Finally got it. First off i want to thank everyone here on Nico for their suggestions, I only received one post on my Miata forum. So lets get this out of the way... dont buy no name ebay brands. I had gotten a "f1 racing stage 3" clutch based off of the positive reviews on miataturbo.net (i am currently putting together a turbo kit, so i figured since i was doing the clutch anyway might as well put in one that can handle more power)
After trying all of the suggestions here, and emailing the vendor, he said it sounded like either a clutch adjustment issue (nope, did everything there was to do) or a flywheel issue. Well i got a new flywheel and removed the trans for the third time. I was getting it all together and for some reason put the clutch against the flywheel just to see, and all of the 6 friction areas were bent out like so:
So it was only making contact with the inner part of the disc. I called up Mazda and got an oem clutch set (they had it in stock, and it was cheaper than all the parts stores around!) and i just got finished putting it in and test driving it and all is good now.
I plan on contacting the seller and seeing about getting a refund, I dont think that i did anything to cause this to happen but im sure they will try to fight me on it anyway. But like i said, thanks a ton guys! And spend the extra cash on a reputable company!