My car is the best wingman... Too bad I have no game...

[Graflo]

So I have been trying to build up the cojones to ask out this woman I see at the coffee shop in the mornings... for months I have squandered every chance to just open my mouth and say something witty to this angel...

Nothing... I have no game, never have.

So this morning I see her and I hold the door open for her as we are leaving and she stops me and this is how the convo goes down....

The Girl: “you have the hottest car ever”..

Dum Dum:“ Wow, Thank you very much”

The Girl: “ I fall in love a little more every time I see it”

Dum Dum: :”Thank you, My names Kevin..”

The Girl: “Hi I’m Jamie”

Dum Dum: “ Well have a nice day”

I froze... I blew it big time... I have never been what you would call smooth with the ladies and I'm okay with that but man... I really pooched it this morning...

I have to figure out how to put some spin on this and talk to her next time I see her....

Anyone out there got any pointers?

[joe603]

Simple, offer to take her out for a ride in the G sometime. Tell her that you're shy around models!

Good luck

[LuckyLuke]

wow, I am in love with the coffee shop girl too.. and I could only say "thank you, have a nice day" to her.. I don't know when else to say when I see her..

[sc_coupe]

Simple, offer to take her out for a ride in the G sometime. Tell her that you're shy around models!

Good luck

I'd go with what Joe said, and find a way to incorporate an exchange of phone numbers too (but don't make it creepy lol). I can't think about a smooth way to do the numbers thing right now, but I have a full day of classes that I can think it over lol.

[jmcohen23]

I concur with Joe. simply offer a ride. next time you see her, you can something like, "I'd like to offer you a ride sometime, saaaay to dinner?" - make sure you say it with a smirk, kinda like you know you are saying something so silly, yet you are confident about it.

[Poyzinous]

Girl: "you have the hottest car ever"Dum Dum: " ohmgod I love you "Girl: " me too! lets go to your back seat!"Dum Dum: "I need an adult!"Girl: " bye now...."

[Graflo]

It's so easy for some people they just don't understand...

This woman doesn't work at the shop so I never know when or if I'll bump into her. I see her maybe once or twice a week. In your case it's tough asking a girl out if she's working. I'd give ya some advice but I obviously don't have a clue.

I'm laughing now about my lake of skills, but it can be frustrating... now that I think about it I think most of the women I've dated have asked me out.

She broke the ice so the hard part is done, I just gatta man up ask her out to lunch...

Thanks for the advice guys.... Just thought I would share because if we do date I have the G to thank for grabing her attention.

[Graflo]

^lack^ Iz can spellz reelsz gu d...

[Poyzinous]

She broke the ice so the hard part is done

next time say "Fat Penguin"thats an ice breaker

[G_whizz]

Holy Hell do not use the "model" line!!! :



You did not blow it at all!! Instead, you made an introduction and didn't say something stupid! You also didn't creep her out which is a good thing with a stranger!

Say "Hi Jamie...you know I was thinking...I know you like coffee and you like my G...how about I treat you to a latte (or whatever she drinks) but we go through the drive through!! Then kinda chuckle and say "seriously, I would love to maybe get together sometime if your up for it!"

Make sure she knows you remember her name... exude confidence and it will be pure WIN!

[Graflo]

"Fat Penguin"?

Might work for your age group but I don't think that would work on this one. I am a little older than you so my target audience probably wouldn't appreciate the humor. I would guess she's in her early 30's and I have seen her around the court house mostly so I'm guessing she works there. Hopefully I will find out soon enough.

[G_whizz]

I'm telling you...if you do what I wrote...you will walk away with a date (provided she's not married of course)

[atn_chargers]

The Girl: “ I fall in love a little more every time I see it”

WOWOWOWOWOWOWOW If she was hott...I would completely melt...and do everything I could to get her contact info. I've given some rides to some hotties...but since I'm in the "girlfriend" situation....the rides I give to the hotties..unfortunately ends there.

But dude what were you thinking?? I would be banging my head if I miss the oppurtunity. She basically threw herself and you...and you're like..."get off me". Wow dude.

But yes...our G's is the best wingman. It's like kryptonite to the ladies.

[sc_coupe]

whatever way you decide to ask her out just make sure you are confident about yourself and not creepy about it...and like what G_whizz said, ask her if she wants to get together some time. she will be more likely to get together with you on more of an informal basis at first because it will make her feel more comfortable, then after that just work it and build it into more of a committed relationship a.k.a. dating, (if thats the direction you decide to take it of course)

[atn_chargers]

Best pickup line ever: "Ever done it in a coupe?" hahah jk.

Be yourself.+Be confident. Don't stutter.

=WIN

Don't let her get away next time...GO GET HER, TIGER.

And please update us on the situation. And no lies either...like how you got her in bed the first night.

[joe603]

I've been married for 11 years...and we met in HS. I'd be in your shoes if I was ever in the market...

[kmckis1029]

ahhh man... she set you up to ask her out... come on man

if you know she dont have a car... offer her a ride home...

if she has a car... offer her to go for a ride...

The Girl: “ I fall in love a little more every time I see it” me: " the driver makes the car .... [wait for laugh/smile, this also directs attention back to you] want to go for a ride sometime ?"

The Girl: " yeah i'd love too "

me: "well whats your number jamie, we can ride to [insert location in your city] , ill call you and we can go out."

Very simple... im always a little nervous when talking to a new girl... but its covered up by my smile and confidence.

[G_whizz]

LOL... I like this one.. although I would NEVER use it.

You - Is your dad a drug dealer??Her - Ummm no...why??You - Cause your dope!!

[jardolei]

Just Don't wear a t-shirt like this and you'll be fine

[suby01]

sounds like a money hungry !@# to me.

im sorry but when a hot or very hot girl approaches me and says anything about my car FIRST and then me or whatever else im like great thank you and move on my way. times are tough and a lot of them are looking for a sugar daddy. honestly im looking for a car under $2000 now so i can do just that go out on dates and whatever, cuz my car is a magnet sadly too much of a magnet. its great when your looking for some but not so much when your looking for

i know thats not much of a help but that does sound like it was a way to get your attention. graflo look at it this way no matter what your looking for at this point you have NOTHING to lose. really u go get coffee alone you leave with coffee alone, if you ask her out and she accepts if not for trying man. gluck

[srv2nv]

Throw on some Sex Panther next time. 60% of the time, it works EVERY time!

[quixote]

My story, I went to NC last week. I met a girl I would fall in love with, and I offered to take her out for dinner. She was busy for that weekend and so did I, so we decided to do lunch together.

I picked her up from the school, she's still a grad-student....she's hot!

She let me paid for that lunch, which I appreciated a lot, $16, although I was going to throw couple of hundred dollars on dinner to impress her.

We walk out of lunch place, and she said, "where is your car, I don't remember what it looks like!"

OMG, my G seden, she must be kidding, but she's not.

Anyway, lunch went okay, at least I thought so. I am still think about her a lot today, but I know nothing is going to happen because I am in Boston, she's still in NC. She's so hot, she won't be available for too long. Damn, I would trade my G with her, okay, you guys can throw beer bottles on me, I earn it.

I texted her yesterday, but I've never heard back from her. I guess I got no chance at all.

[smockers83]

You two have now been introduced to each other, you now have an in to begin new conversation some other day. The next time you see her, just a simple, "Hi, Jamie, how are you today?" Something to show her you remembered her name. Don't talk to her too much, tell her you have to get going. Then set a morning date before work or whatever you two do to meet at the same coffee shop. But don't say date, just ask her if she wants to meet some morning for coffee. If you get that opportunity, ask her questions about what you want to get to know about her. Figure out whether she walks to wherever she goes next or something, then the 2nd time you guys meet for coffee, offer to give her a ride.

Don't talk about the G. If she asks about it, quick answers. If she starts asking too much about it, she's interested in the car more than you.

I wouldn't necessarily say a girl that comments on cars or other belongings first is a gold digger. When guys comment on girls to start conversation, we comment on something about them, such as looks or their clothes or something. Following the same logic, we could say those guys are only interested in looks. But the real reason behind it is just trying to initiate conversation and people like to be commented on in a good way.

If the first get together goes well at the coffee shop (coffee shop is key because you both are comfortable there) and you get a second one, I would still play it safe with the coffee shop. If that goes well and a third one can be arranged, then go elsewhere and get out of the coffee shop and do something fun.

[Graflo]

So I just missed the timimg today and we just barely saw each other... Nice smile and a hi... I will keep you posted.

You guys rock!!

I have got some good pointers and think smockers has the best method that suits my style and personality. My plan is to make small chit chat with her this week and hopefully leads into some weekend time. The next move for me is to thank her for the comment and tell her she made my day and buy her a cup of coffee as a thanks. After that will be a lunch invite to keep it casual...

I would like to think she was just using the car comment to break the ice... She doesn't come off to me as the gold digger type. She has a new car, she is very attractive, dresses in nice expensive looking clothes every day so I doubt she is after my money. She also seems just a little timid/shy which is suprising for a woman that will turn every head walking down the street. (today's pink sundress was amazing). I'd say she's about 5'6-5'8 blonde, obviously works out daily and has the perfect tan... Not oompa loompa tan either which I can't stand.

As far as the comment about keeping you posted... If I was going to lie I wouldn't have admitted that I got tounge twisted yesterday.

And I don't have any sex panther cologne... I might have a couple shots of High Karate left...lol

Thanks again for all your comments... great stuff... I'm always at a loss in the schmooozing ladies department... It has really helped.

You know it's funny that I'm a corporate screw and lead a large crew of people and head meetings and talk in front of large groups all the time and it never bothers me. Yet stand me in front of a beautiful woman and my mind just shuts down.... I don't even get Dream Weaver playing...lol.

[zozoka1212]

This is funny. There are couple of good ones.

What I would do is just go to her and tell her you know/heard a good dining place which is out of the town or other side of the town. I would like to take you there to try their best.... and the mean time you can see and ride in the car you falling in love with. Ask her # so you can get a hold of her to discuss when to pick her up. Don't call her on the same day. Wait a day or 2.

She already did the first step. I think it was actually better you did not go for it right at the first time. It would of shown as you want this girl right now. Let her think you like her but you are not that pushy.

As G says make sure you call her name. It is true everywhere. If you remeber names that's half of the good impression to start. More detailed you remeber the better it gets. They know you pay attention to them and care about them.

Good Luck

Remeber she already did the first step. Should be really easy.

[suby01]

zozo your forgot the EH in there.

[zozoka1212]

LOL

EH

[BrandAidDesignG35]

Just go up to her, tell her how you feel.

Once it's done, everything will be much easier... and you don't want to start off faking or being MR. perfect... always bites you in the Arse. Just be yourself, tell her she is the most beautiful girl in the world and she'll melt for you, she already has been noticing you, so just casually approach her sometime.

Maybe have a beer or vodka to take the edge off, you can get her in your car with a few simple words, and then the hard part is over. Tell her you want to show her your car.

By the way, the G is the top #1 douchbag car, you can get any slut or whore you desire ... lol

I was once doing a job at a hotel, the staff had a hot waitress serving people, When it was all over she was outside... I approached...

dum dum: Why didn't you serve me my food? (just kidding)Girl: What? You should've got my attentiondum dum: No I was just kiddingGirl: You have a really nice smiledum dum: Thanks = walks away..

I failed, to my defence, she didn't know I was rocking the G, I almost said "wait till you see my car" in response to her smile comment. Jeez, I've been with over a hundred girls, but now after being with 1 girl for over 4 years, my game is long gone. I used to pick girls up in school just looking at them, eye contact, in the bed that night I swear...

I miss the hunt, once you got em, you want em gone.

Keep us posted, and hey, worse thing that could happen would be a no-go, but that's out of the question as she's already approached you

Go getter Tiger

[jmcohen23]

what you are talking about there is called "self-confidence".

clearly, you have the skills (speaking in front of audiences is the #1 fear - above death - for people). so it's a matter of transferring those skills from one arena to another. I'm sure you tell your employees that all the time.

here's a little confidence I usually tell myself: she is the lucky one to spend time with you; you are going to show her what it is like to have a great time, and show her what a good listener you are.

keep those things in mind, and the next thing you know, you'll be on a 3rd date.

[pfarmer]

Yet stand me in front of a beautiful woman and my mind just shuts down.... I don't even get Dream Weaver playing...lol.

That is because all the blood is draining away from your brain.

Perry