Typically, there is a vacuum port on the low pressure side and a charge port on the high pressure side. Someone correct me if I'm wrong, but it is good practice to evac the system and vacuum test it prior to adding refrigerant to check the condition of the system as a whole. I've never done this before, but will do it soon.
I'm not sure what the large part on the fitting is for. I don't think you need it since I've seen many other cars run without something like that. Odd.
As far as the wiring goes, I believe it is the Y/B wire from the climate control unit, the pink wire at the ECU plug (pin 49?), and the B/P wire from the AC relay that goes onto the triple pressure switch. All 3 need to be wired together.
Search through 300Plus' thread (
zerothread?id=267002)and it describes it in there.
The switch on the dash grounds the Y/B wire, which grounds in the ECU to tell the idle to step up since the compressor is drawing a load. The grounding on the B/P wire closes the relay that powers the compressor and also completes the circuit to half of the triple pressure switch. I really need to get on drawing up a wiring diagram for this because it is stupidly easy. Shouldn't take more than an hour after you find all the wires.