Well it looks like Nissan has 2 types of 3 pin coil pack connectors with the same shape but different locating tab location

Nissan RB / SR (late) 3-Pin Connector
and

Nissan 3-pin TPS/COIL Connector (SR20/RB25/RB26/RB20)
I'm quite sure that the RB20 ones that I'm getting will need the brown connector above. I will be getting the RB20 coils complete with the coilpack harness anyway, so I can splice the correct connectors onto my CA coilpack harness.
But the above info might be useful to someone who is looking to use RB20 coils on the CA and wondering about which connector will fit.