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Mr1der
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nametakennow wrote:Not as bad as a few weeks ago, though that chick was just a friend whom I found out was a hoe... more frustrating than bad. Drama SUCKS.
Hope your stuff clears up too.
don't hate on her if she likes getting her **** on.
well, unless she had a significant other and did it behind his/her back. That ain't cool.
At least some of you are talking resonable now. But you have failed to say one thing. Plenty of you have said to say "he's just a friend? im gonna go hang out with some friends." Why not say "oh he's a friend of yours? cool, lets hang out together." See how she reacts and if she agrees to it see how they act together.
Please dont stalk her or the guy. Thats just lowly redneck stuff. If you have to lower yourself to spying on your teenage gf its time to commit suicide.
Please dont stalk her or the guy. Thats just lowly redneck stuff. If you have to lower yourself to spying on your teenage gf its time to commit suicide.
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nametakennow
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Mr1der wrote:don't hate on her if she likes getting her **** on.
well, unless she had a significant other and did it behind his/her back. That ain't cool.
She did **** she knew me and my best friend didn't approve of. She didn't tell either of us, then proceeded to date said best friend. A lot of you probably wouldn't think of it as a big deal, but we do/did. And she got used for it, no less... being stupid is negative points too.
Well, I know what the ideal thing is...and thats to have a rational conversation with her and try to figure out if anything is going on. Then...there is what I'd probably do: go ape **** crazy! Just start in on her about trust, other guys, and spending time with you...dont stop until she's crying or your apologizing for being an ***. Usually, you stop when you have to apologize for being an ***, at least thats what happens with me 
dude, if she isnt cheating on you, shes going to.
Dump her, start banging one of your other female friends.
How old are you? If youre under 25, a girlfriend is a waste of time. Sticking to one person when you should be learning as much as possible about as many people as possible is ludicrous.
Tom Lykus, man. http://www.blowmeuptom.com
Dump her, start banging one of your other female friends.
How old are you? If youre under 25, a girlfriend is a waste of time. Sticking to one person when you should be learning as much as possible about as many people as possible is ludicrous.
Tom Lykus, man. http://www.blowmeuptom.com
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JESTER
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Didn't read all the post.
But my 2 cents:
Sit down and have an adult conversation. Tell her straight up that you are not going to go psyco and murder her, her parents, and her pets.
Discuss what is going on. DO NOT YELL OR RAISE YOUR VOICE. If she is seeing someone else. Cut your losses (not her neck). Be nice and end it on a friendly note. Even if you are more pissed than you have ever been.
There is no need to go off the deep end. If she doesnt want to be in the relationship, let her out. But if she does admit to cheating, it is up to you whether you trust her again. I may, but not likely stay in the relationship.
But trust me, if you end it nicely, you will be happier in the future.
But my 2 cents:
Sit down and have an adult conversation. Tell her straight up that you are not going to go psyco and murder her, her parents, and her pets.
Discuss what is going on. DO NOT YELL OR RAISE YOUR VOICE. If she is seeing someone else. Cut your losses (not her neck). Be nice and end it on a friendly note. Even if you are more pissed than you have ever been.
There is no need to go off the deep end. If she doesnt want to be in the relationship, let her out. But if she does admit to cheating, it is up to you whether you trust her again. I may, but not likely stay in the relationship.
But trust me, if you end it nicely, you will be happier in the future.
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nametakennow
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Work on the car, smart man.
stray- You can learn just as much from a longer period of time with one person as you can dating a ton in that same period of time. It's a matter of learning different things, all of which are useful.
I have a theory: everyone should have a long term relationship that utterly falls, twitches and seizes on the ground, then explodes for good measure.
The younger this happens, the better, IMHO. It hurt like hell, but I learned a hell of a lot... before I was even approaching 17... it's amazing to look back and realize that it was only about 3 1/2 months ago that I did a bunch of learning in a really short period of time due to the above phenomenon.
I could talk for hours about that day, but I have to head out...
Later.
stray- You can learn just as much from a longer period of time with one person as you can dating a ton in that same period of time. It's a matter of learning different things, all of which are useful.
I have a theory: everyone should have a long term relationship that utterly falls, twitches and seizes on the ground, then explodes for good measure.
The younger this happens, the better, IMHO. It hurt like hell, but I learned a hell of a lot... before I was even approaching 17... it's amazing to look back and realize that it was only about 3 1/2 months ago that I did a bunch of learning in a really short period of time due to the above phenomenon.
I could talk for hours about that day, but I have to head out...
Later.
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240Knightrider
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I talked to her over the phone and she said it was some dude named Brad, (for some reason she thought I knew him). She said he was leaving and just stopped by to say bye to her, and leave. Im still a little half and half on my thougths on it. Still dont know, she got mad at me for wondering about it though.
"Why so defensive?"
See if that don't get you hit. And don't think for a second that she wouldn't put the screws to you if the roles were reversed. There's nothing so pathetic as a woman who can't let go. But the minute you suspect something, you're the bad guy.
She's defensive and playing mad because she's hiding something from you. Telltale signs of immature girl games. Waste of time IMO. There's plenty of good women out there who don't need drama.
See if that don't get you hit. And don't think for a second that she wouldn't put the screws to you if the roles were reversed. There's nothing so pathetic as a woman who can't let go. But the minute you suspect something, you're the bad guy.
She's defensive and playing mad because she's hiding something from you. Telltale signs of immature girl games. Waste of time IMO. There's plenty of good women out there who don't need drama.
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I dunno if I agree with that. Sounds like she answered your question. If you keep bringing it up with her ,you'll come off sounding insecure or clingy. Those are not good traits for a long term happy relationship. Has she given you any other reason to doubt her sincerity? If not, then you might be getting yourself worked up over something innocent.
Think about it though. Why would she get upset? It's up to her to calm his fears... that is her responsibility to him, if they have a relationship.... or she's not really into the relationship.
If she's not feeling the relationship on the same level that he is, then that presents a whole new pandora's box...
That opens the door to hiding things from him, talking on the phone but not interested in seeing him at certain times.. a little trickery, maybe a couple white lies... all strikes against a good relationship.
Maybe this other guy is just one of the buzzard-friends that's just hanging around under the guise of friendship, hoping to one day close the deal once our man here is done with her??
You see, it becomes Too Much Work. Next thing you know, you're thinking and worrying about it. Then you can't focus on work, you become distracted, upset.. What a headache!! and in the end you'd be better off without her.
If she's not feeling the relationship on the same level that he is, then that presents a whole new pandora's box...
That opens the door to hiding things from him, talking on the phone but not interested in seeing him at certain times.. a little trickery, maybe a couple white lies... all strikes against a good relationship.
Maybe this other guy is just one of the buzzard-friends that's just hanging around under the guise of friendship, hoping to one day close the deal once our man here is done with her??
You see, it becomes Too Much Work. Next thing you know, you're thinking and worrying about it. Then you can't focus on work, you become distracted, upset.. What a headache!! and in the end you'd be better off without her.
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nametakennow
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Who said she got defensive? I don't get all that much defensiveness out of that tidbit of conversation.
It's natural human reaction to get defensive when someone poses a question one finds accusing. However, if she really has nothing to hide then it shouldn't bug her.
I'm one of those people that I don't jump out at the first possibility of trouble. Not sure how many strikes you want to give her, but I wouldn't ditch the boat til I knew if it was sinking.
It's natural human reaction to get defensive when someone poses a question one finds accusing. However, if she really has nothing to hide then it shouldn't bug her.
I'm one of those people that I don't jump out at the first possibility of trouble. Not sure how many strikes you want to give her, but I wouldn't ditch the boat til I knew if it was sinking.
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Hmmm. I hear what your saying and mostly agree with it. But different people react differently to the same answers. How he reacts to her answers is much more his responsibility than hers. She answered his questions. It wouldn't surprise me at all if that guy was a babe buzzard or even an ex. If there's trust in the relationship, it shouldn't matter who that guy was. Doesn't sound like he trusts her very much, which is not a good sign.I don't know any of the parties involved, but if it were me, I tend to be more trusting in relationships, unless given a very good reason not to be. And judging by what he wrote and her answers, I don;t think I would have been suspicious. Of course that's just me. But if he feels he can't trust her, then the relationship will likely be rocky if he continues it.
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