Girl Problem, need opinions!!! Please read

[240Knightrider]

Ok, last saturday my girlfriend went out of time to go to a funeral for her grandfather that she never spent time with, so she really didnt care. She said she would call me and and didnt call me until the day before she was coming home. then she called me when she was at home complaining she was sick and didnt want to do anything.

Now here is my real problem. I had to pick up a few things for my car yesterday and she told me to call her before I got to her house. Well I was about 1 minute away from her house and I called her. Now there is a road right before I get to her house to where I can see her house. when this happened I saw a guy leaving her house. So I stop and try to think what to do. I call a couple of friends and, my sister . They all say I should break up with her. What do you all think.

[navysnail]

if your sure he isnt just a friend, then ya, i agree with everyone else

[austins240]

Like i always say to people, forget american women!! too much trouble!! (for the most part...)

Offensive? probably but i don't care. my opinion!!haha

laters

austin

[Touchdown038]

Break up with her man.

[Ninetyfive240sxSE]

it seems most of your friends and your sister is against this girl. how long have you known her and how long you been going out? sorry man. why not confront her find the truth rather than dreading that awkward feeling all the time... or pretend to be dumb.maybe next time you go on the road and pick up stuff, pick up a jdm tyte girl... i heard they look good and even sounds good from the boards lol

[Fenvy]

seeing is believing, you didn't see anything. you have no idea what the guy is doing and you can't suspect her just because of that, it could be a family member, a close friend, who knows. what she's been doing, is a little suspicious but I'd rather be a fool for the time being than to make a dire mistake that I may end up regreting. isn't trust the basis in most relationship? give her the benfit of the doubt

[caliracer240]

thats why i keep a few extra girls hanging around... so in case my main girl wants to play around... drop her like an Arab with a bomb and move on.

[240SXedUp]

You guys are gay, don't act like you are a straight up pimp....

Her grandfather died and she didn't care? Regardless of how well she knew him, you should care. I wouldn't give her the benefit of the doubt. She is obviously sneaking around. It doesn't matter if she is actually cheating on you, she's being deceitful about something. I wouldn't put up with that. If my girlfriend had family or a friend over she wouldn't tell me to call in advance, we would all hang out together. It's not your job to decipher what she's doing. She's putting herself in this situation.

Seems to me this girl isn't worth it and you should find one who is.

[240Knightrider]

If my girlfriend had family or a friend over she wouldn't tell me to call in advance, we would all hang out together.

hmm, thats a very good point. I think I am going to break it off. I called her back but no one answered the phone.

Thanks everyone for your replies.

[Altiman94]

I would ask her about the guy and see who he really is/was. Or find out who the guy is yourself and ask him. No sense in breaking up with her to find out it was only a friend or something.

[240SXedUp]

It doesn't seem to me like you like this girl that much anyway. Your family and friends don't like her. Why hold on to her for the sake of it.

[Nurv]

You shouldve followed that guy that walked out of her house and found out who he was. Sneaky and a a bit of a dark thing to do but thats something I would do. If I was in this situation I would straight up ask her whats up. You are sure her grandfather died and isnt a fluke? Just a thought man. Hopefully you find the answers you seek.

[PhaneSoul]

and she told me to call her before I got to her house.

girl thats cheating on you code: call me before you get here so i can shoo away my other lover

[rousie13]

I'm agreeing with everyone else.....find out who he is first. And if she is cheating, kick her arse to the curb quicker than shiat. Sorry to hear that bro though. One comment, if he was purely a friend, wouldn't she have said oh yeah so and so is here or is coming tomorrow.

[NISTECH]

Are you the jelous type? Maybe he is a freind but she knows how you react around male friends of hers. I have to go with the guy who suggested following him. find out who he is and let him know who you are.He may not know about you either.Her tone with you on the phone would of indicated that as he would have been in the same room as her. It is possible she is cheating But with both of you. She may be undecided who she really wants so she is stringing both of you along till she can completely decide. Its not right but that may be whats going on.

There are many variables to this. You just need to sit her down and talk with her first. As well as anaylize the type of person you are. her decite may be just to avoid conflict if your a hot head.

[IlIkEmYz]

girl thats cheating on you code: call me before you get here so i can shoo away my other lover

i agree but just confront her and ask if she's seeing someone else

and say that you don't like people that play games with you.

Be direct and interpret her body language when she answers your question.

Also if she says that so and so is just a friend then start hanging around other girls and say their just friends too.

Or you could just move on if you think she's cheating on you regardless of what she says because obviously a person that cheats would no confess that they're cheating.

kind of life OJ saying he did not kill his wife.

[240Knightrider]

yeah i wanted to follow this guy (go figure though he drives a honda), maybe Ill do one of those phyco (sp) moves and watch the house to see if the dude comes back, lol. I tried to call but she didnt answer, Ill try again later

Im not the jealous type, I have friends that are girls and it wouldnt be right If I got mad her for have guys as friends.

You know when someone is doing something and they start to blame you for doing the same thing. Thats kinda what she started to do before she "left". That kinda why I started to wonder about this other guy.

[Bubba1]

I'd simply ask her who it was. It doesn't sound like she was having sex on the lawn. Could be a relative of hers or a friend of another member of her family for all you know. If it turns out she's dating that guy as well as you, then I suggest taking the mature route. You would now know the situation and can decide whether you want to continue seeing her or not. If you decide to end it, be a gentleman and don't make an ugly scene.

Now if it turns out to be a relative or long time family friend, then you gotta start working on trusting her. If you can't trust her, the relationship is headed for a bumpy ride.

And if she was having sex on the front lawn, can I have her addr...(ahem) just kidding.

Good luck.

[RMiller]

It's obvious that you don't trust her, and there's usually a reason for that. It's probably the way she acts/dresses, so think about what kind of girl you are looking for. Don't follow the guy, and don't watch her house. Think about how you feel about the situation objectively, then ask her who it was and why you were curious. As long as you sound sensible, she should understand. If she says it's just a friend, accept that for the moment even if you don't believe her. Then make a decision about what to do, and like someone said above, stay cool.

-Ryan

[yashin]

do her in the butt

[GEO]

Man your t young to have a steady gril friend. You goto get out and not worry about this, there are a MILLION possiblities, don;t worry about this intill you are like 30.. haha take care.

[Nurv]

Man your t young to have a steady gril friend. You goto get out and not worry about this, there are a MILLION possiblities, don;t worry about this intill you are like 30.. haha take care.

HAHA. Im afraid GEO has a point. lol. But its obvious trust is an issue and your are suspicious of her right now. Just ask her about everything. The worst thing that could go wrong is you break up. thats all. Then you can hit up all those phone numbers you have in your wallet. You are keeping phone #'s arent you? :pface

[Mr1der]

you - "who was that guy?"

her - "just a friend"

you - "awesome, I'm gonna go make some more friends, talk to you later"

[240Knightrider]

HAHAthats greatness right there. make some more friends HAHA.I agree Millions of possibilities. LOL. this post made my day better Thanks everyone

[SmithSR]

Mr1der is right. Well done, sir. :rockon

[StrangeLove]

Head over to her house, stop at that redlight, Call her, then when her "friend" walks out, RUN HIM OVER

FOOL PROOF PLAN ^

[NISTECH]

Ok the in the butt and the murder senario aint workin guys!!!

Come on get real!

[nametakennow]

Let's face it, women are the cause (in some roundabout way, and sometimes a not-so-roundabout way) of darn near every problem a guy has. It probably works for women too (men causing problems). Moral of the story: ummm... I dunno, I'm just really pissed off with my girl situation at the moment too... letting off some steam.

[240Knightrider]

I hear ya man, im about done with the girls where I live, jeeze seems like this problem all over again, lol.

Hope everything work out for you too. Hopefully its not too bad.

[nametakennow]

Not as bad as a few weeks ago, though that chick was just a friend whom I found out was a hoe... more frustrating than bad. Drama SUCKS.

Hope your stuff clears up too.