Those of you with new roommates...

[vicki]

How do you like him/her?

Mine is super super boring and has no personality or interests besides studying her physics book.

I got thrown in with a random girl because there were no rooms open on campus. She never leaves the room and she lacks passion and life. I miss my old roomie.

[EZcheese15]

My first college roomate was like that. He showed up with a duffle bag the first day in the dorms, had his head burried in physics books all the time, and spoke maybe 3 words the first semester.

Second semester he was none to speak sentances at times and look up out of his physics book.

By my sophomore year (we decided to room again since we never had any problems the first year), he was a little more outgoing, and by the end of the year, was occasionally known to go to some parties every once in awhile. It was gradual, but when you look at the overall process, he made a HUGE difference.

[vicki]

She's a junior. Econ and bio major and I've only seen her talking to her parents. She never has friends over and she eats all her meals alone in the room. Ive invited her out to din dins with my friends but she alwas declines. How can one get through life without socializing?

[EZcheese15]

I'm tellin ya....sounds exactly like my roomate was.

Are you in dorms or apts? I can tell you how to break her into socializing depending on where u live.

[vicki]

Dorms. There are no apts around here.

[SmithSR]

<-- Done with roommates for good. No more walking on eggshells, no more having to divide up items when parting ways, no more getting irritated or worrying about if noisy g/f is irritating said roommate.

Compromise.. I hate that word

[EZcheese15]

Vicki,

Dorms are the easiest way to get someone to socialize. It takes time to break them into it though. But what you have to do is get your room to be the socializing center of the dorm floor.

A couple ways you can do that....

Always leave your door open (unless you're sleeping or something, or not there)

Socialize with your closest neighbors. Hang out in their rooms. Make it a habit for them to also leave their doors open.

Gradually migrate all socializing to your room. Eventually your room will become the center of attention for everyone. Your room will be that one that somebody goes to when they are bored, cuz there is always something happening in it.

The last step is to get your neighbors (who are socializing in your room) to talk to your roomate. Just always have them ask if she wants to do this or that with you guys. Eventually she will break, I'm telling you.

[prigo]

She never leaves the room and she lacks passion and life.

She prolly has low self esteem too! Is she attractive enough to get with? If so, dude, you got it made

[EZcheese15]

She prolly has low self esteem too! Is she attractive enough to get with? If so, dude, you got it made

Um...prigo...look who said that. I don't think vicki's into girls...ofcourse I could be wrong.

[vicki]

she's not my type.

EZ- I agree with the effectiveness of your methods, however, we are all upperclassmen and have our own circle of friends. My door is always open and people always say hi to me, but she just sits and stares at her comp. I don't like feeling like I am trying to force her to be sociable.

[krazy skwerel]

Some people are just really introverted. They simply don't socialize. Not much you can do about it.

[prigo]

lol, I wasnt even paying attention to usernames, well damn...

Send her my way

[Fenvy]

my room mate well

I am 23 male and she;s 24 female

the bathroom always have a lingering odor. then I found out that she don't like to flush after she pisses. When you go into the bathroom you'll see her **** all aroud the sink and on the floor and a ball of hair in the bathtub drainage

take that for a room mate

[prigo]

Ewwwww, thats just dirty.

[Altiman94]

thats discusting.

[180crafter]

Idea...

Loveless & Viki Trade roomies, let the two nasties fight amongst themselves. You two hook up, make videos, post on NICO, and we all live happily ever after.

Just a thought.

[Bubba1]

Vicki, just gotta go with the flow. There are some people that are quite comfortable living in their shell. Just work around them. It's not forever.

I had some "interesting" roomates my freshman and sophomore years. 1st one was a rugby player who showered 2-3 times per day yet almost never washed his clothes. He kept a huge pile of clothes on the floor near the window and let the breeze clean them (yuk), And the windows were always because of that plus beer didn't react well after it went thru his digestive system.

2nd one was an introverted tea-totaller nerd, very much like the person Vicki described. At least he didn't stink. He was in the room a lot, so I was out of the room a lot.

3rd one was literally a genius. 17 yrs old and got his BS in EE in 2 years with a 4.0 average (went on to get his masters in one year at MIT). He was outgoing and fun too, but couldn't hold his liquor, which spawned his nickname...Ralph. His folks never figured out why everyone called him that. Great Guy. . I ended up house manager (like an RA) junior and senior year , which got me a free single room. Made it easier on the budget and far easier from bringing women back to the room (ahem).

Good luck.

[Jesda]

I had one roommate.

NEVER EVER AGAIN.

He'd come home at 3am, banging the hell out of some girl and waking me up. Its not like we had great insulation at the house we were renting. Or one of his weird lonely women would knock at 2-4am and wake me up "WHERES DAVID? I NEED DAVID! HAVE YOU SEEN DAVID? DO YOU HAVE HIS CELL NUMBER? WHERE IS HE I NEED TO TALK TO HIM!"

He'd get stoned in the middle of the night and throw tantrums and knock things over, smash things, all the while complaining about his ex girlfriend. I'd wake up, clean up after him, then in the morning he'd ask me a question like "Jesda, do you know what happened to the minute hand on the clock?"

He'd make up expenses, blamed me for his cat running away, and overtly ogle whatever girl I had over, "OH MY GOD YOURE SO HOT! LIKE SORRY BUT YOURE REALLY HOT! WOW! YOURE SO HOT! YOURE JUST HOT! UNF!"

Creep.

Oh, and he'd leave his communist and socialist magazines all over the house. I have an open mind and generally dont care about that, but when I moved out he made up some wild-eyed conspiracy about Republicans trying to ruin his life. FREAKING LUNATIC.

I HATE HUMANS!!! I HATE SHARING!!!!

-Jesda

[rydwhite]

I have never had a room mate. Doesn't sound like I've missed out on anything though.

[Bubba1]

I dunno about that. I thought of roomates as a learning experience., but one that I don't care to ever repeat. What you do learn is how to compromise, adapt and adjust. Of course I found female roomates to be far more fun (ahem).

Jesda: Sorry about your experience. I lived in an Animal house so stuff like that was the norm. Not the political stuff, mostly alcohol/drug induced hijinks. And as House Manager, nights were always exciting. I shoulda wrote a book about it.

[fiznat]

If it's that bad, cant you swap rooms? I did that my frosh year-- just went up to the housing office and applied for a swap. Early in the year they always have people moving around and whatnot, they can usually accomodate you if you want to find a different (also random) place.

Still though, dont overlook the benefits of having a quiet roomate. My roomate soph through senior years wasnt exactly a giant party animal either. He'd go out sometimes but mostly study.. He was a great roomate though: very clean, didnt have too many people over, etc. It was nice being able to come back to my place and chill, knowing that there wont be 1000000 people in the place. Some people like being the center of attention or whatever at the dorm, I'd rather have that place be somewhere else- and have my place somewhat chill, quiet in case I want to take a nap or somethin, ya know?

Also it's nice to have a nerdy roomate- it always made me feel guilty to see my roomate studying while I wasnt... it defiently made me study some times when I wasnt going to otherwise...

Just some things to think about....

[Altiman94]

I agree with fiznat. I liek to go out and party, but I like my place quiet and peaceful for time to myself.

[rousie13]

My one roomie freshman year was aweful. We hated each other so much. No more roomies for me. I've had my own room for the last two years and love it. I have some awesome guys that I live with though.

[vicki]

I'm not saying I dislike her. I just wish she was more social. I like to see people have fun and her day always seems so dull. She's a good roommate though.

[GlacierFreeze]

Keep prodding her to go hang out with you and your friends. I'm sure she wants to but is probably too shy. Maybe she has to get used to you to feel comfortable enough to hang out.

I know it takes me a bit to get comfortable enough around people to talk to them heh.

[Jesda]

Dont do that. What if she gets on your nerves? Where will you go to avoid her? Best to keep it a strictly business relationship.

-Jesda

[w1ngzer0]

she is a roomate not your best friend.

[GlacierFreeze]

Yeah that makes more sense. Didn't think of it that way.