm not really a chauvenist... I just have a few Archie Bunker moments. I think you've earned your stripes so I'll lay off a bit. I like you, you're full of pi$$ and vinegar! Don't take me too seriously... I know lifes too short to get all herky jerky over words, I just love the witty banter!

You're good in my book... Dave

[Infiniti Chica]

I'm actually a really nice guy Chica, I just had to give you a few lumps for being the new kid in town. You'll find I'm really mostly here for comedic value. I'm not really a chauvenist... I just have a few Archie Bunker moments. I think you've earned your stripes so I'll lay off a bit. I like you, you're full of pi$$ and vinegar! Don't take me too seriously... I know lifes too short to get all herky jerky over words, I just love the witty banter!

You're good in my book... Dave

You're all good in my book. Without the banter, gasp, I'd be discounted and ignored, and would have to turn to being a nagging b*tch and all that just to be noticed. Thanks for this though, overall, this has been an extremely warm, interesting, and enjoyable welcome. "bezos para todos!"

Ciao,Isabelle

[AZhitman]

...speaking of being ignored....