TRUE LOVE SUXS!!!!!

[1992Q45A]

It's important, critical.

Yea there are more fish in the sea, but so what. This may be the fish.

All that can happen, is what is happening now, which is nothing. You have nothing to lose at this point. You made the first mistake initially, you need to get in there, go for it.

[nametakennow]

After reading all your responses in this thread it's obvious you really want this one. Sitting on your laurels will just make things worse.

Go get her.

[nuQ]

thanks for all your support!!! i'll make you guys a promise........ if i can make this work,,,i'll post a pic of the Q and the altima with me and margo next to them. i know, not that exciting or anything, but just my humble gratitude! LOL

[silkk]

Good luck. Hope everything works out the way you want it to.

[jdmfreak]

Pics or shens boy! Pics or shens...

[MinisterofDOOM]

Damn, man. You have my sympathy. I have a situation quite similar to your own. Makes me want to smash things just to think about it.I have a very good friend who I spent most of my time in high school with. We skipped most of our classes together, and grew very close. She had some moron boyfriend who never saw her much and didn't really have his heart in it, so I wasn't to worried about that. So then school ended (this was two years ago...) and she left the guy. I thought...hey! Here's my chance. Then suddenly for a week I couldn't get a hold of her. Next week, I find out she's dating a good friend of mine. He's blind to anything between me and her--irritatingly blind. A few months go by and he moves away for a semester of school. Here's where things get interesting. I, like you, let my respect for her stop me from interfering. The guy called her at least once a day for an hour plus. So they still maintained contact. I took her to lunch while she was at school (she's about 2 years younger than me) and gave her a ride home every day (her parents never let her get her license). She is quite aware of my feelings for her, I made/make sure of that, and she made sure I understood that, were it not for him, she'd feel the same for me. So, seeing that she was happier than I'd ever seen her before, and not wanting to interfere with that, again out of respect for her, I left well enough alone.The guy came back from school. He's not the same guy that was my friend. He is a self-absorbed, lazy, and ignorant as hell. I put up with him because the two are never apart. I start to notice that he doesn't treat her with the same respect as he had before leaving for school. She's to happy to have him home to notice, I figure it'll pass (either his idiocy or her not noticing it). But it doesn't. Then one day, as I'm picking her up from school (he's to lazy/doesn't have a car since he can't afford one since he's to lazy to get a respectable job) she tells me I should go to his house so they can tell me something. My thoughts:****! My words: Ok, sure.Get to the house, and he's in his room playing his XBox. We walk in and e turns around and they tell me they are engaged. I swear to god it is a miracle he still has his whole face. So, anyhow. I let things go, and they never got better, and now here I am wishing I had done something, ANYTHING, to get her to at least give me a bit of a chance. And now, unless through some strange miracle (hey, I've seen one, maybe I can see another) I've lost any chance with her. The lesson here: you can respect her--you SHOULD respect her. But don't just sit and watch. You have to do something. Please, give purpose to my failure and learn from it.

Oh, and by the way...I've spent plenty of time thinking up "fun" things to do to her fiancee, so your not alone. Don't say you haven't. Just don't go through with them or she'll hate you forever.

Damn...are we some pathetic fools or what?

Edit--I forgot to add how unbeleivable gorgeous this girl is. I'll try to get her to let me post some pictures of her so you all can gawk like I did when I first met her (she didn't even notice--she's a little naiive about things like that). Dammit!! Now I'm pissed off again!!! Where's my GTA...I need to run over some pedestrians!

[gabossie]

Well, I wont bore you all with the things I've gone through (not to say any of yours were boring, I'm just to lazy to type alot), but you have my sympathy. Don't stand idly by, do what you must to make things right. If you make a bold move and she doesn't go for it, you'll be hurt but at least you'll know the truth and can move on with your life.

[nuQ]

as a little update, went into work today and my best friend can obviously tell i'm busted up, so i tell him what happened over the weekend. he's also (or used to be very good friends with her), so he secretly calls her. she made me swear not to tell anyone that she wanted to come over my place on fri. (she knows it looks sooo bad on her part). anyway, he tells me they start talking and he's like, " what's going on with you and jeff, are you talking to him or seeing him???". she tries to avoid giving an honest answer so then he goes "just tell me the guy you're engaged to is the love of your life, the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, and jeff isn't!!!!". SILENCE......she won't answer he told me she had to go but she was gonna call him back. it's crap like that, that kills me. it's so obvious where he heart is, but i just don't know what else i can do, it'll ultimately be her decision. thanks AGAIN guys for all your support

[s13sr20chris]

the heck with respecting her choice. you have to do something now because once shes married you darn sure better respect that(ok im married thats why i feel that way). do whatever you want but do it soon. by the way i will add there is something fishy going on. please dont be offended but is she all there(mentally/emotionally)? it would be better to have her be nuts then to have her be cruel.

[nuQ]

if she did get married,,,believe me, i would NEVER mess that up!!! i could do that now, but i only want to be in a healthy relationship that both people want to be in. i know she is just totally confussed. for a long time i never commited to her totally, which is what she really wanted. when i wanted to, this other guy proposed, she got caught up in the moment and said yes, without knowing i wanted her!!!! she's caught up with, blowing off the first guy that proposed or go with the one that has my soul. i'm sure her whole family is telling her she's nuts to back out of the engagement,,,,but her heart is elsewhere!!! like i said,,,,,very tough to put together in my head!!!ps----she's not nuts or crazy,,,,just very confussed,,,,,,,i take, at least, half the blame!!!