yeah i am definetly not wanting to do that to her.
what are you a mindreader Black240?
Alright guys and gals, I am starting another personal thread...............
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Mean guys get all the attention whores with self-esteem problems. This guarantees lots of sex but DO NOT pursue a relationship with them -- they will want to. In fact, its best not to share your cell number or address with them. Always go out, always pick her up, and always go back to -her- place.
The smart girls of course know better, and require the usual kindness, honesty, and respect to keep around.
Hmmmm... I've gone off on a tangent.
Who is this girl anyway?
-Jesda
The smart girls of course know better, and require the usual kindness, honesty, and respect to keep around.
Hmmmm... I've gone off on a tangent.
Who is this girl anyway?
-Jesda
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Good stuff from everybody, but one more thing...
No one has said it, so I will... this is really just a bit of warning, something to consider...
Rebound. We know your last relationship just ended, and no matter what you say you're still reeling from that. You have to consider the possibility that the attraction to her is a rebound effect. I know, I know, you're probably not the kind of guy to do the rebound thing and moreover you really like her. True. So am I, and so did I, but I still did have a bit of a rebound fling after breaking up with my gf, so a fianceé (correct?) has to be even tougher. The rebound chick and I are still friends, getting to be better friends, actually, but we both recognize what happened. If you pursue this, you really ought to be fair to her and be straight with her in just telling her that you can't guarantee this isn't a rebound thing. Rebound flings can be beneficial both to the person rebounding and to the person they're with. In my case, her parents had divorced recently, so something to get her mind off of that and have some fun was a good thing to have. But they are still somewhat rough and often can be destructive. I know she's a little hurt, despite the fact the she denies it entirely (and is threatening to kill me if I hurt her best friend, but that's a whole other issue)... so watch yourself.
Just be straight forward. Most of all, be yourself, and have fun doing it.
No one has said it, so I will... this is really just a bit of warning, something to consider...
Rebound. We know your last relationship just ended, and no matter what you say you're still reeling from that. You have to consider the possibility that the attraction to her is a rebound effect. I know, I know, you're probably not the kind of guy to do the rebound thing and moreover you really like her. True. So am I, and so did I, but I still did have a bit of a rebound fling after breaking up with my gf, so a fianceé (correct?) has to be even tougher. The rebound chick and I are still friends, getting to be better friends, actually, but we both recognize what happened. If you pursue this, you really ought to be fair to her and be straight with her in just telling her that you can't guarantee this isn't a rebound thing. Rebound flings can be beneficial both to the person rebounding and to the person they're with. In my case, her parents had divorced recently, so something to get her mind off of that and have some fun was a good thing to have. But they are still somewhat rough and often can be destructive. I know she's a little hurt, despite the fact the she denies it entirely (and is threatening to kill me if I hurt her best friend, but that's a whole other issue)... so watch yourself.
Just be straight forward. Most of all, be yourself, and have fun doing it.
My girl is going home (arkansas) and I just found this out this week. She's leaving this weekend and I feel so horrible. I want her to be happy, and I know she misses her mom, step dad, and baby sister that live down in arkansas. She was the best girl to be around that I could have asked for. She was smart, funny, and even more important, she was fun to be with. I hope she is happy when she is home and Ill definitely come to visit her. You cant hardly be selfish about this situation. We've both talked abotu it, and I realize its for her personal happiness and best interest to go home where she can be around a family who loves her more. I do love her myself, and she loves me back, but I want her to be happy with her family. With that said, just b e yourself and hope the man above gives you some good luck.
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Jesda, can't figure it out yet?
NTN, thank you for the advice man. good wisdom from a youngin'!
Altiman, sorry to hear about your dilemma(sp).
you all have very awesome input in this matter. it is helping me see exactly where i am and that sometimes you just need to go with the flow to insure that the final outcome is the best. i just wish people didn't have to change cause none of us would be here right now if they didn't but they do so you have to make the most of the situation. i guess only time will tell. ummm........ anyone know the best way to speed up time?! J/K! thanks and i shall keep everyone informed if they would like and keep me informed in all of your situations also aight?
anymore advice anyone?
NTN, thank you for the advice man. good wisdom from a youngin'!
Altiman, sorry to hear about your dilemma(sp).
you all have very awesome input in this matter. it is helping me see exactly where i am and that sometimes you just need to go with the flow to insure that the final outcome is the best. i just wish people didn't have to change cause none of us would be here right now if they didn't but they do so you have to make the most of the situation. i guess only time will tell. ummm........ anyone know the best way to speed up time?! J/K! thanks and i shall keep everyone informed if they would like and keep me informed in all of your situations also aight?
anymore advice anyone?
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Aight.
Go with the flow is absolutely the best policy, changes in flow typically lead to bad things (think if your oil or fuel started flowing backwards, life would suck).
Another thing to watch out for is a loss of caring for anything. Lemme elaborate here.
I know that after the big breakup, at least part of you wants to say "just **** it!" and go crazy, letting yourself run wild and get in a lot of trouble, cause nothing really matters to you anymore. Hopefully this girl can change that a bit, in that she can give you something that matters. But the warning here is don't lose control completely. There will be times where you'll just let go and do something dumb, other times where you let go and do something fun, but if you completely let go you're only going to get yourself in some kind of trouble, be it mental, physical, emotional, or lawful (well, I guess unlawful would be the right term). You'll be pissed at yourself for a while for doing it, may never forgive yourself, I'm not sure, but try to avoid having to. Whenever something rash and irresponsible comes to mind, take a minute and think about if it's really in your character.
I know I sound like a cheesy "Chicken Soup for the Soul" book, but it's the truth.
Anyway man, just keep on truckin', life's no fun without some insanity.
Go with the flow is absolutely the best policy, changes in flow typically lead to bad things (think if your oil or fuel started flowing backwards, life would suck).
Another thing to watch out for is a loss of caring for anything. Lemme elaborate here.
I know that after the big breakup, at least part of you wants to say "just **** it!" and go crazy, letting yourself run wild and get in a lot of trouble, cause nothing really matters to you anymore. Hopefully this girl can change that a bit, in that she can give you something that matters. But the warning here is don't lose control completely. There will be times where you'll just let go and do something dumb, other times where you let go and do something fun, but if you completely let go you're only going to get yourself in some kind of trouble, be it mental, physical, emotional, or lawful (well, I guess unlawful would be the right term). You'll be pissed at yourself for a while for doing it, may never forgive yourself, I'm not sure, but try to avoid having to. Whenever something rash and irresponsible comes to mind, take a minute and think about if it's really in your character.
I know I sound like a cheesy "Chicken Soup for the Soul" book, but it's the truth.
Anyway man, just keep on truckin', life's no fun without some insanity.
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JayPat83 wrote:sounds like you've had hard times before too.
Considering my age, maybe I have. I tend to think I just ***** about it more.
I had some rough years when I was younger, confidence issues and the like, all that changed when I met my gf. Then we had hard times, and the breakup damn near drove me over the edge, just like I'd told people it would (when asked). All the same, I got through it, and despite how less involved it was than a fianceé would be, I know you can to.
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