When you mean accelerating, you mean torque-wise? The EX35 is not snappy, it`s basically a tamed G35. Sometimes, the torque is so smooth that you feel you are not accelerating.
EX35 acceleration is like a wave, it builds the torque and speed as you slowly pushing the pedal.
These are my observations:
1) You can tap the gas pedal quickly (a sec or 2) when you are on D mode, and you`ll see the tach goes up to 6k RPM and yet the car won`t move forward with great torque. = NORMAL
2) You are on M mode 1st or 2nd gear and very slowly gas it. RPM will rise up to 6K with no torque except engine gets noisier. = NORMAL
Typical for EX35. I guess for 2008 version

not sure about the 2010
I think your wife is not used to the car yet.
Warning: If you want instant torque, use the manual mode. Manual mode and sudden press of gas pedal (not slowly) is addictive.

(Make sure you just let your wife drive it in D mode only)
