I need some solid opinions. Boyfriend issue.

[Dano]

Can't really pull myself to say a lot on the subject, but i've just recently gotten out of a relationship where i found the girl i could live without, she cheated on me about 8 months ago, (we had been together for more than a year before that) we decided to work through it, come to find out, he's been living with her and anytime I was over there he was out of town and she hid it. It's been terrible, pretty much destroyed me, and am having an awful time 'bouncing back.'

There's no reason that cheating has to be so prominent in our society and if it wasn't so broadcasted about, and glorified in movies and television, it wouldn't be. I just don't understand why people can't be respectful and if you want to be with someone else, JUST TELL THE PERSON YOUR WITH... be like hey.... I DONT LIKE U AS MUCH AS I LIKE HIM/HER... and I don't want to do something stupid and disrespectful or to hurt you, so we have to break up.

Sorry, I'm old fashioned, this cheating crap is bullsh*t.

I wish you luck, but he's gonna cheat on you again, and will continue to. I didn't think I could live with my ex, and I still to an extent don't, but if they disrespect u that much, then it ain't right. There's no basis for love off of lies and deciept. I'm a firm believer in people actually changing, and becoming a good person again, but sounds like your situation isn't going to be one of them, most won't be.

Again, I wish you luck, drop him, find someone faithful, and be faithful back to them.

[skydragoness]

Can't really pull myself to say a lot on the subject, but i've just recently gotten out of a relationship where i found the girl i could live without, she cheated on me about 8 months ago, (we had been together for more than a year before that) we decided to work through it, come to find out, he's been living with her and anytime I was over there he was out of town and she hid it. It's been terrible, pretty much destroyed me, and am having an awful time 'bouncing back.'

There's no reason that cheating has to be so prominent in our society and if it wasn't so broadcasted about, and glorified in movies and television, it wouldn't be. I just don't understand why people can't be respectful and if you want to be with someone else, JUST TELL THE PERSON YOUR WITH... be like hey.... I DONT LIKE U AS MUCH AS I LIKE HIM/HER... and I don't want to do something stupid and disrespectful or to hurt you, so we have to break up.

Sorry, I'm old fashioned, this cheating crap is bullsh*t.

You're not old fashioned, you're just honest with yourself and what you want.I have no idea either why people don't just break up and move on with whoever else they want. IMO, maybes it's the "allure" of having something on the side. Or fear of confrontation. I dunno, it's a b****-a** move either way. I've broken up with someone because I was interested in someone else (the person I was with at the time was also crazy, so that helped move things along).

Good luck in your future endeavors...it's all a learning process

[Mr1der]

threads like this are why I intend to stay single until I get discounted coffee.

[krash]

but, then all your soldiers are going to be tired.

[Mr1der]

don't under estimate the will of my army.

[MinisterofDOOM]

Although good friends are needed (as much as I claim to be a loner.. I enjoy my friend's company).

Yeah, that's definitely true. I don't really need socialization on a big scale, but I suspect the company of close friends keeps me a little more sane that I might otherwise be.

[Dano]

threads like this are why I intend to stay single until I get discounted coffee.

My ex was a barista at Starbucks when I met her, all the problems happened after she left that.

[Mr1der]

damnit Dan.

do you still drink coffee?

[Bubba1]

threads like this are why I intend to stay single until I get discounted coffee.

I take it you're avoiding the pop the question thread.....

[Mr1der]

Unless the question happens to be "when you gonna let me tap that?", yes.

[skydragoness]

Unless the question happens to be "when you gonna let me tap that?", yes.

I hope you always stay classy James.

[Dano]

damnit Dan.

do you still drink coffee?

I've never liked coffee my whole life actually.

[yelnatsch517]

Can't really pull myself to say a lot on the subject, but i've just recently gotten out of a relationship where i found the girl i could live without, she cheated on me about 8 months ago, (we had been together for more than a year before that) we decided to work through it, come to find out, he's been living with her and anytime I was over there he was out of town and she hid it. It's been terrible, pretty much destroyed me, and am having an awful time 'bouncing back.'

There's no reason that cheating has to be so prominent in our society and if it wasn't so broadcasted about, and glorified in movies and television, it wouldn't be. I just don't understand why people can't be respectful and if you want to be with someone else, JUST TELL THE PERSON YOUR WITH... be like hey.... I DONT LIKE U AS MUCH AS I LIKE HIM/HER... and I don't want to do something stupid and disrespectful or to hurt you, so we have to break up.

Sorry, I'm old fashioned, this cheating crap is bullsh*t.

I wish you luck, but he's gonna cheat on you again, and will continue to. I didn't think I could live with my ex, and I still to an extent don't, but if they disrespect u that much, then it ain't right. There's no basis for love off of lies and deciept. I'm a firm believer in people actually changing, and becoming a good person again, but sounds like your situation isn't going to be one of them, most won't be.

Again, I wish you luck, drop him, find someone faithful, and be faithful back to them.

I don't understand why guys get all the bad rap about cheating because from my experience women do it just as often. Maybe they are more careful and don't get caught as often, but I'm a bit paranoid and observant so good luck to any girl trying to pull something on me.

[Mr1der]

I hope you always stay classy James.

I'm like summer school.

only the cool kids go.

[Jesda]

I'm like summer school.

only the cool kids go.

I need to come to another meet

[raremotive]

I need to come to another meet

I take it that you will be going to Omaha then !

[Mr1der]

come to Nashville in July.

it's hot.

we'll pour water on each other.

[sentrastace]

god damn this thread got heavy. lol.

all of you have said excatly what I have been thinking and thats ok.

i appreciate the fact that some of us have the same mind set, and im not insane for thinking certain things. i also appreciate the fact that you all can give this advice based on personal experience.

i asked you not to judge, and some of you, did, fine. whatever. none of us are perfect and its the mistakes that we make in life that teach us lessons and shape who we are.

no one will understand the situation completely unless they are me or my significant other, which is ok too, since it seems to some that I am judging the other girl and etc etc which is hypocritical because I had cheated as well.

everyone deserves a second chance so i decided to give him the benefit of the doubt this time but keep a close eye to make sure I don't get played.

girls and guys both do all these hurtful things, im not trying to gather guys up all in one category, and i asked NICO because i wanted a from a guy point of view whether what he was doing was acceptable or not. I also appreciate all of the gals weighing in on this, because I feel as they are are a bit more understanding/empathetic of the situation which i appreciated the most.

he didnt cheat. but he did lie.

not a word of this at carlisle, ok?

thanks again for all of your opinions, positive or negative or judgemental.

oh, and yes I may just save all my my money for a manual swap + turbo instead of buying an SRT-4. happy?

[EZcheese15]

oh, and yes I may just save all my my money for a manual swap + turbo instead of buying an SRT-4. happy?

Yup!

[93coupe]

oh, and yes I may just save all my my money for a manual swap + turbo instead of buying an SRT-4. happy?

No.

[krash]

I'M TELLING EVERYONE ON A LOUDSPEAKER AT CARLISLE.

[numbnuts240]

he didnt cheat. but he did lie.

how can you be certain that he didn't lie about not cheating?

[breadbox]

oh, and yes I may just save all my my money for a manual swap + turbo instead of buying an SRT-4. happy?

Really, what about the neon interests you? You should just get a project car and turbo the shizz outta it. Old SE-r would be fun.

[hbpignosePA]

how can you be certain that he didn't lie about not cheating?

[nissangirl74]

everyone deserves a second chance so i decided to give him the benefit of the doubt this time but keep a close eye to make sure I don't get played.

This is a dangerous mindset to have but we can't live your life for you. Personally, I think it would suck to feel like I had to keep an eye on someone. I'm still advising you to move on and start over fresh with someone new. Good luck!

[dre1507]

I will not tell you to dump him, nor will i provide any judgments of you. I will simply give my take on situations like these. If you're in a relationship and someone else comes along that would make you ready to give up being with the current, then you should have just been honest with yourself from the beginning and break up with the current. You wanting to leave them so easily is not a feeling that came up the second you met the new guy/girl. You've most likely known for some time that you don't want to be with them anymore. I believe the second you decide to cheat on someone, whether it be mistake or not, is the actual second you decide you're sure you don't want to be with them anymore. Even if it was a mistake, it still means that at that point in time, you subconsciously wished you weren't tied to the current, and had no inhibiting thoughts. This is all providing you're not some sort of sicko who is actually pleased with being a cheater, or cheats and know/hope you'll be forgiven and taken back, so you see no reason to break the cycle.

Sorry for the essay.

[Bubba1]

We obviously don't know him. But you know there are a couple big warning signs associated with him, like his lying to you after just a couple months, and his driving a Neon (just kidding on the latter) , otherwise you would not have brought this subject up in the first place.

But if you honestly feel you can find happiness with this gentleman, then we're happy for you, and we'll look forward to meeting the lucky guy .

[s14_girl]

It's important that you feel ok with your decision, and it sounds like you do. Be careful, and take care of yourself. You are young and beautiful, and have no time to waste on the wrong guy. As someone who has given a significant other multiple chances, I know how much you might want to see the good in him and work through it. I don't want to share my story on here because it's pretty personal, but if you email me, I'd be happy to tell you if it helps. Suffice it to say that a liar doesn't usually stop. Good luck, and save your money for your car till you know he's a sure thing!

[Ted DiBiase]

god damn this thread got heavy. lol.

all of you have said excatly what I have been thinking and thats ok.

i appreciate the fact that some of us have the same mind set, and im not insane for thinking certain things. i also appreciate the fact that you all can give this advice based on personal experience.

i asked you not to judge, and some of you, did, fine. whatever. none of us are perfect and its the mistakes that we make in life that teach us lessons and shape who we are.

no one will understand the situation completely unless they are me or my significant other, which is ok too, since it seems to some that I am judging the other girl and etc etc which is hypocritical because I had cheated as well.

everyone deserves a second chance so i decided to give him the benefit of the doubt this time but keep a close eye to make sure I don't get played.

girls and guys both do all these hurtful things, im not trying to gather guys up all in one category, and i asked NICO because i wanted a from a guy point of view whether what he was doing was acceptable or not. I also appreciate all of the gals weighing in on this, because I feel as they are are a bit more understanding/empathetic of the situation which i appreciated the most.

he didnt cheat. but he did lie.

not a word of this at carlisle, ok?

thanks again for all of your opinions, positive or negative or judgemental.

oh, and yes I may just save all my my money for a manual swap + turbo instead of buying an SRT-4. happy?

Everyone claims you're 'Hot'. But with such a thick skull, I don't see how that is possible.

[USMCgetsome]

she'll learn one day. Then one of u dorks can steup up to bat!