Well Since ur all talking about girls....

[The Mic]

[start_rambling/]I am 17 yrs old. Tell me why i shouldnt care about this one girl. Its been kinda an on & off thing but this time i want to walk but then i think am i gonna find another chick like this? So im confused whether i should just stay with this chick or not. I think its been difficult bc of the distance. I live in Pomona and she lives in Van Nuys. We meet both meet halfway at hollywood. Yeah we both drive the same distance to hollywood (45min-1hr). I think I'm rambilng. I like her bc shes different then my other exes, really interesting. My friends tell me if shes worth it, i should stay with her despite the distance but i dont know. My bro told me there are a million girls out there like her, but this chick is with me now, get it? We went to Prom and that was fun. Bad part is that my mom got ahold of my prom pictures somehow and she framed the one with me & her and put it in the middle of the family living room (highly visible). so I was like "great, now i cant forget about her". And all my relatives and friends asks about her and i just say whatever. I try to forget about her and try to hookup with other chicks but then when i watch TV i see that picture and i think " Maybe i should stay with her" . Idk if should make the effort. Ive dated all the local girls and theyre dirty and boring. I think our relationship would be a lot better if we were closer distance-wise, but what are the chances of finding ur type in ur same area code? yeah ... im just rambling now. [end_rambling/]

[SmithSR]

Very few couples make it past the trasition phase from HS life into college/career life, and the ones that do often fail because one or both of the parties never got the chance to go out & bang everything in sight. Insecurity will make you think there aren't other girls like this one, and truth be told, there probably aren't any exactly like her. Only close, or better. None really the same.

No serious relationships until 25, and never move in with some broad unless you already have plans to wed.

[Altiman94]

I agree wtih smith on this one. No girls.

[Axel Grungy]

id say stay with her, an hour isnt that far. but always keep your eyes open:shocked2

[Megaseth]

well, i met my girl in HS and we've been together for a year and a half. she just graduated and i just finished my first year in college. thigns are going great and we're going to be at the same school next year too. shes not just going cuse i am, she actually thought about the school before i went. but anyway, yeah, i kinda agree with smith on this one. i think there are few relationships that work after HS because its when your life is just begining and you can go out and do anything and anyone. but i didnt think i would be like that, so things are fine with my 1 girl. i'd see how things go. its a little early to tell, but you'll know if you want to get serious with her.

[hannibal]

Damn, is it that time of year or something??My little brother's been asking me stuff like this recently. He just graduated from highschool and his girl's gonna be a senior next year. I told him, 'If you like this chick, stay with her. Til you find someone else...'

[GEO]

Yo, like I told knightrider. Your sooo young, why get into a serious relationship. Who cares, you never been to college for christ sake. I mean, you should just put all the BF /GF s hit aside so you can everything you ever wanted (bang a million chicks, vactions, build an import monster, have fun with friends, ect...). How fun would it be if you get invited somewhere and you like, "nah man, my wife is home form work tonight, I told her I would stay with her tonight."Make a nice lump sum of money then once your in your late 20's ( 28-30 ). Then start to get serious. Before then, whats the point your still young and not ready to settle. 90% of all marriages that occur before 28 fail within the first year. By 28, you want to just settle down and establish yourself cause by then you should be on your way to a high rank at your given job. HOPE you takr this infomation in a digest it. I am only 18, but this is the life I am going to live.

[nametakennow]

Nice try at predicting the future.

You can't tell what's going to happen. If you're happy, stick with her, if you're not, move on. They're right in a sense, there's a lot of girls like her, but none the same. You have to accept the chances either way you go.

Anyway. to reiterate the point: stick with her if you're both happy, if one or both aren't happy, then it's silly and time to move on.

[The Mic]

haha dudes i am totally NOT going to marry any1 for a while. I wont marry any1 till when im like 25-30 yrs. But i am confused whether i should stay with this chick. We do have a lot of things in common. like We both just graduated from HS and were both 17 still!! Since im considered a young senior im usually used to dating senior chicks who are like 18 already. So its weird bc im actually older than her by a month haha.

[POS_S13]

depends on the seriousness(is this a word?) of the relationship. i'd say if you guys are really into eachother than the more power to you, keep on stayin with her. keep the good ones, daily bang the dirty ones haha

[Bubba1]

Very few couples make it past the trasition phase from HS life into college/career life, and the ones that do often fail because one or both of the parties never got the chance to go out & bang everything in sight. Insecurity will make you think there aren't other girls like this one, and truth be told, there probably aren't any exactly like her. Only close, or better. None really the same.

No serious relationships until 25, and never move in with some broad unless you already have plans to wed.

I agree with most everything except the no serious relationships until 25. I got married at 24, best decision I ever made. When you meet the right girl, you'll both know it, no hesitation. Since you describe the relationship is on and off, it sounds like you two are not exactly exclusive. If you enjoy her company, then continue to see her. Bear in mind, if either or both of you plan on going to college, the distance could get even more far apart, and you'd likely see her even less than you do now. You need to think about that. It's coming. And at 17, I wouldn't alter your college or career plans because of an off/on relationship with a nice girl.

IMHO your mom kinda stepped over line. She should not have mounted and displayed that picture without your permission, If you don't want that picture in the living room, then your Mom should take it down. But If she simply wants a picture of you in a tux, offer to get a professional shot taken. They're not expensive.

[C-Kwik]

I'm thinking his mom is just proud of her son's prom picture. She probably has little expectation that they will be together forever or anything like that.

As for the girl, I'd probably see what she's looking for. If she's not looking for any major commitments, then you can have an open relationship. No strings attached. This way there is little expectation on either end to commit, yet if it's meant to be more, it will flourish naturally. Realitically at 17, this is really how most relationships should start out. Have fun. Don't be so eager to settle down. If a relationship goes there on it's own, that's fine, but do not force it.

[GEO]

BADA BING!

[Mr1der]

If you really like her, it's worth it.

Just don't forget how young you are though.

[The Mic]

yeah we both arent looking for any major commitments, you know we just want to chill and have fun. I really dont want anything serious bc last time that happened i had to have my cell number & gate code changed (some advantages from living in a gated community). Yeah i thought about the college issue and were both gonna stay at home for a couple years. Not sure further than that. I tend not to think about the future, i like focus on the now.

[Megaseth]

tahts the biggest thing. go out and have fun with her. i've have found that if the girl is more of a best friend than a business agreement GF, its much better. if you know you guys have fun together doing crazy things, then shes a keeper.

[JESTER]

Again, listen to Smith. He is right on the money. You may have fun with her now, but they hardly ever work out to be a long time realitonship. No to mention the distance puts a strain on it.

[austins240]

you guys make some awesome viewpoints. especially those of you that are around his same age. i'm impressed. i said the same thing " i aint gettin married till i have all of my "toys" paid off and have broken all of my bones!"...yeah, that didn't happen.

got married april 29th 03 to my wife aya. yeah yeah she's japanese. guess i fit the stereotype of GI's with asians but they have a better mentality that most women i've been with.

was with her since july of 01 so had some time together, what almost two years? knew she was the one but my mentality of "not yet" got in the way. My family is what opened my eyes. i'm glad they did.

we spent our one year anniversary on opposite sides of the earth...i got sent to this hell hole for six just before. it's tough but manageable. makes us stronger. oh, did i mention shes 4 years older than me? hehe she still looks 19!

but enough rambling. i got out, traveled the world, got with LOTS of foreign women and found my wife, a model that loves cars as much as me. even gettin the ol' elbows dirty...tear...

haha, you'll make your mistakes. you'll regret it if you leave her. you'll get better and get a new one. that'll fail and the cycle continues until out of the blue there she is. you'll know. i did.

enough rambling, i gotta go back to work. BOOM!!

laters

austin

[DriftFactory]

All you need to do is follow your heart. If you feel like you should be with her than be with her. My main piece of advice is to ignore anyone who refers to how many chicks they got to/want to “bang”. One of the biggest things in a relationship is respect for your partner. If you don’t have that respect, than you shouldn’t give advice to a kid that seems to actually care about a girl to the point where he is beside himself about a picture and posting on a car forum for help.