Okay...so I drove up here to my gf's house because she wanted me to, even though it was raining/sleeting all the way and like 11 at night. I get up this morning after she left and got on the next to check the usual. Well, her msn logs on and on instinct I accidentally check her email, and discover several emails from a "guy" that are very alluring and have the words "I love you" between them both.
WTF
What is going on here? After I was a pall barer for her father she does this s*** to me??? She won't be home for a few hours and my mind is racing. What the hell am I suppose to do? Should I write her a note telling her I know and just leave, or should I stay and confront her about this? I'm extremely upset right now and can't think, so someone tell me what to do.
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Pissed beyond belief.....
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GRRRR - *mad with ya bro*
I'd leave the computer logged on to that page and leave. Straight up cold bail on her a$$ - No retribution necessary, just grab your s*** and jam... You'll be glad you did.
p.s. I always found that putting that anger to good use finding a "rebounder" was energy well-spent. Nothing heals a broken heart like hooking up and pounding the holy hell out of someone you just met...:boink :boink :boink
I'd leave the computer logged on to that page and leave. Straight up cold bail on her a$$ - No retribution necessary, just grab your s*** and jam... You'll be glad you did.
p.s. I always found that putting that anger to good use finding a "rebounder" was energy well-spent. Nothing heals a broken heart like hooking up and pounding the holy hell out of someone you just met...:boink :boink :boink
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it's hard but talk to her man! Think your conversation through first. Don't go in blazin guns :uzi Ask her who it is first before accusing..cause ya never know. I promise you she will turn it around with the "why ya lookin in my email" because girls are good at manipulating. If your presumptions are correct then let the heads roll! :chainsaw
I'd play the smooth but evil route. Do you remember the guys name? Get a hotmail account name yourself the same as his send her an email saying to meet you somewhere. She'll think it's him and will never know the difference unless she looks at the email address...something most people don't care to notice. When she shows up and your standing there...BUSTED!
I'd play the smooth but evil route. Do you remember the guys name? Get a hotmail account name yourself the same as his send her an email saying to meet you somewhere. She'll think it's him and will never know the difference unless she looks at the email address...something most people don't care to notice. When she shows up and your standing there...BUSTED!
Well see the thing is I didn't even mean to open her hotmail, I just did it by accident and saw this email from a guy named "jason ____" *won't mention last name* that said my dearest alison.
I'm worried that if I stay and confront her that I'm gonna errupt, or that she'll just get pissed off and won't tell me anything.
I'm worried that if I stay and confront her that I'm gonna errupt, or that she'll just get pissed off and won't tell me anything.
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Infidelity is intolerable in my opinion. "I love you" shouldn't be taken lightly either and if she can say that to you and someone else there may be a third or fourth man she is in "love" with also. You are apparently at her beck and call driving to her den at 11:00pm braving sleet and rain and risking life and limb for some mookie. Does she have you on lock?? Does she think she can kick you in the balls and you'll grin and bear it?? Are you whipped on the moist and creamy?? Have you or are you cheating right now also??
Dammit man, if the woman doesn't want you then haul arse! Is it worth saving a relationship that has lost the element of trust?
If you are going to be confrontational you should wait until you are calm. You don’t want to be an ignorant screaming moron when discussing such a delicate matter. Maybe you should be cool for awhile and do a little reconnaissance. Keep coming over and when you can check the e-mail. Be more alert and look for changes in her countenance and demeanor. And lastly, if the other brother is anything like me, take note to see if the coochie is stretched during relations. BANG BANG BANG :boink :boink :boink!!!
Dammit man, if the woman doesn't want you then haul arse! Is it worth saving a relationship that has lost the element of trust?
If you are going to be confrontational you should wait until you are calm. You don’t want to be an ignorant screaming moron when discussing such a delicate matter. Maybe you should be cool for awhile and do a little reconnaissance. Keep coming over and when you can check the e-mail. Be more alert and look for changes in her countenance and demeanor. And lastly, if the other brother is anything like me, take note to see if the coochie is stretched during relations. BANG BANG BANG :boink :boink :boink!!!
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Sage words from a wise slinger.deesolballs wrote:Does she have you on lock?? Does she think she can kick you in the balls and you'll grin and bear it?? Are you whipped on the moist and creamy??
Dammit man, if the woman doesn't want you then haul arse! Is it worth saving a relationship that has lost the element of trust?
lol dees this is the first direct post you've ever givin to me. I'm honored 
First off, no I'm not cheating. I don't cheat. I mean, that's pointless. If you're gonna cheat, then why not just be single and sleep around? much less hassle.Second, sadly yes she thinks she has me by the ballz. And for the most part, she does. Well, did.I see you point about the lost element of trust, but I've known and dated this girl off and on for over 4 years and have never had this problem with her before. Hense the incredible level of confusion.I would lay low and do some survailence but I fear I wouldn't be able to hold out very long.
First off, no I'm not cheating. I don't cheat. I mean, that's pointless. If you're gonna cheat, then why not just be single and sleep around? much less hassle.Second, sadly yes she thinks she has me by the ballz. And for the most part, she does. Well, did.I see you point about the lost element of trust, but I've known and dated this girl off and on for over 4 years and have never had this problem with her before. Hense the incredible level of confusion.I would lay low and do some survailence but I fear I wouldn't be able to hold out very long.
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Be chill
One thing I have noticed is that the more calm and relaxed you are about something the more the chick cant stand it. Its like they LOVE it when they get men all riled up and pissed, but if your calm and act like you dont care then she looses and they cant stand that. I would be like why did you do that? Dont i mean anyhting? all calm and mellow then just leave and go on a nice drive
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dude matt, that idea about setting up an email account at hotmail and emailing her, posing as him is a perfect idea. i know this hurts and is hard for you. i mean just thinking about it makes me very pissed. i don't like it when people play my friends. if i find out people play my friends here at my school or sumthin, the person that did the playing gets an earful from my friend, and me. its just wrong. whats this b itches email address? i'm gonna email her later and cuss her playin arse
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Sygerwulf wrote:lol dees this is the first direct post you've ever givin to me. I'm honored
First off, no I'm not cheating. I don't cheat. I mean, that's pointless. If you're gonna cheat, then why not just be single and sleep around? much less hassle.Second, sadly yes she thinks she has me by the ballz. And for the most part, she does. Well, did.I see you point about the lost element of trust, but I've known and dated this girl off and on for over 4 years and have never had this problem with her before. Hense the incredible level of confusion.I would lay low and do some survailence but I fear I wouldn't be able to hold out very long.
Partner, you've known and dated this girl ON AND OFF for 4 years. Apparently when you were off someone else was on. Hell maybe when you were on THEY were waiting to mount aswell. I can't help but think your going into her e-mail was no accident. There is no telling how long this has been going on. You may have been wining and dining another man's woman for years.
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95silviase wrote: i'm gonna email her later and cuss her playin arse
HAHAHA - See, brotha - you got backup all over the world.
Don't be there when she gets home, dude. Several different scenarios can come about, and none of them are good. Take Dees' advice and jump ship - she'll HATE the apparent lack of emotion on your part AND you'll avoid getting all aggro on her (or getting manipulated and mind-humped).
I can only imagine the # of emails this gal would get if you did post the address...
Well I've always known in the past who she was with. she's always been very honest with me, maybe I was just blind I dunno. And maybe they're just really good friends, in one line he mentioned being her friend, But dammit friends aren't that close. I know I have an overly-active jealous streak in me, but I can tell the difference between friend and something more.
I've decided to confront her, if nothing less then to ease my mind if things go sour and I get to say some things I've never been able to say before. Trust me, if things turn out bad I'll be posting ALL of her email addy's on here for your flaming enjoyment
I've decided to confront her, if nothing less then to ease my mind if things go sour and I get to say some things I've never been able to say before. Trust me, if things turn out bad I'll be posting ALL of her email addy's on here for your flaming enjoyment
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just another example of why i dont date anymore , i quit after 42 rejctions and 2 crappy relationsips....
dude , i like the idea of leving the email open and jetting , maybe leave a nice little rubber goodbye note in the street out front , then off to hooters to sexualy objectufy women , then get checked over for desises , no telling what oil stains have been left in her garage from all the various american iron that has been parked in there ...
may seem like wasted time but it pales in comaprison to actualy marrying this peice of vaginal waste and finding out after the fact that more long hard objects have been parked inside than the city bus garage ..
so go have some fun with the car , drink some beer , hang with the crew
one thing i hate is cheating or infidelity as dees puts it , and dees is absolotely right here , he is the man so listen to him
dude , i like the idea of leving the email open and jetting , maybe leave a nice little rubber goodbye note in the street out front , then off to hooters to sexualy objectufy women , then get checked over for desises , no telling what oil stains have been left in her garage from all the various american iron that has been parked in there ...
may seem like wasted time but it pales in comaprison to actualy marrying this peice of vaginal waste and finding out after the fact that more long hard objects have been parked inside than the city bus garage ..
so go have some fun with the car , drink some beer , hang with the crew
one thing i hate is cheating or infidelity as dees puts it , and dees is absolotely right here , he is the man so listen to him
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Good stuff, Stoney. One of your better sermons... She'll get the hint when she sees the opened email (or this thread!)
Nismo, ain't nothin to be gained by goin' off on the guy that's workin' his old lady... He may not even KNOW she's hooked up with the Wulf, and he's just doin' what guys do.
Besides, you might be the one getting f-ed up... I DO like the baseball idea though.
Nismo, ain't nothin to be gained by goin' off on the guy that's workin' his old lady... He may not even KNOW she's hooked up with the Wulf, and he's just doin' what guys do.
Besides, you might be the one getting f-ed up... I DO like the baseball idea though.
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Yes, all good advice. There is another route you can go though. You can play it off like you don't know, get her in the sack and "bat in the upper deck", leave a "deposit" and THEN leave with happy black marks in the road. This works better when she lets you tie her up. :thumbup One good thing about this is that it is NOT violent but is demeaning.
I'm sorry to hear about your rash of shi.tty luck man. Let us know what's up!
I'm sorry to hear about your rash of shi.tty luck man. Let us know what's up!
Haha, nice work Revrend!
You seriously need to talk to her about it. I saw this thing on Dr.Phil (yea yea, but what else am I gonna watch in university?), where couples internet cheated on eachother. It was crazy how emotionally involved they got with people they didn't even know...Syger: Get her out of your system faster than some bad mexican food man!
You seriously need to talk to her about it. I saw this thing on Dr.Phil (yea yea, but what else am I gonna watch in university?), where couples internet cheated on eachother. It was crazy how emotionally involved they got with people they didn't even know...Syger: Get her out of your system faster than some bad mexican food man!
1. Don't confront her. Leave the e-mail open. You had to stir for hours just now looking at her e-mail. You should let her bug out too.
2. You should e-mail the other guy. If he knew about you, pull out you longest ratchet, and beat the sh*t out of the guy (unless he is smaller, then just use your fists).
3. When she calls or tries to talk to you make it short and sweet (****** I hate you and hope you die...something to that effect).
4. If everything does turn out bad and you really want to blow her spot, tell her parents, nothing more embarrasing than having a sl*t for a daughter.
5. POST HER E-MAIL HELL YEAH!!
Good Luck, I feel for you man, its a real sh*tty situation.
2. You should e-mail the other guy. If he knew about you, pull out you longest ratchet, and beat the sh*t out of the guy (unless he is smaller, then just use your fists).
3. When she calls or tries to talk to you make it short and sweet (****** I hate you and hope you die...something to that effect).
4. If everything does turn out bad and you really want to blow her spot, tell her parents, nothing more embarrasing than having a sl*t for a daughter.
5. POST HER E-MAIL HELL YEAH!!
Good Luck, I feel for you man, its a real sh*tty situation.
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MasterMan wrote:ok get in her email and wright the guy, tell him that u wanna meet somewhere and kick the living **** out of him.. then confront her with it.. then leave her ***..
Oh come on MasterMan, why would you hurt the other guy? He was just being a member of the male species, that is unless he knew about you and didn't care. That's different. Plus, jail time for assault and extreme battery sucks...