s13point5 wrote:also what temp sensor do i need to check. there is one for the gauge and there is one for the ECU. im guessing i need to check the ECU one?
The one for the ECU (that you need to check) is the two wire one. Mine is red, on the left side. The single wire sensor is only for the dash, it's worthless. You can find in the FSM a section that says what ohms you need to measure from the ecu coolant sensor. Also pull the codes from the ECU to see if it's complaining about anything... I would also measure continuity from the sensor back to the pin(s) on the ECU to make sure you don't have shorts...
I don't really think you'll find anything wrong with the ECT even if it was shot the engine would turn over with the same speed as it does when cold. Sounds like a problem with your battery and/or your starter/solenoid when it gets hot.