A new chapter in my life

[Firewind]

I am sure many of you expect that I have gotten a new car, or a new girlfriend, or maybe a kid on the way... However no that is not the case. I doubt any of you are going to expect what I am about to say.

Before I go any further, let us keep this civil and safe for work.

After a great deal of soul searching, and self acceptance I have finally decided to start my transition from a man to a female. Accepting myself as a transgendered has taken me a great deal of time. I have wanted to be a female my entire life. Being now 27 years old and married, it made me really think about how much I could loose in my life, but also how much I will gain.

So why come out to Nice Forums?

I could just create a new account, claim to be a girl and no one would be the wiser. However that is not me. I do not want to lie. I am transgendered. I am proud of that fact and wish to support others like me, and those in the GLBT communities.

I am sure i am not the first transgendered person on Nico forums, however I have found that few feel welcomed in the automotive communities. This is troubling for even me since I have a deep passion for cars. Anyone who has rebuilt a motor, or spent hours smelling burning bushing smoke I am sure understands this passion.

Earlier this year I was debating going to the NICOFEST. I said heck, lets drop 500 bucks and fix up the interior of the 240SX, fix that oil leak, and drive it out to PA with the wife. Though some money issues may stop that from happening... What really concerned me is that by that time in the year I hope to be dressing and acting as a woman. I fear I wouldn't be welcomed to such events. I know many other transgendered feel that fear of isolation. This fear extends beyond transgendered people, but the entire GLBT community.

So what are your thoughts? Do you relate to GLBT, and fear the same kind of isolation that would keep you from going to events?

Do you think GLBT groups should "stay the hell out of my communities."

Or is all this fear just in my/our heads?

[Dattebayo]

This was a good idea.

[Encryptshun]

I say goodonya. This site needs more chicks who like to work on cars.

[Xdisaster240sX]

I really was not expecting this...

[Jesda]

I watch Glee.

[maxhopper]

Instead of looking for our acceptance...you may want to talk with your wife first.

[AppleBonker]

Wait, what?

Also, screw looking for acceptance. No matter who you are or what you do, there will be people who disagree with you, mock you, don't accept you, etc. I say do what makes you happy. I'm willing to crack jokes about anything, but there isn't anything comical about doing what makes you happy. If everyone cared more about that (rather than all the other trivial BS out there), the world would be a much better place.

[Firewind]

Instead of looking for our acceptance...you may want to talk with your wife first.

I already have. She as already accepted this and supports me fully. She was a lesbian before she met me. Works out well now. Thanks for your concern though.

[Dattebayo]

She was a lesbian before she met me. Works out well now.

Oh boy.

Look, I'm not gonna judge you for making this post, but this just has bad ju-ju written all over it.

[AppleBonker]

And, to answer your questions more accurately:

I don't know that I entirely relate to anyone. Until I've actually walked in someone else's shoes (which is impossible, btw), I will never fully relate. However, I can relate to you as a person seeking what you believe to be right.

And as far as Carlisle/whatever goes. I say show up. I'll hang out with you. Assuming you can hold a decent conversation, race/gender/etc have to influence on me. And the people who want any person for any reason to "stay out of their communities" need to investigate a little more into why that is. These are the people I am most fearful about invading my community...

[Dattebayo]

Also, I gotta say, if she "used to" be a lesbian, isn't this going to conflict with her new morals? Or is this more of a modified "Chasing Amy" thing?

[Encryptshun]

Honestly, if OP is taking a piss as us, it's the most epic piss in the history of Nico.

If s/he's not, then I smell a brilliant way to punk nala, if OP has a good sense of humor.

[tigersharkdude]

If s/he's not, then I smell a brilliant way to punk nala, if OP has a good sense of humor.

I would come to carlisle(?) to see this.

[Firewind]

And as far as Carlisle/whatever goes. I say show up. I'll hang out with you.

If I get the money to go, I definitely will. We will see how that all pans out.

Also, I gotta say, if she "used to" be a lesbian, isn't this going to conflict with her new morals? Or is this more of a modified "Chasing Amy" thing?

I don't know what a "Chasing Army" thing is... However I should of had said she's bisexual. She knew when we started dating that I often considered becoming a woman, and was always supportive of it. However never forced it on me, or tried to convince me to do it. It was my choice.

Honestly, if OP is taking a piss as us, it's the most epic piss in the history of Nico.

If s/he's not, then I smell a brilliant way to punk nala, if OP has a good sense of humor.

This is definitely not a joke. Actually really nervous of the feedback I would get at first. I am really happy about the amount of positive feed back I have seen so far. I also do not know who 'nala' is. However i do have a good sense of humor. :P

[Jesda]

I dont even remember who you are, so you could have just started posting as a woman and I wouldnt know the difference anyway.

[Firewind]

I dont even remember who you are, so you could have just started posting as a woman and I wouldnt know the difference anyway.

Of course, I even mentioned this in my post. However if you read that part you maybe would understand why I didn't do that? Maybe I wasn't clear. So let me go into more detail. I am a transgendered, I am proud of this. I cannot alter or delete my history. I have lived my life as a man up to this point in my life. Sure I can on the internet... but why bother? It's not really who I am.

[Jesda]

I'm not reading all that. I don't care enough.

Congrats on becoming whomever you intend to be. See you in Carlisle.

[serg-z32]

Honestly, if OP is taking a piss as us, it's the most epic piss in the history of Nico.

If s/he's not, then I smell a brilliant way to punk nala, if OP has a good sense of humor.

As for the OP. I totally agree with everything AppleBonker wrote.
Everyone in this world is entitled to look for their own happiness. Everyone would find something "wrong" in somebody else's life or disagree with them. As long as ur not hurting anybody and its what u want, i say go for it. Plus you already have the support of one of the most important persons in ur life and whos opinion should matter most then anybody.
Goodluck!

[TurboSauce]

Look op, +1 to ya for doing what you want.
Though I can't say I agree with your choice, It's not my life, so do what you want as long as it makes you happy.
I' not gonna push my morals out on you either so, live life.

[Amays U G37S]

I dont even remember who you are, so you could have just started posting as a woman and I wouldnt know the difference anyway.

Jesda, I strangly remember you saying that the night we woke up in the same bed together.

[Rev_D21]

So when the OP is bored he/she/it can F themselves? How do you find time to leave the house?

[Amays U G37S]

Lol Rev!!!

He's/She's/It's having a full sex change... So he will be missing a weina and will be implimenting a va-ja-ja.

[Dattebayo]

I don't know what a "Chasing [Amy]" (fixed, lol) thing is... However I should of had said she's bisexual. She knew when we started dating that I often considered becoming a woman, and was always supportive of it. However never forced it on me, or tried to convince me to do it. It was my choice.

Oh, I get it... This is the alternate ending where Ben Affleck and Joey Lauren Adams end up together and still get to take Jason Lee to bed once in a while.

[scotty-2-forty]

Instead of looking for our acceptance...you may want to talk with your wife first.

^ And to think this is coming from the 'squirrel' with the biggest nutz in the forest! Hey OP, good for you! One needs to be comfortable with oneself before anything else, period. I wish you luck though with your wife. It's going to be one hell of an experience for both of you, and none of your lives will be the same.

I already have. She as already accepted this and supports me fully. She was a [bisexual] before she met me. Works out well now. Thanks for your concern though.

This is just epic for you!

[Bmore-coupe]

[Bubba1]

I say you and your wife are both welcome to join us in Carlisle in whatever way you feel most comfortable. I'd be happy to chat with you. My thought is If you don't actively try to draw attention to yourself about that one particular aspect of your life, I think you'll be fine. This is an automotive crowd.

[Jesda]

Jesda, I strangly remember you saying that the night we woke up in the same bed together.

Theyre called SECRETS for a reason.

[Dattebayo]

I say you and your wife are both welcome to join us in Carlisle in whatever way you feel most comfortable. I'd be happy to chat with you. My thought is If you don't actively try to draw attention to yourself about that one particular aspect of your life, I think you'll be fine. This is an automotive crowd.

I get the impression the OP wants us to know what's up. It will most likely come up in passing as well...

[Jesda]

There's lots of LBGT in the auto industry.

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