that point where you just say screw it, I'm moving out of here...

[fiznat]

For those of you who dont know, I'm a 22 year old who just graduated from college and living home with the parents for now. My plan has always been to try to stick it out and soak up the free rent, just live at home for a little while until I go back to school and get an apartment closer to school (I'll hopefully be going next year).

Still though -- and I've heard this from many people -- there's just that point where you cant handle living with the parents anymore. There are many different reasons for it, but the major one is my dad just retired last year and hes at home basically ALL the time. He's always got a chore for me to do and always telling me I need to wake up earlier, stop being a slob etc etc etc.

He may be right, but still: I need my freedom! I'm sick of sneaking up the stairs at 3am so I dont wake up the parents before I fall into bed... it's just not healthy!

Sooo I wanted to see if anyone here is or has been sorta in the same situation. Is it worth it to move out? I know it must be sweet to have your OWN place and all that, but rent isnt exactly cheap (it'll cost me approx 50% of my earnings to get a place I figure), and the extra money that I have now from living at home just goes right into my KA-T project, which is nice.... But still I CANT TAKE IT!!

Whats a brotha to do???

[whiterps13]

you can always sleep in your car, but you can never drive an apartment..

[574-240sx]

Living at home has it plus. Free and free food. I hate living at home I can afford living somewhere but there goes my project money. I guess I can stick it out another year. My dam grandma is always wondering around the house and her dog doesn't shut up and it pisses all over the dam house. I guess other than that is fine. Also living at home I get my side of heated garage and a place to work on my car. Nick

[ricebike]

buy Nathan's KA_T car & then move out...

nahh, just make a list of pros-cons & give it a good month or 2...

i reached that point a few years back; just find some1 reliable to split the rent/utilities w/ u is what i did... if u can't, then just sweat it out for another year 'till your nestegg/ project $ is saved up.

ya retired partental units are kinda pain in @$$ but I always pitch in w/ something whenever i visit to work on my car/maintain their cars @ their garage.

[SmithSR]

Just like the slogan freedom isn't free

your personal freedom, from your family isn't free either. expect to spend all of your money on living, eating, housing, and not so much on toys, bikes, whatever

[Rockenreno]

I love living far from home. You don't have to deal with any crap from anyone (except your roomates, but its easier than dealing with parents). It's liberating.

[Drift Machine]

Yeah I know exactly what you mean, I reached my breaking point early this year and decided I was going as far away as I could for college. Thus I moved to Limerick, Ireland.

[Doomed2Walk]

Eh, my 'rents aren't too bad. They give me money if I need, food is free (if there's ever any at home) and rent is free. Cons are they're always on your case and it seems like they're always interrogating you, but if you can tune them out like I do, no real problems.

[GEO]

I plan on living wiht my parents after I grad so I can play abck all student loans and get that out of the way...

[justmerging]

Enjoy it while it lasts. I was living on my own at 15, I'm now 24. It was tough as hell but eventually I got on my feet and everything is going great now. Paying for everything on your own sucks(especially on a military salary). It's nice though, now I have my own garage that I don't have to share with anybody(not even my wife).

[gabossie]

After I left for college, I came back and lived at home for the first two summers, that was it, never again. It's nice to soak up the free rent and all, but I enjoy life much more living on my own, even if it means I have less money to spend on the other things that make me happy. The cost of living on your own is definatly a pain, but to me at least, worth it. If you can't handle it anymore, find a roomate or two, there are ways to make living less expensive.

[hannibal]

I lived in the dorms my first 2 years, then moved back home for the last two. It really sucks. MY folks gave me the speech about pulling my weight and since I couldnt do it financially, they thought I should work it off. I got tired of being yelled at for coming in late, leaving dishes in the sink, or not vacuuming when my Mom thought I should. My Dad works form home, so I understand that part. Fortunately I was usually in class or working or just hanging out with friends til my parents went to sleep.When I got my first 'real' job (about 9 months after graduating), I moved out with some decent money in the bank. That made it worth it right there. Just convince yourself that being broke or going in debt isnt worth the 'freedom'.

Talk to your parents. Explain to them how you feel. Maybe they'll understand your view and lighten up a bit. You have plenty of time to do the indepedent thing

[raaksha]

I think the biggest plus of moving out is that there is no questions if you bring a chick you don't really know home with you.

[Japanese Steel]

I've been renting for about 3 years now. It has it's pros and cons. At the end of the month, yeah you lived there, but you really have nothing. At least with a house, your money is going towards something.

But, houses around here are ridiculously expensive, so I'll prob be renting for another 3 years.

[driftercs13]

when i turned 21 my mom gat married for the third time and left the house to me. it is ok for the kids to move away but when the parents leave then there is something wrong. she still pays the the bills, so i guess i just lucked up.

[mikesim]

i'd move out to keep my mental health. but i'm older now and understand things a bit better when it comes to dealing with my mom. i say stick it out if you can. you have plenty of life left in you, but $$$ is another thing...

[SoCalS14]

I lived in my own place for about 6 years. Just recently, after earning my BA, I went back home to start graduate school. Lving with them is ok...I have to pay rent...not too much, but its more of a token of grattitude than rent. I will stick it out until next spring, than I am finding a good place at the beginning of summer. For me, a good place conisists of a garage. That all I need.

[hybrid_flyer]

when i turned 21 my mom gat married for the third time and left the house to me. it is ok for the kids to move away but when the parents leave then there is something wrong. she still pays the the bills, so i guess i just lucked up.

Well you arent the only one. When my parents got a divorce, I got the house. Now I have a 3 bedroom 2 bath house by myself in the Bay Area, I swear I did something really right in a past life to luck out like this.

[Rockenreno]

Well you arent the only one. When my parents got a divorce, I got the house. Now I have a 3 bedroom 2 bath house by myself in the Bay Area, I swear I did something really right in a past life to luck out like this.

You should get some NICO-subleters and then have some money rolling in and a Nissan-filled house. That'd be pretty cool

[Nameless EJ6]

I'm 20.. I moved out and I love it. I come home whenever the hell I want.. I let whoever the hell come over almost anyime.. my girlfriend doesn't have to fear my mom when she sleeps with me in my bed.. my room stays a mess and no one complains.. I leave beer bottles everywhere and no one says ****... I do things when I get around to it... basically I have no one on my a@@.

Sometimes you just have to weigh things out though. What is more worth it to you? Pucking up to your dad and having money for your CAR, or having a boring car, a full time job, and making rent payments?

Luckily my parents help me with rent.. or else I be left at home with no life.

[Twinchy]

yeh iam living with roomates right now .i have been doing it since i was 19. iam 21 now. but since my roomates are moving iam probably going to get my own studio. its alot better living on your own. you can do whatever you want whenever. the down fall is the rent and food.I dont really know how to cook and all. so i pretty much eat ramen noodles,eggs, sandwiches, lean pockets ( gotta watch the figure) i cant forget little ceasers $5 pizza man there cheap. me and a friend usually split in half so its about $2.50 each you cant beat that.But living on my own has been a pretty good experience i like it. i am pretty sure it will even get better once i have my own place.the cons about living with roomates is or was in my stituation was fighting for the bathroom. there were times when i was going oout and my roomate would go into the bathroom when i wasnt even done getting ready and man my roomate would take about 45 mins in the bathroom i would get soooo pissed off.but yeah thats my expericence. hope it helps.Richard

[gabossie]

There is NOTHING like living in your own place. I don't care what I have to give up or how hard I have to work, I will never have a roomate again.

[Twinchy]

yeah roomates can suck....hopefully in a week or two ill be at my own place

[underground57]

Hey fiznat, I'm in the same boat as you. I'm 22 and just graduated and moved back in with my mom. Yeah, its tough with her always on my case about something, but I don't have a real job yet, so I'm stickin it out for now. Besides, she offered to help me pay for my SR swap when I got around to it. I've been living on my own for the past four years, and its definitely worth it if you can afford it. The downside to living on your own though is unless you're lucky, you probably won't have a garage. That and by the time your done paying for rent, bills, and food, there's not a whole lot left. Like most people have said, you have to weigh your pros and cons. I want to finish my car more than I want my own place now, so that's probably how it'll be for the next couple years.

[xns]

Pay your parents a little rent in exchangefor being a tenant... teneat sleep when they want and don't have to do chores... Dad is retired...he needs all those projects... just remind him you are no longer one of his projects

[Onizuka]

I guess im lucky or something, my parents dont really get on my case as long as I mow the lawn one a week and do my dishes. I pay rent but concidering I get free food, a big room and a two car garage to play in, its a pretty good deal. Of course after im done college I most definatly plan to get my own pad.

Im taking this semester off, and let me tell you, full time job + no bills = lots of car money