legal custody advice request

A General Discussion forum for cars and other topics, and a great place to introduce yourself if you are new to NICO!
User avatar
skydragoness
Posts: 9394
Joined: Wed Jul 24, 2002 6:49 am
Car: 03' 350z Touring 6spd
92' 240sx 60k survivor :)
Location: North DFW, TEJAS
Contact:

Post

nissangirl74 wrote:-Your parents just need to sever all ties with the father and get him completely out of her life. They need to act quickly, before your niece starts to develop memories. The less she can recall and brood about later, the better.


numbnuts: I have to remark how almost identical your issue is with my 3yr old nephew.

Fortunately there isn't any abuse or stealing issues with the father but he's still a deadbeat that doesn't pay child support, has a criminal record, doesn't visit (but that's a good thing, he's been told to not come around). But my sister is just as bad: a lazy 22 yr old that likes to party and seems to have no interest in the well-being of her son. I question whether she is related to us at all. My mother does all the work and she has a full-time job. For her to gain custody and kick my sister out does not work though. And he won't receive medicaid or other benefits if she takes custody of him anyway.

From my position as an aunt ..I have to say it's very infuriating to watch.

I think your parents won't have an issue gaining custody and I commend them for doing the right thing. Somebodyhas to these days...


User avatar
numbnuts240
Posts: 32380
Joined: Sat Jul 01, 2006 4:17 pm
Car: 1999 Ford Exploder 4-door 5spd
1974 Datsun Fairlady-Z 250GT
2011 Ford Focus
2010 Mazda 3
Location: TJ

Post

UPDATE:

no contact from father of the year for the last 13 months. at all. dcf was making monthly visits to my parents' house to see how things were going (they spent more time shooting the breeze than actually talking about the case because it was open and shut according to the agent). dcf made contact with him once and he claimed that his absence was due to grief over my sister's passing. imho, that's a bs cop-out. i lost a sister and my parents a daughter, we grieve daily but we step up and do what needs to be done for my niece.

so we went to a preliminary hearing on the 2nd with dcf and my niece's attorney. they both said they would be recommending to a judge that he lose his guardianship rights entirely to my parents. and this morning we went and sat in front of the judge and now it's all official. he no longer has any legal say in anything about her life. it's finally over and i'm really relieved after all this time. thanks again for all your support.

it was a very informal hearing. the judge didn't touch his gavel once, and that kind of made me sad.

User avatar
BusyBadger
Posts: 3753
Joined: Thu Apr 28, 2005 3:20 pm
Car: '92 Nissan 240SX
'05 Nissan 350Z
'13 Nissan Juke
Contact:

Post

numbnuts240 wrote:the judge didn't touch his gavel once, and that kind of made me sad.
Is that some sort of euphemism? :)

Thought you could use a smile. Glad things worked out for your fam.

User avatar
numbnuts240
Posts: 32380
Joined: Sat Jul 01, 2006 4:17 pm
Car: 1999 Ford Exploder 4-door 5spd
1974 Datsun Fairlady-Z 250GT
2011 Ford Focus
2010 Mazda 3
Location: TJ

Post

no euphemism required, there were hotties with nice dumpers all over that office.

User avatar
snwbrdr435
Posts: 12721
Joined: Thu Jun 28, 2007 7:07 am
Car: 85 VW Westfalia, CBR F4i, SV650s, 1988 Honda Hawk(race)
Location: People's Republic of MA
Contact:

Post

Nice!

Heavy
Posts: 786
Joined: Sat Apr 07, 2007 2:40 pm
Car: 1992 Mr.Two, 1996 LS4HUNNID, 1999 Appliance on wheels.
Location: Danbury CT

Post

glad the dad didnt get a damn thing and everything worked out in your familys favor, im so sick of hearing about deadbeat parents. So.... wanna go murder a case of yuengling and stumble over to his house and write MACAQUE all over his front door? :naughty:

User avatar
numbnuts240
Posts: 32380
Joined: Sat Jul 01, 2006 4:17 pm
Car: 1999 Ford Exploder 4-door 5spd
1974 Datsun Fairlady-Z 250GT
2011 Ford Focus
2010 Mazda 3
Location: TJ

Post

Heavy wrote:So.... wanna go murder a case of yuengling and stumble over to his house and write MACAQUE all over his front door? :naughty:
is that some kind of trick question where you already know the answer before you ask it?

Heavy
Posts: 786
Joined: Sat Apr 07, 2007 2:40 pm
Car: 1992 Mr.Two, 1996 LS4HUNNID, 1999 Appliance on wheels.
Location: Danbury CT

Post

lol ill be over friday...

User avatar
frapjap
Posts: 13175
Joined: Thu Jul 01, 2004 2:46 pm
Car: '99 Pontiac Firebird Trans Am
'07 Subaru Legacy
Location: South Coast Massachusetts

Post

2 words.
Potato.
Gun.

Glad that deadbeat isn't getting the privilege to see his child.

User avatar
numbnuts240
Posts: 32380
Joined: Sat Jul 01, 2006 4:17 pm
Car: 1999 Ford Exploder 4-door 5spd
1974 Datsun Fairlady-Z 250GT
2011 Ford Focus
2010 Mazda 3
Location: TJ

Post

he isn't barred from seeing his daughter, in fact, my parents WANT her to have a relationship with him. all his legal rights as a parent are just gone now.

User avatar
frapjap
Posts: 13175
Joined: Thu Jul 01, 2004 2:46 pm
Car: '99 Pontiac Firebird Trans Am
'07 Subaru Legacy
Location: South Coast Massachusetts

Post

Have his douchebaggery ways changed?

User avatar
numbnuts240
Posts: 32380
Joined: Sat Jul 01, 2006 4:17 pm
Car: 1999 Ford Exploder 4-door 5spd
1974 Datsun Fairlady-Z 250GT
2011 Ford Focus
2010 Mazda 3
Location: TJ

Post

they sure have. he went from being a piss poor excuse for a father to an absent father.

User avatar
frapjap
Posts: 13175
Joined: Thu Jul 01, 2004 2:46 pm
Car: '99 Pontiac Firebird Trans Am
'07 Subaru Legacy
Location: South Coast Massachusetts

Post

Soooooo what you're really saying is no one would miss him should a black van with no windows pull up and abducts him?
Last edited by frapjap on Tue Feb 14, 2012 12:33 pm, edited 1 time in total.

User avatar
numbnuts240
Posts: 32380
Joined: Sat Jul 01, 2006 4:17 pm
Car: 1999 Ford Exploder 4-door 5spd
1974 Datsun Fairlady-Z 250GT
2011 Ford Focus
2010 Mazda 3
Location: TJ

Post

probably not.

User avatar
nissangirl74
Moderator
Posts: 13910
Joined: Sat Jan 17, 2009 1:15 pm
Car: 2014 Xterra Pro4X, '12 Titan 4x4, '98 240sx, '89 Pao, '77 620, '72 240Z w/RB25, '68 510, '67 WRL411, '67.5 SPL 311, '63 Bluebird, '63 NL320

Post

Well, if the past 13 months are any indication, you won't have to worry about the SOB being a bad influence to your niece. He has to be present for that. As much as I am a proponent (sp?) for dead beat dads taking care of their responsibilities, I know from personal experience that sometimes it's better when they just go away. I have no doubt that your niece will do just fine being raised by you and your parents. She has lots of love and support, which she needs, and no BS from her dad, that she doesn't. In the end, she wins and that's all that's important. Kudos to the judge for doing the right thing. :dblthumb:


Return to “General Chat”