I've never had feelings like this...

[UncleBen]

This is a girl thread so if you dont wanna read a thread about a girl then get out now!!! Save yourself!!!

Guys I have got it bad. For the past 3.5 weeks I have been completely infatuated with this girl. I met her, well, 3.5 weeks ago. She is a racecar driver for one, she is gorgeous (blonde, 5'5", you get the idea), we are perfect it seems.

But sometimes I wonder if the feelings I have towards her are mutual? I think I am just paranoid because I want to do anything (almost) to make this relationship work. But what am I saying, this isn't even a relationship yet!! We hang out, talk on the phone till wee-hours of the night *everynight*, but we aren't "together" as you might say.

So what is my problem? I dont really know, I guess the whole being worried about how she feels thing. I know she likes me and all that jazz, she has told me, but often times it doesn't seem like it.....or maybe I just dont know her well enough yet to know how she acts towards things. By no means are we rushing anything, we have discussed it and are quite comfortable with each other for now and are glad we are taking it nice and slow. It can't hurt to go slow eh?

Point to this thread? Nope.

[Mr1der]

life for you.

Hope she feels the same though homeboy.

umm...pics or shens?

[Altiman94]

ask her if she likes you. It's that easy. Good idea on taking it slow, you'll benefit in the end because of your patience. Pics????

[UncleBen]

None yet, we are going out like all day tomorrow, so I will get some pics if I remember (or can).

[Mr1der]

HIGH FIVE!

you should take her mini golfing and use it as an oppurtunity to smack her *** and say good game on damn near every hole...

[UncleBen]

ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!

Not too many mini golf courses around here that are worthy. I'll keep that in mind though, Thanks, hahaha.

[jdmfreak]

LOL! LMAO!

[JDMaholic]

You should ask one of your female freinds to find out, only other girls can understand their system. If not you could do what I do ignore everything she says appreciate the fact she is not sufficating you.

[Jesda]

I have no advice, but I wish you the best of luck. Hope it works out!

[SmithSR]

Ditto to what Jesda said.

[Axel Grungy]

hey if its meant to happen it will, dont worry. hope it works out fer ya

[nismo510]

she races!!! keep her if not for a trophi girl.j/k it will all come to gether in the end i guess.the big q is .......dose she drive a nissan?

[ceniack]

one thing i would do is limit the phone time to just making dates and what not, that way you have more to talk abotu in person and she doesn't loose interest, atleast untill you seal the deal

but other than that, good luck, and be yourself. and if there are go-cart tracks near by, take her there.

[UncleBen]

Good ideas....I like the limiting the phone time. Except she loves talking on the phone...

I dunno, I will see whats up. I am playing it more lowkey now, trying to keep it interesting. We are actually going to some races tonight I am pretty sure, so I don't have to worry about what we are going to do.

I sure hope this works, honestly.

[UncleBen]

And yes I am trying to get in good with some of her friends, that way I can get info about what she is saying. It is working so far, just haven't had the chance to talk to her friends as much as I would like :/

[nametakennow]

Just make sure to take a step back and look at it all from an objective perspective sometimes, otherwise you'll fall into nothing.

Remember that women are tricky. I know I sound really suspicious, but it's true. Whenever you do the objective thing also figure out if she has anything to gain by being with you (other than a great relationship, etc)... getting used sucks. Getting used for petty purposes sucks hard.

And get to know her best male friend as well as possible. You'll probably get a really cool friend out of it, not to mention a lot of insight as to how she is.

[Jesda]

I dont see a reason to limit phone time. I love long phone conversations -- theyre extremely relaxing and refreshing and its a non-confrontational way to connect with the other person.

If you have a lot to talk about on the phone, I dont doubt you'll find things to talk about in person.

-Jesda

[w1ngzer0]

ooooga chaka oooga oooga oooga chaka oooga oooga oooga chaka........

i just got this feeling this feeling inside of me. Girl you just don't relize what you do to me.....

[Jesda]

Once it loads, hit play.

http://www.hellonetwork.com/de...ok300

[w1ngzer0]

Once it loads, hit play.

http://www.hellonetwork.com/de...ok300

what the hell is this ****....

[The Mic]

Im home, had an argument. Bleh w/e screw the *****, im sick anyways=Pooo a girl thread, mind if I chim in?

id suggest you stop acting like one of her gf's by talking to her every night, and ask her out. Unless you wanna add another girl to your friend list

if you wish for me to elaborate, please don't ask

[nametakennow]

Or not? A lot of chicks like their guy friends a bit more than just friends, but they never really admit directly to them. Moreover, the best relationships develop from friendships first.

Trust me, if she's interested now, she'll stay interested whether she's with you or not (or until you express a disinterest). Don't rush things.

If it makes any more sense, look at two scenarios.

1. He asks her out, they're together awhile, she realizes she's not interested, he gets hurt, **** gets ugly, and he loses not just a gf, but also a friend.

2. He doesn't ask her out, she realizes (or he realizes, both situations can work in the reverse) she's not interested, they stay friends, everyone's a happy camper in the end.

That's just the negative side. It's just as likely that they'll end up with something good.

[The Mic]

Girls are either interested or not. They don't find out during the date. If you got a date with a chick, it means shes interested. But if afterwards you can't get another date than you prob did something causing the interest level to plummel.

And the fear of losing a friend? That is what anchors a lot of guys from doing anything at all only to find out later she had a crush on him when shes married. I asked out my neighbor like a year ago and we're still friends even though she wasn't interested. If she doesn't like you then you get to move on and at least you know. Most guys keep thinking as her friend "she prob likes me , or not" and they never find out. I'm glad that i was rejected then because now i have a gf whos a bajilion times hotter than her

[nametakennow]

I never expressed fear of losing a friend. I also never told him to sit on his laurels.

What I was saying is that he ought not rush things, because he could get some sort of relationship out of this either way. More importantly, rushing leads to bad situations overall.

My statements hadn't the slightest thing to do with the fear of rejection.

Trust me, I have a friend whom I've nearly dated many times, but we're still good friends despite both of us getting rejected by the other multiple times.

"A bajillion times hotter than her" screams of jealousy and anger at your rejection.

If after a first date (he should definitely start moving that direction if he feels ready to) he can't get a date with her again, she may just not be interested in general. Whether or not he played the wrong cards. Moreover, if he was himself the whole night and he can't get a second date, they aren't a good match anyway. (Though I also argue that it takes more than one date to really decide anything, but we're assuming she disagrees with that argument.)

[Altiman94]

Of course NTN had to chime in. He seems to be some sort of expert on chicks these days. I just give the usual. Be yourself, take things slow. Everything will go with the natural flow and you might get her, might not. That's just the way things are.

[vicki]

3.5 weeks = early stages of infatuation. Take it slow for the first few months. Anyone can be perfect until you truly get to know what's underneath the surface.

Just a note: If any girl talks to you until "the wee hours of the morning", then she is interested. I hate being on the phone so if you can get my to stay on the phone for more than an hour, I'd be very impressed.

I wouldn't stress over it. Relationships and members of the opposite sex come and go. If she doesn't like you, then oh well.

[Nathan]

Just give up while you are ahead...there is nothing in the future for any relationship but disaster.

[-HyJynX-]

I would've said the same thi

Just give up while you are ahead...there is nothing in the future for any relationship but disaster.

I wouldve said the same thing.

[w1ngzer0]

Just give up while you are ahead...there is nothing in the future for any relationship but disaster.

agreed

/signed

[jdmfreak]

Oh he aint the only one. I just keep my mouth shut most of the time. Go ahead and ask Wes or NTN. Go ahead. They'll tell you that Im all of these things.

a. He's ****in pimpzillab. Jeff=Teh Mastac. Jeff=Planning genious when it comes to dates or letting a girl downd. His skills are GOLDEN(This ones for wes)