in need of some advice

[Fury_350]

just so you dont waste your time reading all of this, this is a relationship problem.

alright so heres my situation..... ive known this amazing girl for awhile now, but just recently ( about a month to a month n a half ago) we've been hanging out alot. everything is going good, but the only thing thats really throwing me off is, there will be certain days that when we will hang out and have a good time, the next day its like she doesnt even know that i exist. about 2 weeks ago when we were drivin around we stopped somewhere and fooled around a little bit, nothing to serious and then its like i just meet her all over again the next day. a couple of days ago the same thing happened. and now it seems like im back to square one. i dont get it. its like im a fish trying to eat a worm off the hook, but she keeps reeling it in to fast and throwing it back out, yea i know s***ty example, but thats how it feels. im thinking that i should just let her pass by me seems how im getting deployed soon anyways. its just hard to come across a good girl thats worth chasing now a days

[Ace2cool]

Civilian or military?

[Pieceofsand]

DTB

[jona300zx]

dude if your getting deployed then take advantage of the situation now. you never know what will happen tomorrow.

[Ace2cool]

I gotta agree with Jonas on this one. PIIHB.

But seriously, if she's military, she's probably worried about all the "fraternization" BS that they shove down our throats.

[Bmore-coupe]

IB4M (In before Michele)....

[Fury_350]

yea we're both military. idk, maybe its just that i dont know how to tell her, if i really do? and one thing that i forgot to mention is, shes going to germany when im about half way done with my tour. it doesnt really help put the fire out, i kno. fml. and trust me i'd love to piihb lol

[Ace2cool]

and trust me i'd love to piihb lol

You wanna put your in her ?? That's pretty hardcore.

She's probably got separation anxiety. I mean, you both know what it's like being separated from family and friends, and I imagine she doesn't want to get into a relationship knowing that you're gonna go away for 9 months, then she's going away halfway through your deployment.

[Fury_350]

but on the same note, why would she show interest then? cause she knew that we were both leaving months ago just like i did

[infinitgkid]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NNEgUPKxk7A

Tell her how you feel, but be warned:

You will either win her over, or lose her forever...

It's your choice, choose wisely.

[Fury_350]

well i told her last night on one of our late night excursions, not sure how she took it. it was quiet for a little bit of the trip on the way back, but then she just kept messing with me and wouldnt stop until we got back. donuts in an empty snowy secluded parking lot ftw!

[Dattebayo]

Sounds like she's just not that into you. Some chicks don't like to be pushed, and you sound like you're in a hurry to get into a relationship. Let it be, dude.

[breadbox]

Yeah, sound like she doesn't know what she wants. Which to me means pursue it and it will let you down.

I have an emotional friend who was with a girl that has my personality, and I told him its not gonna happen no matter how much you will try to make it work. Which has led to them texting each other alot and me hearing how she keeps do this and that.

So unless you are getting that she like hanging out with you even if there is no physical stuff going on, then I'd say just keep on keeping on and she might change her attitude and jump on board.

[Bubba1]

Yeah, sound like she doesn't know what she wants. Which to me means pursue it and it will let you down.

I have an emotional friend who was with a girl that has my personality, and I told him its not gonna happen no matter how much you will try to make it work. Which has led to them texting each other alot and me hearing how she keeps do this and that.

So unless you are getting that she like hanging out with you even if there is no physical stuff going on, then I'd say just keep on keeping on and she might change her attitude and jump on board.

Sorry couldn't resist. If you are both active military folks, doesn't the military frown on relationships within the ranks? I'm wondering if that might have something to do with her being being warm/cold.

We obviously don't know her as well as you do. Perhaps a more direct approach might be in order. Why not sit down with her and discuss together where your relationship is going? That's where to find your answer.

Good luck

[breadbox]

yeah, I think I know someone getting kicked out for such fraternization or at least is catching a lot of hell over it.

Be smart don't PIIHB while on duty. I know that pretty much shouldn't have to be said but...ya you get in trouble.

[Fury_350]

well fraternization only really applies to officer and enlisted, not enlisted and enlisted. if that was the case, theres alot going on where im at right now lol. but i think im just going to let her be and find someone thats not in the military.

[Dattebayo]

well fraternization only really applies to officer and enlisted, not enlisted and enlisted.

You must be pretty low on the totem pole if you think that's the case...

[DR F33LG0OD]

Whatever you do, Don't Stop Believin'

[Mr1der]

hold on to that feellllinnngg...

seriously though, straight up give her an Ultimatum.

Be all like "yo, you down to f*** or what?"

give her stone cold honesty, if she can't handle the truth, well, then you get to yell at her like Jack Nicholson.

so it's win win for you. You either get p****, or a comical story about yelling at a girl who was being flakey.

[IanS]

Are you 13? Its called communication, ask her wtf is going on, not us.

[SkinnyKibbles]

Sounds like a c*** tease and I agree with Ian on this one.