Love is a powerfull emotion. Not one I am familuar with.
I wish the best for you. And hope things work out for you and her.
Divorce sucks, try anything else first.
please help a NICO man out on what to do
TorQue45 wrote:I told her I forgave her and that she and I have to see counselling. She agree to it.
She has never doing anything like this before, so I will give her a second change.
if you say you forgive her, then be a man and live by those words. What else she HAD done doesn't matter because you forgave her. Let's start over again, new, yah? Try not to be suspicious because you know that lack of trust will kill off your marridge. And don't EVER bring it up again especially in a fight because it'll cast a shadow over her.
I cheated on my ex before, when I was younger. She said she forgive me but damn, she complains about it ALL the ****ing time so we seperated and went on our way.
Remember, you forgave her. Many men can't do that. Be proud of yourself.
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Loveless wrote:Remember, you forgave her. Many men can't do that.
That's because someone upstairs set some pretty high standards for us to live up to. As we grow up and stop letting our emotions control our actions... it becomes easier.
The first step... as far as I can tell... is to take a good long look in the mirror and recognize our OWN faults before we hold our loved ones to a higher standard than we hold ourselves to.
That's not to say this guy should ignore what his wife has done, and that's not to say she should expect everything to be okay immediately. But, I honestly think the more we eliminate hypocrisy from our lives, the better we are as people. She shouldn't have done what she did... and he's a better man for forgiving her. Letting it go is a hard thing to do though.
Well you say you're busy at work, and that doesn't allow you to pay attention to what she's doing. I say you hire a private investigator, a few weeks down the road when she'll think it's "safe" to do something. Or the next time you get "one of those feelings that something isn't right". What that guy will do is most likely videotape her in some act and bring it to you. Then you do whatever you have to. My thoughts are with the other members, if she's calling that guy and then she denies it to your face that's already 2 lies and she doesn't even think twice before lying to you, comes kinda easy to her. Very suspicious if you ask me. Now if she does stop calling that guy, you will always have to worry about the other guy trying to contact her, and he probably will no matter what she says. If he's single and he want's a girl he's gonna try to get with her regardless whether she's married or not. You're in a very tough situation here. Counceling may help or it may not, it depends on the person. I hope you have a seperate bank account just in case.
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I feel for you. Very uncomfortable situation. A marriage will only work if both of you want to make it work. It certainly sounds like you're willing to do whats necessary to make it work but are you sure she feels as strongly about it as you do? Communication is the key. You two need to get together, honestly discuss it and get it cleared up one way or another. If she's sincere about wanting to save the marriage , then I think marriage counselling is the best route. If she's not agreeable to honestly working it out with you, then you have some difficult choices ahead of you.Good luck.
Altiman94 wrote:No private investigator, find things out on your own. Your a man, handle your problems like one. Dont be givin the man bad advice
Who do you say it's bad advice? Those people are there for a reason. And in this situation what do you mean handle your problems like a man? Im just throwing ideas out there, he'll do what he wants.