One thing you need to keep in mind is that the relay isn't connected directly to the stalk (combination switch), it's controlled by the BCM (body control module), which is supposed to take the info from the switch and then tell the relay to turn the wipers on and off, and how often.
The service manual does address the problem of the wipers not shutting off, although it's probably easiest if you download the pdf of it yourself so that you can follow some of the links to other sections of the manual. You can find the service manual pdfs for your model year here:
http://www.nicoclub.com/archives/nissan ... nuals.html
and you should first check out section WW for the wipers; however, you may need to grab some additional sections (or all of them!) and save them to the same folder, that way when you click on a link which points to another section, it'll find it ok.