I need some solid opinions. Boyfriend issue.

[themadscientist]

As one who has made the mistake in the past, I have to force myself not to believe this, or else I'm doomed... That, or I can just stay single and not have to worry about it.

You mean turtles?

[Dittoz7]

Shady As Fak...

[AppleBonker]

Turtles are never a mistake

[EZcheese15]

I'm not judging you, but I think it important to look at this situation logically.

1. You were cheating with him before. That sets up the impression that that is a reasonable relationship arrangement.

2. He was cheating with you before. This reinforces the impression that you condone the activity.

3. he cheated on you very quickly and you forgave him. This drives home the impression that cheating is not a deal-breaker for you.

This relationship was spawned and grew to its current state laced with multiple incidents of infidelity. The very very foundation upon which it is built is mud; no structure can last built on that.

You need to do some soul-searching and come to understand what you really want. If you like to live fast and loose, be honest with yourself and live that way. I think the only time you do something "wrong" is when you misrepresent what you are about to others. If you, however, truly want a committed relationship, you must first sever ties with this guy. Don't hate him, don't make a big deal about it. You two cannot travel the same path and you have to part ways. You then need to live the way you claim to want. That means, no hooking up with someone who is in a relationship. If he would be willing, he's a cheater and he will show you no more respect than his current girlfriend. If he is with someone, and he really wants to be with you, and he breaks cleanly and maturely with his current girl before starting anything with you, then you know you have found a REAL MAN, and he might be a keeper. Unless he drives a Honda of course.

Or a Neon

For realz though, I think TMS just gave some great advice.

[AZ89two4Tsx]

You're getting mad that he's cheating when you BOTH were cheating, and that's how you got together in the first place?

Sounds like you're just getting a taste of your own medicine.

How does it feel?

[krimsonviper]

damn why you guys gotta be like this. got a perfect girl right f***ing in front of you and you want to throw it all away for the two-week sorority f*** girl who has no substance to her whatsoever.

Please don't bottle us all in the same category. The same can be said with you women.

Anyway, I say break it off with him. You're not going to be able to trust him, simply because you 2 hooked up during cheating. You're thinking to yourself, "he can do it to me, too." Truthfully, he can and most likely is because he wasn't truthful to you in the first place. It's always going to be stuck in the back of your head. Leave and don't come back, or problems are going to continue to arise from this.

[hbpignosePA]

i learned a lesson from it and im trying not to believe the "once a cheater, always a cheater"...i haven't done this sort of thing before and i do believe people can change. but for some reason the consensus is against that and maybe im just trying to find some sort of small inkling that my guy is different.

good luck with that

people don't change, the sooner you figure that out the better off you are... i don't really have any sympathy since you cheated as well but me thinks if you really wanted to change your current situation you would

[krimsonviper]

Double post. I didn't read the whole thread.

[elwesso]

I kinda think that whenever men and women have issues, you can boil the issue down to the differences between men and women.

Men are solution based, women are emotion based..

You have a problem with him talking to this person, and you've made that known to him.

Make him come up with a "solution" to the problem... if he comes up with something reasonable, then you can hold him accountable to it. If he doesnt, or breaks his end of the bargain, then its done and over. If he really cares, he'll make it happen... If he doesnt, then it should be obvious.

That of course is assuming you even want to give him a second chance, and IMO thats not for me to decide.

[JustinStrife]

not to be a d!ck to you stace. I like you but... Karma is a bich!I don't like cheaters.

Neither do I. Have been cheated on by two different girlfriends. One I was engaged to. She was banging a friend of hers while I was laid up for 12 days in a hospital room fighting to keep my leg(I joined Nicoclub while I was in rehab). Payback's always a b**** though... Their lives are miserable and God's paid them in lots and lots of coal.

[PEZi]

i have what seems to simple knowledge here.... douche drives an SRT-4.... of course he sucks!!!!

ditch him... and get someone who's less of a fail

[Mr1der]

kick him to the curb unless he looks like Mick Jagger.

[EZcheese15]

i have what seems to simple knowledge here.... douche drives an SRT-4.... of course he sucks!!!!

ditch him... and get someone who's less of a fail

What's worse is that he had her convinced she needed to get rid of her Sentra (which is pretty bad a** IMO) to get an SRT4 for herself! Boooo.

[Mr1der]

I'm not playing the devil's advocate...but I'd rather have an SRT-4 than about any Sentra....

sell the Sentra and get a nice used Z or G. And some earmuffs.

[Veriest1]

Yes, you both made a mistake but it sounds like he's a repeat offender. While you probably weren't his first affair and, rather obviously, aren't his last he needs to be your first and last affair.

You got burned but you know what you need to do. So cut your losses, (wo)man up, and get out of there.

[zerepdivad]

I know this entirely. I also like turtles.

That i can respect. Good morrow to you sir.

[Bubba1]

., then you know you have found a REAL MAN, and he might be a keeper. Unless he drives a Honda of course.

[93coupe]

Cliff's notes: Your man cheated on you with Mary Jane? I see.

I really don't have too much advice here. If you are unhappy then get out. I think it is karma coming back on you for the way you got together with your current boyfriend. Are you surprised that a cheater cheated on you?

[PoorManQ45]

Without reading anything but the first post.

Cheaters Cheat. It's sad that you cheated, hopefully you don't anymore.

This guy is a cheater and doesn't seem like he'll quit.

[Mastagunz]

He's probably cheating on you. Actually I hope he is.

I hate cheaters and I have no respect for them at all.



/thread

[93coupe]

He's probably cheating on you. Actually I hope he is.

I hate cheaters and I have no respect for them at all.



/thread

[Koshin]

El Oh El

[93coupe]

Terrible song.

[Koshin]

cheaters cheat............................y0

[JLAUDIO85]

cheaters cheat............................y0

better not be cheating on me.. dont make me do sick things when ure sleeping..........y0

[93coupe]

[sentrastace]

You're getting mad that he's cheating when you BOTH were cheating, and that's how you got together in the first place?

Sounds like you're just getting a taste of your own medicine.

How does it feel?

I didn't say that he was cheated, I stated that he lied to be about a girl that leads me to believe that he may be thinking of cheating/already cheating, I don't know for sure yet.

[sentrastace]

Please don't bottle us all in the same category. The same can be said with you women.

sorry i dont mean to bottle all men in the same category, because i know thats not the case and women are the same way too. im just frustrated.

[snwbrdr435]

PIIHB?

[sentrastace]

What's worse is that he had her convinced she needed to get rid of her Sentra (which is pretty bad a** IMO) to get an SRT4 for herself! Boooo.

i'm not trading the sentra anymore for an SRT-4. if anything I'll be trying to do some sort of manual swap + turbo on the sentra and then buying a black SRT-4 as well once i graduate.