would you cheat???

[arabdrifter]

ok heres the story. i used to work in this really sh*tty area at a marathon gas station near my apt. now i got transferred to another gas station same owner and new shift in an area where they re many hot women which is only 9miles from my apt. i used to work night shift at my old station and its where i met my gf..named jennifer. its been a rocky 1.5yrs and we ve lived together the whole time(< i know fail on my part for not having my own spot..lol!)

anyway, they're many things my gf and i have in common and they're many we dont. lately in the past 8months its just been a bunch of bs and 1 week after thanksgiving i broke up with her over things she just refuses to change. the breakup lasted for a weekend. i therefore moved all of my stuff out of our apt into my moms house. the breakup lasted a weekend. my mom/stepdad asked me what was going on and kinda convinced me to try n work it out with the gf. so we invited my gf over and had a chat. went well(or so i thought at the time), and i moved back in.

quick recap of our deal to stay together. my gf is to not sweat the small sh*t and look forward to a new day and start fresh. as for me, im not to get angry or yell and do the same as my gf. if deal is broken then we as a couple would be expired and go our separate ways.

from the new yr and to date, our deal has not stuck!! it kinda pisses me off cuz i do care for her alot but refuses to change her ways. the girl is not a push over either, she has green eyes, athletic/toned, 5'3"/brunette hair..<sorry no pics guys..lol!

now for the good stuff!! on Tues this bomb shell comes into the station and gets cigarettes/gas. she comes up to the counter to cash out, where i notice she's checking me out. i talk and joke with the chick, where she asks me if i'd like to hang or drink one day?. i as a joke not thinking anything(she was really nice and friendly..and not to mention hottt!) said,"sure anytime"! even told her bout my favorite drink. then later on the same day i'd say 8pm-ish, she came up right to my counter and this time full blown fluttering with me. she then told me she'd be back again and wanted to chill the next time she saw me. i was like(again not taking it too seriously)"sure i would love to hang/shoot the sh*t"! she smiled, and as she was leaving i was looking at our mirror turned around, noticed she was checking me out again..lol!

so for the next 2hrs of my shift, i pondered the idea of wanting to get her name/# but i have a gf and the idea faded just a little. next day come to work and this chick is still in my head. she was just soo dang fine. she's a little blondie, nice cut body, cute face/colored eyes, 5' 5" tall and very friendly! i kinda felt like a n00b, cuz i usually ask for girls name/ #'s right away followed by wanting to chill with them later on. again i didnt pursue this idea as im taken!

now this brings us to present day. i come into work today kinda upset, of course cuz my gf was up to her usual bs again and help people as i usually do with smiles.(i refuse to bring drama with me to work, that sh*t stays at home!). about 2:30pm in the middle of rush hour notice the chick is in line. there were 2lines, and she chose my lane. anyhow her turn came up. just said hi and asked how's her day. she smiled(in a giggly way), then asked me what i was doing tonight? told her;" nothing, just work and going home afterwards". she then asks me to call her and figure out something to do. so she borrows a pen/paper writes down her name#....ftw ! i did the same and gave her my name/#. btw..her name is Jenni(its just too weird cuz my gf's name is jennifer..bwahahaha..man this is Gods way of saying dump ur gf.. )

***btw..i noticed she has a huge diamond ring and drives a 300c w/hemi..out of all the women i get the married ones***

***she came onto me and wants to chill

***what would you do if your relationship not going well, but do still care for that person?

***should i just keep this chick as a friend/benefit..see where that goes?

***or dump the gf, do my thing, and skys the limit with Jenni?(that means i would have to live back at my mom's house..lol)

-hell Jenni(the new chick), has texted me already wondering when will i come to chill?

-sorry for the long post peeps....

[AZhitman]

Sounds like she's married. Good way to get shot.

Even if she's not, sounds like your focus needs to be elsewhere - like, getting your own place, a better job, more education, etc.

Good luck.

p.s. Sometimes, a piece of a$$ just ain't worth the hassle.

[Mr1der]

nah.

keep it at 99 problems...don't get another one.

[SkinnyKibbles]

if she isn't willing to change and you're miserable then call it off. no sense making it worse by dragging it out. As for the whole cheating aspect, depends on how your conscience is. figure out what this new girl girls deal is, if shes married or engaged, bail out cause last think you want is to get your a** kicked by some meat head.

cheating is a no no in my book, so becareful

[93coupe]

Why do you need temptation to break off your already failing relationship? If it isn't working with your current girlfriend, end it. Move on. Don't cheat. Nothing good ever comes of it.

I wouldn't yam out the new chick only because she is a smoker. If she weren't, this is how I'd do it:

Ditch the old Jenn.Hang out with new Jenn. If she is not married, beat it out and everything else that looks good. Enjoy single life until you find someone that knocks you off your feet.

Wrap it up.

[AppleBonker]

Don't cheat. Nothing good ever comes of it.

True story. I've been on all sides of the cheating deal (cheater, cheated and cheatee). I don't want to revisit any of them. If your relationship sucks, end it and get your life together. Hook up your own place and move on from there. No need to make this more complicated than necessary.

[Space Monkey]

1) We need examples of what your current GF is doing to piss you off so much so we arn't blaming her for you being a puss in the relationship.

2) I have been in your boat and all i can say is, I wish i took the new chick... Reason being is the relationship didn't last anyhow...i hate drugs

3) AZ is right man. Get your own place. I know its not easy and it takes most of your money, but there are deals out there! Even if you have a friend as a roommate. (IF you have a responsible clean friend)

4) I hate cheaters. Make up your mind BEFORE you play.

[krimsonviper]

Break it off. If you have aren't happy with the girl you got, then be a good man, and leave. What's so hard about that? Beside, it sounds like you could shorten your list of problem if you do.

[arabdrifter]

Sounds like she's married. Good way to get shot.

Even if she's not, sounds like your focus needs to be elsewhere - like, getting your own place, a better job, more education, etc.

Good luck.

p.s. Sometimes, a piece of a$$ just ain't worth the hassle.

wise words az..ive never cheated on anyone! about the job im working on finishing school as an electrical engineer with only 1 more yr left. also working on having my own place its just my gf prefers we live together(we go back-n-forth bout this subject)

coupe i like what you say bud..deff been thinking bout just letting her go and start new

Why do you need temptation to break off your already failing relationship? If it isn't working with your current girlfriend, end it. Move on. Don't cheat. Nothing good ever comes of it.

I wouldn't yam out the new chick only because she is a smoker. If she weren't, this is how I'd do it:

Ditch the old Jenn.Hang out with new Jenn. If she is not married, beat it out and everything else that looks good. Enjoy single life until you find someone that knocks you off your feet.

Wrap it up.

if she isn't willing to change and you're miserable then call it off. no sense making it worse by dragging it out. As for the whole cheating aspect, depends on how your conscience is. figure out what this new girl girls deal is, if shes married or engaged, bail out cause last think you want is to get your a** kicked by some meat head.

cheating is a no no in my book, so becareful

i agree..im a person with a heart, and i wont hurt her like that

nah.

keep it at 99 problems...don't get another one.

haha..

[arabdrifter]

1) We need examples of what your current GF is doing to piss you off so much so we arn't blaming her for you being a puss in the relationship.

2) I have been in your boat and all i can say is, I wish i took the new chick... Reason being is the relationship didn't last anyhow...i hate drugs

3) AZ is right man. Get your own place. I know its not easy and it takes most of your money, but there are deals out there! Even if you have a friend as a roommate. (IF you have a responsible clean friend)

4) I hate cheaters. Make up your mind BEFORE you play.

trust me im no puss, im a grown person who could handle situations when problem arises.

example- constant reminder of things in the past. crying everytime i try to talk with her. when i try to tell my gf what bothered me, it blows up in my face(i dont yell, or use bad language, and try to keep it calm). if indeed something she did bothered me i try to stay quite, think about the situation as to not make an azz out of myself/and see the better light by telling my gf "im sorry..lets make it better..i love you..",< this will end the prob temporarily, but i will here it again<again a prob she needs to work on

im no angel either..i have my issues as well and do man up to them. i realize somethings aren't worth the argument and do try to get over it very quickly to try and make things better. its just my gf was treated horribly before me and i've told her how much that past treatment conflicts with our relationship. i always give my gf a kiss/tell her how much i love/cherish our relationship. whenever she's feeling bad im there for her..its just somethings bug her and we end up getting into it!

[AZhitman]

trust me im no puss, im a grown person who could handle situations when problem arises.

Good deal - Then don't be a punk and don't bring bad juju into someone else's life. Your character and integrity is FAR more valuable than some bootie.

Do no harm.

[TurboSauce]

that is all.....

[arabdrifter]

Break it off. If you have aren't happy with the girl you got, then be a good man, and leave. What's so hard about that? Beside, it sounds like you could shorten your list of problem if you do.

again i absolutely agree! its a little hard cuz, i always think she'll change and we can move on..but it just ends up being the same!! almost 2yrs with a girl whom you've shared all your secrets with..takes alot of consideration!

[HashiriyaS14]

Don't do it.

Hell, you could always break up with your gf and THEN go rail this chick, but I think the whole thing is more trouble than it's worth.

[AZhitman]

i always think she'll change

Ain't happenin' yo.

[arabdrifter]

Good deal - Then don't be a punk and don't bring bad juju into someone else's life. Your character and integrity is FAR more valuable than some bootie.

Do no harm.

yessir..this is the reason why im a member of Nico!! everyone one here is respectable and give true knowledge to the un-imformed who's searching for advice/answers!! i came with confusion, instead of doing something stupid or hurt someone, i decided to just use the good -OLE-brain!

again i will try to talk with my gf more and try to understand why things are they way they are, and if things fail can just have her as a good friend

[AppleBonker]

Ain't happenin' yo.

Right on. And breaking up after 2 years of it not working is better than breaking up after 5 years of it not working...

[arabdrifter]

that is all.....

[Space Monkey]

Your character and integrity is FAR more valuable than some bootie.

QFT!

TBH man, you sound like your in the almost exact same relationship i was in...danzel in distress, abused and broken. Lets see if we can help! Apparently we can't help because they are too stubborn.

Even with this in mind, AZ's words about are what makes a man who he is. Either fix it or consider it non-salvageable.

[arabdrifter]

Right on. And breaking up after 2 years of it not working is better than breaking up after 5 years of it not working...

[arabdrifter]

QFT!

TBH man, you sound like your in the almost exact same relationship i was in...danzel in distress, abused and broken. Lets see if we can help! Apparently we can't help because they are too stubborn.

Even with this in mind, AZ's words about are what makes a man who he is. Either fix it or consider it non-salvageable.

haha..soo true man, its hard to understand when you want it to work and it wont!! AZ speaks the truth and is very impressive words of wisdom!!

may i ask what u did with your relationship? leave/stayed/looked for another chick? im a think hard and just decide to stay if we can work it out or leave if we cant..cuz that was our agreement when we got back together! if we couldnt make it work, we'd go our diff ways

[sentrastace]

True story. I've been on all sides of the cheating deal (cheater, cheated and cheatee). I don't want to revisit any of them. If your relationship sucks, end it and get your life together. Hook up your own place and move on from there. No need to make this more complicated than necessary.

thats the right idea there. dont cheat and seriously reevaluate your relationship with your current.

it kinda sucks reading this...you have someone you are committed to (otherwise you wouldnt be with them for 1.5 years) and once the road gets bumpy and another good lookin chick comes along you're thinking of cheating. girls do it too. think of how you would feel if you know your girl was in the same situation you were and was thinking of cheating on you with another guy? hurts, doesnt it?

[Axel Grungy]

karma......it will come back to bite you in the a**.

Cheating just isn't cool, anyway you put it.

[cellardoorv]

Yay, girl's prospective time!

I've been cheated on. A lot. Not a good feeling. Just sayin'. Anyway.

To be completely honest, without even considering the possibility of ACTUALLY cheating on your girlfriend with this new girl, I think the fact that you're even DEBATING it is reason enough to break up with your current girlfriend. Subconsciously or not, you are not into this relationship anymore, and it is blatantly obvious by your wandering eye. Granted, even though you haven't done anything, I think the fact you are even ENTERTAINING the thought of this new girl is your answer. If you were truly happy in your relationship, it wouldn't matter who came into your gas station/threw themselves at you etc, blah blah blah.

You know what you should do. You are just too lazy/comfortable/settled in your current situation to make some waves. Do yourself the favor, and save your current girlfriend some heartache and end it amicably as possible, or as painlessly as possible. You, sir, have been gone from this relationship for a while. Stop fooling yourself and man up.

[Jesda]

Tiger cheated, and he's rich!

1. PLOW SLAMPIG2. ????3. PROFIT

[nissangirl74]

NEVER CHEAT!

- You're unhappy, your girlfriend is unhappy. Don't complicate the obvious. It is time to get out.

- Leave the married woman alone. FACT: Hot, bored, married women will get you into trouble EVERY time.

- Get your own place. If you're responsible enough to have a place with your girlfriend, you're responsible enough to have one of your own. Worried about expenses? Get a roommate. <Not a woman.>

- If things have been s***ty for the past 8 months, they'll be s***ty for the next 8 years. Get out before she gets knocked up and you feel obligated to stay for the child's sake.

RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[krimsonviper]

again i absolutely agree! its a little hard cuz, i always think she'll change and we can move on..but it just ends up being the same!! almost 2yrs with a girl whom you've shared all your secrets with..takes alot of consideration!

Not too much to consider. You guys have laid everything out for each other and still can't come to a close. Even after all of that understanding, she STILL can't pull it together. Leave and STAY gone. It's the only way she'll learn. Don't come back either, she'll just reform to her former self.

$.02

[Space Monkey]

may i ask what u did with your relationship? leave/stayed/looked for another chick?s

When i found out she was doing caps of E and offered me some, I gave her 2 options, me or her current life. After over a year of living together i still got dropped for drugs...

Have not been in a strong relationship since.

Yay, girl's prospective time!

^ Will apparently never understand a guys mind. There is always a hotter female, which means there is always a temptation. Even when you're happy with the love of your life, every guy will see a smoking hot chick and say "I'd hit it!". It's whether or not you're man enough to say NO at the right moments to keep your girl. That's what counts. Unless... you're fabio...

[Philipio]

I would personally never cheat on any girl regardless of what's going on. Even if she cheated on me, I would take the high road. The "proper" thing to do would be breaking up with her before anything happens with another woman.

You also should not be pursuing the new girl if she's engaged or married.

[joe_yoh]

If that is my situation with my gf i might have cheat with the hot girl...lol