HELP ME!!

[NIGHTfall_240sx]

im 17 and she is 18 didnt get to find out her bday yet will work on it tomarrow

[Tino]

it is a small town, but its florida too, my town here is half the size of port st. lucie. the smallest town i've seen in florida was near boca chica forget the name.

[NIGHTfall_240sx]

hey i just thought of somethign when i was in the shower....i know chicks are manipulative and i know they can tell when a guy is really desprate for their attention or they know they can whip them with eaze. sooo. how, without being an a55hole, when I ask her to go somewhere (i.e play pool) let her know (which is not true) that if she dont go, imma go up there and hang with other people. its tricky, but i dont want to seem desprate for her attention when i call her. i dont want her to be like..."see that, without me going, i wont have nothing to worry about cuz he wont go" i know that suonds like a b1tch, and i dont think she is like that, but i just dont wanna appear to her that imma only go out if she does. what i mean is like, i dont want her to think that she controls if imma go out by her going or not. something to say in the terms of "its iight if you dont feel up to going tonite, I'll give mike and terry a call later" but i dont wanna sound like a prick and i still want her to feel that i want her around. i guess i just dont want her to think im tryin to hard to be around her. damn i confused myself in this bunch lol

[drifter sx]

hey man.. man dont freak yourself out like that. if shes in to you she'll want to go with you [unless she has a valid reason like work or something] but it could be that maybe she just doesnt feel like it or is tired. so IF thats the case, DONT say "well then im goin out without you to hang out with other people" cuz that makes you seem like a jerk and will probly hurt her feelings. and dont assume that shes 'manipulative' either. if you invite her somewhere and she doesnt wanna go, its OK. if you really wanted to go, then go. but if it was just an attempt to 'get her attention' then dont bother with it, you'll come out seeming desperate. some guys play to win, others play not to lose. just be yourself man, and play games with her [just my 2 cents]

[NIGHTfall_240sx]

i know man, but i dont want her to think with me calling her asking if she wants to do something so much i dont want her to get annoyed with me or feel that i call her so much cuz i dotn have anyone to hang with, which is not true. its just that i wanna hang with her to get to know her.

[Structure240sx]

just call once a day. cell phones have caller id so she'll see that u called. just tell her that a couple people are meeting up somewhere and if she wants to come its cool. is she says she cant then just say "its cool, call me later"

[NIGHTfall_240sx]

i do that every day i just dont wanna com out annoying

[89240sx]

dont call everyday .... !!!

[NIGHTfall_240sx]

how often would be safe?

[jdmfreak]

Maybe about every other day.

[NIGHTfall_240sx]

i suppose

[Touchdown038]

If you just met her a week or so ago, it's probably too soon to be calling every day. Hell, the only time you should really call her is if you wanna meet up with her later! Save the talking for the dates.

[NIGHTfall_240sx]

which is every day :-P

[jdmfreak]

Well then maybe you shouldnt go out every day. I agree with what Touchdown said. All this is kind of a lot for the first week.

[NIGHTfall_240sx]

i know it is but she is soo damn cool

[jdmfreak]

Gotta restist. I know its hard cuz Ive been there before. Hot chick and all

[NIGHTfall_240sx]

hehe

[fiznat]

hahahah dont be like that guy in that movie Swingers who called like 53 times the first night.... lol that was great haha

whatever man, dont worry so much about all of it. that confidence thing everyone is taking about shouldnt be something you just decide to do, but something that becomes a part of you after a while. trust yourself to know that you can be yourself and she will *still* like you. that's how you get a good relationship anyways... I mean imagine if you knew all of the "tricks" or whatever and she ended up thinking you were someone else... the relationship would completely suck because you'd never be able to relax, always pretending.

it sounds like you've got her hooked anyways though man. keep hanging out with her/calling her etc, but heres my advice: beware of the friend zone!! make sure it doesnt just stop at phone calls where you listen to her problems or whatever. start turning fun nights out into dates, and turn those into a relationship (if that's what you're looking for... you could just pork at this point too hahaha).

above all, have fun man... thats the whole point of all of this, even though it seems like so much work.

ps does she have nice boobies?

[Touchdown038]

Haha, I bet she does!

And yeah if you are with her every day, it can get real old real fast... it may not seem like it but it does. We as humans need at least a little separation and space.

[jdmfreak]

what he said.

[Kaioshin1982]

hmm very true of what fiznat said, becareful for the friend zone. IF you 2 get TOO close and she feels too comfortable with u or all u 2 do is go somewhere and have fun, she might just be happy with just being friends with u. (yep... im a victim for the lets be friends thingy )

[GELLIS2586]

everyone is a victim of lets be friends

[NIGHTfall_240sx]

boobies = nice

and we dont hang out evry nite, we hung out maybe 2x she is always busy damnit >:O i call and she is doing something or got plans. now im lost. i think she might be trying to advoid me...but the thow off is why the hell would she call and talk for 1 1/2 hour??? damn dude help.....and for the ballers out there.. in your language.... HiZzeLp fo0

[NIGHTfall_240sx]

oh and by the way....even my frien mike (who gets all girls) said to me "so you still tryin to talk to that girl...you know that one with perfect everything" keyword : everything

[NIGHTfall_240sx]

Thank you Nancy! a chick who replies! woot! Nancy, do you know of any upcomming 240 meets in orlando? i live only 2hours away from there. Maybe when i get a new 240 soon, i could bring her up there with me. she likes cars :-D not into engine work, just likes nice cars.