Lemme give you the background info. Ok so I think I got caught cheating on my GF of almost 2 years. Im a senior in college. This 2 year GF I am really serious with, I prolly want to marry her. Only thing is I get no play at all, I dont even touch the girl, we made this stupid pact that we will never touch each other until we are married, two years into the going and im doing fine.
I really like her guys, only thing is I want something physical ya know I want play. So there is this girl that I met a while back like she was in my genetics class but we never talked much, this girl real cool, we went out wednesday on what I thought was just to grab a drink, she aint a hoe fellas, it just turns out she has tried to get me to notice her.
The nite quickly turns to "romance" nuff said sucked face thats it. So Im like yo I found a girl, who is nice that I can cop play off of and get away with it. Only thing is today after a "session" I walk her to the corner of this light, and she hugs me bye, thank god she didnt kiss me or I woulda been F***ED, or so I think.
but like I start walking down the road and I look behind me and I see my GF of two years walking down the road, yo I was madd stuttering the lies came out and I was like you didnt see me walking across the street from kinsolving? and she was like no.
Should I believe that? How can I be shure that she didnt see me walkin with this other girl and hugging her. I mean she didnt ask me "who was that girl" So Im safe right guys any suggestions, I know we got some married cats out here on this forum, I really could use some advice on gettin out of this hairy *** situation, I just wanna know if yall think that she saw me on the street with this other girl if not I got big time lucky, If so, well ****, im ****ed:help
Did I get caught cheating?
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GrubyFngaz
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How about you not be a little #%$@! and not cheat on your g/f. That is so lame, I can't believe people like you. You should have your d*&# cut off, I bet you wouldn't want some "play" then. I have been with my g/f for 2 years as well and we are planning on getting married and we don't fool around, but you don't see me out messing around with other girls. Here's your advice: stop cheating!Josh
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huckedup16
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My opinion follows. It might not be what you want to hear and may offend you. It might explain why Im currently single. I dont care, its what I think, read it only if you want to.
Personally...If you are with a girl for 2 years and you are a senior in college and you havent touched her...Thats messed up. I would seriously question why the hell she is like that. In your situation, I would do one thing. Talk to your current gf, tell her how you feel about the "pact" and ask what she thinks about changing the owrding of the pact around.
If she says no then drop her. A relationship is a 2 way street, both parties involved should have a say in the sex. She says no, you say yes, there should be a common ground.
Shes a senior in college and never got any?? Was she beaten with the ugly stick as a child?
Personally...If you are with a girl for 2 years and you are a senior in college and you havent touched her...Thats messed up. I would seriously question why the hell she is like that. In your situation, I would do one thing. Talk to your current gf, tell her how you feel about the "pact" and ask what she thinks about changing the owrding of the pact around.
If she says no then drop her. A relationship is a 2 way street, both parties involved should have a say in the sex. She says no, you say yes, there should be a common ground.
Shes a senior in college and never got any?? Was she beaten with the ugly stick as a child?
How can you make a pact not to touch each other for two years? That seems kind of silly to me. The physical aspect of a relationship can be just as important as the "emotional" part. By not opening yourselves up to that, you are missing a big part of your lives together. Was it her idea to make this pact? If so, there may be emotional problems from the past. (I'm stuck in this damn Psyhcology of the Personality class, so I might as well put it to good use.) Freud explains a lot of stuff like that.
As far as cheating goes, thats bad. If you can cheat on someone, you sure as hell aren't ready to marry them. Time to re-evaluate your relationship with her.
As far as cheating goes, thats bad. If you can cheat on someone, you sure as hell aren't ready to marry them. Time to re-evaluate your relationship with her.
Well you shouldn't have gotten yourself in that situation in the first place. People like you make me sick. You;ve been with this girl for 2 years and you said that your were one day going to get married, so WTF are you doin screwing around with other ladies. I had a similar situation happen to me and my gf of 2 1/2 years, she did it to me though. So I said ***** off and get out of my life. People suck sometimes.
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i agree that what u did was ****ed up but i still dont understand the "pact" you 2 made... what kind of pact was that!?!?!?? not being able to touch each other. So you guys cant even kiss or something? thats just plain stupid... if i was in ur situation and like her as much as you say you do, and if im not able to touch her, i'll go crazy. But that doesnt mean that i'll go out with someone else who'll give me some.
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just holy cow, i talked to a friend of mine and I just feel the lowest of the low, its the worst feeling ever man, and you guys added to the flow, i just feel like a super****, i didnt get caught, I got lucky but i sure as hell learned my lesson,
as for the pact, i guess its just time to be up front with the woman, and be like this pact needs to go, ill give yall the update tonite, i guess I madd freaked, thought I lost something special, but fellas god gave me a second chance, I think i dunno, other than I dont wanna feel like this again
as for the pact, i guess its just time to be up front with the woman, and be like this pact needs to go, ill give yall the update tonite, i guess I madd freaked, thought I lost something special, but fellas god gave me a second chance, I think i dunno, other than I dont wanna feel like this again
you made the bed... you gotta lie in it.. I actually admire the girl for waiting till she's married...
just stick by her and don't screw up... I'm married adn I'll tell you... temptations are always going ot be there but when you care about someone more than you care for your life and want to be with that person... nothing else matters... get some p0rn and keep jacking off... it will be worth it when you do get it... it wasn't a great pact that you did for you since males have a way more of a sex drive than our partners but since you did make a pact and you care and love her... just stick by your work and be honest.
Be very honest with her.. don't tell her you kissed a girl but just say you are friends with her... and if you lie.. don't get caught... that's needless to say... but becareful and respect her for her wishes...
just stick by her and don't screw up... I'm married adn I'll tell you... temptations are always going ot be there but when you care about someone more than you care for your life and want to be with that person... nothing else matters... get some p0rn and keep jacking off... it will be worth it when you do get it... it wasn't a great pact that you did for you since males have a way more of a sex drive than our partners but since you did make a pact and you care and love her... just stick by your work and be honest.
Be very honest with her.. don't tell her you kissed a girl but just say you are friends with her... and if you lie.. don't get caught... that's needless to say... but becareful and respect her for her wishes...
I would **** her.... I'm married and completely faithful but when it comes to girlfriends.... oh well .. put out or get out
if i'm dating someone its not because i want to buy her dinner all the damn time and not get any play
sorry if i offend but thats that... i wouldnt sweat it... i mean you havent even had sex with this 2 year girlfriend!
she shouldnt be jealous.. doesnt really have a right to... she drove you to it .... and you made this pact...what were you thinking man!! are you crazy! your a young guy! wtf... thats when you get the hottest ***** (when you're young)!
Not when you are old and married ! so get that girl and hit a hotel before you get monk's syndrome.
anyway
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mark
if i'm dating someone its not because i want to buy her dinner all the damn time and not get any play
sorry if i offend but thats that... i wouldnt sweat it... i mean you havent even had sex with this 2 year girlfriend!
she shouldnt be jealous.. doesnt really have a right to... she drove you to it .... and you made this pact...what were you thinking man!! are you crazy! your a young guy! wtf... thats when you get the hottest ***** (when you're young)!
Not when you are old and married ! so get that girl and hit a hotel before you get monk's syndrome.
anyway
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mark
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InstantRice
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One thing about people on this forum is they have a habit of preaching to people as if they have never made a mistake in their life, telling the guy you hate little ****s like him and such. Imagine if you hadn't gotten laid in 2 years from a woman you "loved". You would be going out of your head looking for the sweet, sweet tang as well. everyone makes mistakes, and having the baby batter on the brain doesn't help anyone think any clearer. Man you messed up hopefully for your sake you didn't get caught. You should probably reasses your relationship with your girlfriend. Let this just serve as a lesson to you.
I think you should tell her exactly what happened and how you feel about it. You don't want her to find out by someone else, trust me!!! If you want to marry her she should know about it. It's all about being honest with each other, isn't it? She'll get mad, that's for sure, but if she's really the one for you she'll forgive you.
zachosz wrote:I think you should tell her exactly what happened and how you feel about it. You don't want her to find out by someone else, trust me!!! If you want to marry her she should know about it. It's all about being honest with each other, isn't it? She'll get mad, that's for sure, but if she's really the one for you she'll forgive you.
I Totally agree with this if you are marrying her.... me and my wife had to sit down and come clean with eachother about everything before we got married.... it sucked to know the **** she did but probably sucked even more for her to find out some of the **** i did! ... i was a much worse person but its all out in the open now.
anyway ... if she were just a g/f i'd say do both of them but if you REALLY think you can marry this person then i agree but be CAREFUL marriage is not something easy and not something to dive right into. believe me
(sorry if my other post came off in a tone but I just cant imagine going 2 years and not doing something...it baffles me)
Mark
Good thoughts all around tho guys. If you say you like your gf of 2 years and you are a senior in college then maybe you should think about what your girl wants. Im very positive she is thinking about marrying you. If ypu are even thinking about hiding this from your girl you are totally not ready for marriage. I know people in love make mistakes, but the way you sounds makes it seem like you dont really have that strong of feelings for her. If I even flirt with a girl that isnt my gf of a year I feel like **** until I tell her and she gets mad at me. Sounds crazy, but i feel so much better when my girl gets on me for doing ****. It makes me know she cares and she has my back. Keeping stuff like that in will drive you crazy if you like this girl as much as you say man.
*Edit*Now that i read the whole thread Ive got something else to say. If you can find a girl who wont mess around with you all that much when you are going out itll prolly be better in the long run. Its hard to find faithful freaknasty girls. If you find a girl you like personality wise, is hot, and you can stand being with for a long amount of time... you best scoop that **** up because it wont come around that often. Talk to your gf about what you need out of the relationship. The reason for the pact was for a reason. If you cant keep it TELL HER FIRST BRO. Im sure shed rather give it to you than another chick man! If she doesnt, and its that big of a deal to you, break it off. Dont cheat. GOd I hate cheaters.
*Edit*Now that i read the whole thread Ive got something else to say. If you can find a girl who wont mess around with you all that much when you are going out itll prolly be better in the long run. Its hard to find faithful freaknasty girls. If you find a girl you like personality wise, is hot, and you can stand being with for a long amount of time... you best scoop that **** up because it wont come around that often. Talk to your gf about what you need out of the relationship. The reason for the pact was for a reason. If you cant keep it TELL HER FIRST BRO. Im sure shed rather give it to you than another chick man! If she doesnt, and its that big of a deal to you, break it off. Dont cheat. GOd I hate cheaters.
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GirlRacerS14
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Well, I'll throw in my 2 cents. I've been married and divorced and was cheated on for 3 of my 4 years of marriage. So I've kinda been there. It doesn't seem like your really ready to lay down a solid committment. Marriage is a HUGE step in life. If you decide that you are ready and this is the girl then everything has to come out. It will sooner or later I promise... and it would be much better to get it out in the open before an engagement etc. If you have an ounce of respect or love for her you'll tell her about it rather than let her find out through someone else or after you're already married. Not to mention, this other chick may get her heart broken in the process too. Your just playin with fire. Hate to say it but I think your girl is probably too good for you.
And if your girl doesn't want to have sex before marriage and you love her enough to marry her, then you should respect and love EVERYTHING about her. Including her beliefs or feelings on waiting.
GR
And if your girl doesn't want to have sex before marriage and you love her enough to marry her, then you should respect and love EVERYTHING about her. Including her beliefs or feelings on waiting.
GR
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n00b240
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Word, I just talked to her tonite, I told her I mite have been a lil too friendly with someone else, and it just happened, she came on to me (half true) And I really regret it, and I never will do it again, well lets just say she got madd disappointed, and she goes im sorry I made this stupid pact and begins to touch my hand (wow i never touched her before) ,
and I was like naw man, we saved everything for the day, and if something big happens like i walk away or you walk away its different. I told her I loved her, But i just let myself be friendly because I allowed myself to and im sorry, she said that she forgives me, but if I ever look at another girl its finished. I was like dag man, yo for real, i thot I lost it all. Thanks for all the advice fellas haha i should go on doctor phil eh?
and I was like naw man, we saved everything for the day, and if something big happens like i walk away or you walk away its different. I told her I loved her, But i just let myself be friendly because I allowed myself to and im sorry, she said that she forgives me, but if I ever look at another girl its finished. I was like dag man, yo for real, i thot I lost it all. Thanks for all the advice fellas haha i should go on doctor phil eh?