I need some solid opinions. Boyfriend issue.

[Empty V]

Not to be a d!ck or be judgemental like you asked but (you did ask for our opinions) you both deserve what you get because your both cheaters.

i see everyone else being nice about it but you know what they say, once a cheater, always a cheater...he's gonna continue to cheat.

Is this your first time cheating on a significant other or have you done this sort of thing before?

Again, nothing personal, i'm not judging you but it is what it is...everyone else here seems to be sugarcoating it.

As harsh as this sounds I give it a +1. A relationship that is based on dishonesty, especially on both ends, will not work out. I'm sure you're going to think I'm a total d!ck for this but I think you guys deserve each other. At least until you've felt regret for what you've done by being hurt in the same fashion(after you've done it, prior instances don't count). It may sound archaic but I believe in quid pro quo in most cases. Very few people reform their cheating ways. If you're one of those few I commend you, if not then you deserve everything you get.

[Chiquitita]

If you can live without him, he's not the one.

You're young, single, beautiful, employed and independent. You don't need him. Time to move on.

Good luck.

Exactly, stop wasting your time with someone who's not worth it!

[Koshin]

all the unhappy women on NICO, lets get together and make a Rich sammich...

Yeah

[initial_jc]

Like the Situation from Jersey Shore said "If a guy doesn’t like you, it’s called f*ck you."

[Morph]

Hate to say it as im sure everyone else her has he's cheating on you.

Few clues.

1. He cheated on his ex. Not a gurantee every time but most cheaters will do so again and again. ( Sucks i hooked up w my ex before she was single hehe prob why im not with her LOL, but ish happens.)

2. Messaging her behind your back and saying he misses her. Hum i havent seen my best friend in like a week and you dont see me sending him messages OMFG Dude i miss you...eh no.

3. If he was just friends with her he would have told you to begin with.

Leave the douche and stay gone. One of my friends in HS was dating this complete a$$ that did similar things and treated her like crap. 3 months in i told her to get the eff out as fast as possible. She didnt listen and he said that he was sorry and he really ment it and it would never happen again. And guess what happened again and again and again. When they finally broke up it lasted like a week and they got back together. She claimed he changed,he didn't people dont often if ever change. Its hard to breakup expically if your "forced" to do so just dont remember just the good times. Those will keep you in a unhealthy relationship too long.
Modified by Morph at 1:50 PM 2/23/2010

[jona300zx]

If you deep inside you are not happy, then it is not worth it. think to yourself. does it feel right? when you are not together, does everything around you make you think of him? can you live without him?

[Bubba1]

all the unhappy women on NICO, lets get together and make a Rich sammich...

Yeah

Of course, you might end up as "lucky Pierre" between PMQ and Nala....

[dusred]

to this i say

Not to be a d!ck or be judgemental like you asked but (you did ask for our opinions) you both deserve what you get because your both cheaters.

i see everyone else being nice about it but you know what they say, once a cheater, always a cheater...he's gonna continue to cheat.

Is this your first time cheating on a significant other or have you done this sort of thing before?

Again, nothing personal, i'm not judging you but it is what it is...everyone else here seems to be sugarcoating it.

Stole the words right off my keyboard. If you'd always been faithful I'd have a little more sympathy for you. That being said I know people can repent of those kinds of things. You got into a relationship with a fresh cheater what did you expect? You simply started out on the wrong foot.

Now, wash all that behind you and find an honorable man who isn't a cheater. Once you meet the right person there will be no doubt in your mind that he is the right person.

Good luck!

[Ajax]

A friend of mine had a saying- "If he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you."Obviously that's not a definite, but its decent enough advice to keep in mind.If she's realy just a friend, then would she be welcome over when you are there? or would that be awkward? I mean, you don't need to be BFF with all of each other's friends, but you shouldn't mind their company. If you're uncomfortable with her, perhaps thats a clue?Anyway, protect yourself and make sure you're getting what you need out of the relationship.

[Koshin]

does it feel right when Im deep inside you? wait, what?!?!

[f1seb]

He drives a Neon doesn't he?

I don't care how fast it is and I don't care how different the SRT-4 is from a normal Neon.

A Neon is a Neon!!!! I hope that answers your question.

[jona300zx]

does it feel right when Im deep inside you? wait, what?!?!

dude your loco

[Ajax]

Wait- Obviousness! Hire a PI!!!

[Koshin]

[Dire91]

He is obviously cheating, that's a given. It's hard to just cut off ties with a significant other, the fact you two started a relationship by cheating doesn't help. I mean not to be an a** but did you really see a relationship that started on the basis of cheating working out in the long run? He probably still has feelings for her and thinks he is getting the best of both worlds (two girls).

[Koshin]

I dated a girl for 3.5 years that started as an affair. Just sayin'

If I want a chick, Ill take her from a dude. Just the way it is. Sorry guys

[turbo2nr]

get a bottle of black and you'll be alright ;-)

when me and my x broke up (2yr relationship b/c she was cheating) it motivated me to work on my car i ended up doing alot to it.. you'll be surpised how much money you save when your single..

and someone else will come along and it will be 100x better then it ever was.. i didnt think it was possible but then i met my current girl and its been all good..

in the mean time go out, party, drink, have fun your young ..

[Tyler]

he's with you for you booty not your beauty

[cellardoorv]

Stace,

I stayed with my ex for fifteen years, giving him chance after chance after chance. The time didn't make him realize anything. All it did was give him a chance to have his cake and eat it too. From a physical health standpoint, get the hell out before he gives you something you can't get rid of. From a mental health standpoint, get out before he makes you depressed. From a financial standpoint, get the hell out before he bleeds you dry. Money buys things and stuff. You can't buy love. I could go on and on but I'll leave you with this. Those fifteen years, I can't get those back and I can't erase what happened. Live your life as if you've always got just one day left. Don't waste it.

This, this and THIS.

Mine wasn't 15 years, but enough years (3) to get a taste of all of this.

One of the worst feelings in the world is having to go to the doctor to get an STD test... just in case... all the while wanting to cry because "why can't he just LOVE ME!" and then he won't pick up the cell phone that YOU pay for to talk to you, because he's driving around in the car that YOU put a down payment on, probably to visit said "Jane".

Not... that I know exactly how that feels or anything...



You know what to do. You don't want to feel like a failure because hey, "I put so much time, effort and money into this relationship so I mean, HEY, it has to work eventually, right? Just one more shot." No. It won't work. Yes. It failed. I'm sorry, but hey, not everything is going to work out. In fact, a lot of your relationships will fail. But that will just make that ONE who IS right for you all that more special.

It'll come to you. None of the advice we give (while all good) will convince you. We can only give our opinions, and I'm sure your friends and family will, or have, said the same. But the fact that you're coming to us with this issue already shows that you KNOW something is f***ed up, somewhere. So it has to come from you. And one day, you'll step back and say to yourself "What the hell am I fighting for? And is he fighting for the same thing as I am?"

I'm not saying that relationships are supposed to be perfect every waking moment and aren't work. They are. Constantly. But you shouldn't have to work THIS HARD against something so... wrong.

We know it. You know it. He knows it.

[Koshin]

[flohtingPoint]

stace, you're a nice girl, from what i know of you. unfortunately, i have to tell you that the tool bag is still fooling around with "jane". kick his sorry a** to the curb and find somebody more worthwhile.

Not surprising as the Beltway is jam packed with toolbags.

[cellardoorv]

Yeah yeah yeah, Rich. FINE. I'll say it for you. You were the one telling me I should leave my ex, blah blah blah. You and the rest of the world. Save it. Go drive your truhck.

[numbnuts240]

eh, all the broads around here are worthless whores. i was introduced to a girl from another state and she's awesome.

[sentrastace]

? when you are not together, does everything around you make you think of him?

absolutely.

[flohtingPoint]

eh, all the broads around here are worthless whores. i was introduced to a girl from another state and she's awesome.

Yes, the chicks here I've fornicated with were also out of state imports.

[cellardoorv]

eh, all the broads around here are worthless whores. i was introduced to a girl from another state and she's awesome.

Watch it.

But I know what you mean. Went out of state for mine as well

[numbnuts240]

absolutely.

puppy loveblind infatuationhopelessly devout

i used to suffer from that with one of my exes. looking back at it now, she treated me like scum and took me for an emotional ride. it's over, i've found someone new, and i couldn't be happier.

Yes, the chicks here I've fornicated with were also out of state imports.

[cellardoorv]

One must not confuse obsession with love

or any of these

puppy loveblind infatuationhopelessly devout

with love

[nissangirl74]

Went out of state for mine as well

1933 miles

[nissangirl74]

One must not confuse obsession with love

or any of these

with love

or passion / lust