I'm certain of it, this world sucks.
I'm certain of it, this world sucks.
Well, after 3 long years of dating, Trina decided she needed a "break". Nothing I can do can convince her otherwise and she's on a date with a 25 year old sack of **** realtor right now. She thinks he's wonderful because he's "successful". Well, I've got news for her...successful 25 year old guys do NOT date 18 year old girls because they enjoy their company. That piece of **** has been hitting on her since she started working there and I'm of the mind its time to end his fun with an extended hospital visit. Unfortunately, that'd only make things worse between Trina and I. I'm just venting...tonight she gets the box of 100 things she loves about me BACK. Maybe she can re-read them and realize how stupid she is being. If not, then I've done all I can. Nathan is a sad sad man and not even his fast car makes him feel better
Nathan man I'm sorry. That's really not cool at all- you always talked about her like you and her were one person... I'm REALLY suprised to hear she wants a break.
Jeez... stay strong man. I guess it's a pretty natural thing, that she'd want to try out other people before she realises how serious she is about you (if that's the case). Give her the time, dont hate her for it, and dont hate yourself for it either. It's only time- we're all young here (except AZ...).
Jeez... stay strong man. I guess it's a pretty natural thing, that she'd want to try out other people before she realises how serious she is about you (if that's the case). Give her the time, dont hate her for it, and dont hate yourself for it either. It's only time- we're all young here (except AZ...).
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Dude, 18yo girls go crazy. Its that out of highschool going to college I'm a grown woman now crap.
Ride it out man, If she is smart she will come back. It usualy takes them a little while to realize no one is gonna love them like what the got at home.
I wish you the best, i've been through it 2x now. I know its no fun
Ride it out man, If she is smart she will come back. It usualy takes them a little while to realize no one is gonna love them like what the got at home.
I wish you the best, i've been through it 2x now. I know its no fun
Who cares about Nathan? At least one girl does not. Take it personal, and learn from it.
Put yourself and your interests first, at least for a while. How many times must I say this?!? Women are not reliable! You gamble with your well-being by placing so much importance on a teenage relationship.
Feel better, champ.
Put yourself and your interests first, at least for a while. How many times must I say this?!? Women are not reliable! You gamble with your well-being by placing so much importance on a teenage relationship.
Feel better, champ.
She was always very mature though...and it doesn't help that her home life SUCKS right now and everyone she knows is telling her not to settle down young. She's letting everyone else sway her opinion and I'd like to put a bullet in every one of those dirty ****s heads. Apparently then I'd be a psycho though and she'd never come back....damn how that works.
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Nathan wrote:Moving on wouldn't help though, then I'd just think of what could have been, and wonder when the latest girl was going to screw me over. Personally, I hope I actually DO get thrown out a car door at 80mph...thats a problem I can deal with much easier.
you're what? 18? 19? i've had 2 deep relationships since I was 18 (i'm 22) and a couple less committed relationships. You're too young to get hooked up on one girl. There's no point in trying to get her back, because she apparently doesn't want you. You'll do yourself a favor by letting her go and move on. It's easier than you think.
he's 21 I beleive... I've been trying to tell him that I dont think that settling on a girl now is a good idea either, but everyone has their own way.
the fact of the matter is that this is going to hurt no matter what. there isnt going to be any way, especially after 3 years, to just say "forget her" and actually do it... it would be disrespectful to all the time they spent together at the very least. Things like this take time... of course... but Nathan you should at least consider for a second that this MIGHT not be the most horrible thing to happen to ya...
the fact of the matter is that this is going to hurt no matter what. there isnt going to be any way, especially after 3 years, to just say "forget her" and actually do it... it would be disrespectful to all the time they spent together at the very least. Things like this take time... of course... but Nathan you should at least consider for a second that this MIGHT not be the most horrible thing to happen to ya...
Nathan wrote:Maybe I should just find an *** ugly girl who wont leave me no matter what...
DING!! You have just uncovered the best kept secret in Working Relationships. Now it's time for you to take a few weeks off or how much more time you need and then when you're ready to throw yourself into the scene again, then it's time to steak out(steak not misspelled) a local Fridays/Outback or whatever that has good food and good drinks, and remember the other secret the uglier the girl the stronger the link between you!!!!!
Nathan wrote:The fact that its 1am and she's STILL out with him is even worse.
She's showing you she's not the one. You've got to let her go. Sooner you do that, the sooner you can move forward with YOUR life.
Besides, what are you doing at home worrying about where she's at? Sounds to me like she already gave you her goodbye. I'd be out getting over her if I were you.
Your problem is you're almost 21 and she's 18. She shouldn't be tied down, and the fact that "everyone she knows," people that love her, are telling her this should make you realize that you might have been too serious with a girl that was simply too young. Let it go, and don't lose sleep over this.
I have an 18 year old sister who had a boyfriend for almost 2 years until they recently broke up. Guess what I was thinking when I'd hear from my mom that she wanted to marry her boyfriend some day? "Oh crap," she's only dated 2 different guys and somehow she's already met the man of her dreams? Silly girl, she doesn't know what's best for her. So, my family would encourage her to let her boyfriend know it was time for them to take a break so she could see other people. Now they've broken up and she's much happier. You should understand this as you're much older.
Above all, I can't stress enough the point I made in my first paragraph. Her family, people she knows, wants what's best for her, which apparently isn't what's best for you. Even though it hurts, you need to rise above this and put yourself back on the market! Oh, but don't tell girls any pity stories, stay positive! Also, younger girls will be less likely to give you what you need. Good luck.
I have an 18 year old sister who had a boyfriend for almost 2 years until they recently broke up. Guess what I was thinking when I'd hear from my mom that she wanted to marry her boyfriend some day? "Oh crap," she's only dated 2 different guys and somehow she's already met the man of her dreams? Silly girl, she doesn't know what's best for her. So, my family would encourage her to let her boyfriend know it was time for them to take a break so she could see other people. Now they've broken up and she's much happier. You should understand this as you're much older.
Above all, I can't stress enough the point I made in my first paragraph. Her family, people she knows, wants what's best for her, which apparently isn't what's best for you. Even though it hurts, you need to rise above this and put yourself back on the market! Oh, but don't tell girls any pity stories, stay positive! Also, younger girls will be less likely to give you what you need. Good luck.
I once said "Thats it! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!" But every girl I've met has been much better than the last. Interestingly, every car has been better than the previous too.
An old phrase I like to say: "Every move is a move up." If youre not moving up, youre moving nowhere. Dont "settle" for anything -- there's a few lookers with class, integrity, and maturity. I wish you luck in finding them, since most are married.
-Jesda
An old phrase I like to say: "Every move is a move up." If youre not moving up, youre moving nowhere. Dont "settle" for anything -- there's a few lookers with class, integrity, and maturity. I wish you luck in finding them, since most are married.
-Jesda
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Nathan wrote:Moving on wouldn't help though, then I'd just think of what could have been, and wonder when the latest girl was going to screw me over. Personally, I hope I actually DO get thrown out a car door at 80mph...thats a problem I can deal with much easier.
Relax man.... I know you don't want to hear it or believe it... but you are YOUNG and this is one of MANY times this will happen to you along the way. Take this as a life lesson and LEARN from it. Learn what NOT to do next time... and learn how a girl feels next time you have the notion to do the same thing to one of them.
As lame as it sounds... "this too shall pass." Get over her... and why the hell would you want her back even if she begged you to take her back. It will ALWAYS haunt the relationship... it will ALWAYS come back up in the future. Forget about it, move on, start fresh.
We've all been there bro....
nathan, you are being immature abotu this whole situation. If you are really 21 you should be able to handle this. There are so many girls out there and its really really easy to pick one up. Just go find a girl u think is hot and ask for a date. Most times they will say yes. Its not the end of the world so don't act like it is. Worse things have happened to people than losing a gf.
Altiman94 wrote:nathan, you are being immature abotu this whole situation. If you are really 21 you should be able to handle this. There are so many girls out there and its really really easy to pick one up. Just go find a girl u think is hot and ask for a date. Most times they will say yes. Its not the end of the world so don't act like it is. Worse things have happened to people than losing a gf.
**** you, you dont get the concept that I'm not in this for some hot girl, or picking up a lot of chicks. That just doesn't matter at all to me. As for her family knowing whats best...they cant handle their lives with any semblance of normality, they epitomize disfunctional and I obviously have to ignore any and every bit if advice they have to offer that doesn't include "dont do anything we've done". I'm done with this thread for now though, its my life and I'll handle it how I see fit. I feel better after venting so thanks for the opportunity. I'll update if anything big changes!