In general, if the tire width range includes the actual width of your wheel, then you will be okay. So, if your wheel is 8" and the tire manufacturer says 8" - 9.5" for that 255/45-18 tire, then this is not a problem from a safety perspective. You can probably go 0.5" beyond the range (either way) without any
serious compromises, although I would not advise it.
More than 0.5" off is going to be a safety hazard - your tire could come off the bead in a bad bump!

People who use "stretch" looks are taking a serious risk, IMHO.
Technically, at the recommended tire pressure, there will be a
slight more lift in the tire tread for the wider tire (since the wheel is 8"), so the contact patch on the ground may be quite similar for both the 255 and 245 tire anyway (for the same brand/model, of course). Remember that the Tire Rack specs for tread width assume that the tire is mounted on a wheel that is about in the middle of the recommended range.
From a handling perspective, both these tires are likely to be similar enough to be imperceptible in performance and looks and handling, etc.
From a load index perspective, as long as the tire load rating is 95 or higher, you will be fine. I prefer closer to 100 if I can get it in a particular brand/model - this has a slightly harsher ride, but safer for our heavy cars.
The one comment I would make is the rolling diameter - this will make your speedo inaccurate when going from a 245/45-18 to a 255/45-18. Just be aware of the change (can be calculated from the rolling diameter ratio's) so that you aren't inadvertently speeding. In an X model, as long as all four wheels are the same, as far as I know, the minor error in speed measurement will not affect the AWD system.
My one thought would be to look for a 255/
40-18 size (as long as the load index is higher than 95!) if available in the tire you want, to minimize the error further. The lower sidewall height will increase road harshness very slightly, but also make turns and lane changes a bit quicker ... again, very slightly. However, lower aspect ratio tires also tend to have lower load index values, so be careful.
BTW, my current Michelin Pilot Super Sport (
not the A/S model) have been outstanding tires - among the best I have ever used. Since I have a 7.5" wheel width, I stick with the 245/45-18 size as a maximum (the car came with 235/45-18). The tread wear has been very good as well - better than the A/S model I used in the past! Since you are in Florida, you might want to consider this tire too - the initial cost is more expensive, but the better tread wear (for me) has made it a better long-term deal.
Z