Teh Womenz

[Ghettokracker71]

Dr. phlips DO YOU CONCUR? LOL sorry I couldn't resist (come on, 'catch me if you can'?...)

[Jesda]

Well I'm over it now. So I'm gonna jack my own thread.

Passing thought...

You know what I hate? When youre attracted to someone and you start getting worried about saying the wrong thing, and end up saying the wrong thing anyway and sounding like an idiot because youre trying too hard to sound like you really dont care, except that you do care and its obvious that you do because youre trying too hard. Its totally different from talking to someone you just wanna have sex with. You actually care what they think of you.

-Jesda

[jdmfreak]

Yes.

[RedHatchback]

yep,all the time

[The Mic]

Dr. phlips DO YOU CONCUR? LOL sorry I couldn't resist (come on, 'catch me if you can'?...)

yes it my fav movie of all time. i never get tired of that movie. the best ev4rr imo

2 little mice were in a bucket of cream, the 1st one quickly drowned. the 2nd mouse churned the cream so hard it became butter and walked away"

idk im odd =P

[Mr1der]

Dr. phlips DO YOU CONCUR? LOL sorry I couldn't resist (come on, 'catch me if you can'?...)

haha I though you were talking about me at first and just badly mispelled my last name...

and yes, I do concur.

[Jesda]

[The article has been removed and a link has been provided below over the concern that unusually sensitive NICO members may be offended by this sardonic commentary, originally published in a Harvard University newspaper. Please forward any future complaints to my attorney, who does not exist (and does not care). -Jesda]

http://www.harvardindependent....shtml

[Repo Man]

This is almost the lamest thread on NICO. Ever. I'm sure there is a thread that sucks more, but I can't think of what it is.

[Jesda]

"Pics or Shens""Is this really nessecary?""chicken""terrorists drive nissans too""Baby Got Back""girl 240"

[Repo Man]

Yep, those work too. I guess this thread was necessary to make that list bigger? I can't fathom why NICO is a damned sausage-fest.

[jdmfreak]

Hmmmm....Maybe its cuz we got a lotta guys gathered in one place?

[Jesda]

A subtle hint:

A vastly larger percentage of men are persistently into cars, or most hands-on hobbies for that matter. CadillacForums.com, DodgeIntrepid.net, DodgeMagnum.net, lexusownersclub.com, 300mclub.org, and MercedesForums.com for example, are mostly populated with males.

That changes when you get into makes and models that are more frequently targetted at female drivers: sebringclub.net, club3g.com (3rd-Gen Eclipse), Honda-Acura.net, and others. But even miata.net, which Ive been visiting since 1997, is vastly more male than female, even moreso than NICO. (There's few car forums I dont frequent)

Demographics.

[Repo Man]

And the few that we do get see threads like this and leave.

[w1ngzer0]

[quote=" Jesda "Pics or Shens""Is this really nessecary?""chicken""terrorists drive nissans too""Baby Got Back""girl 240" [/quote]

whatever!! they do! :pface

[kevy8up]

yea...they piss me off..

[Jesda]

What part of St Louis are you in?

[The Mic]

The underlying theme is being offended by someone else's blatant lack of consideration, and her arrogantly refusing to apologize for it.

what else is new about women? u gotta mellow out jesda. telling to her to go away was kinda harsh. They always do things that may annoy/offend you, and more than liekly theyre just testing you. They arent regular people like guys, theyre females. You cant treat them like a regualr buddy, although ud like to, but u cant. why not? again bc its a female. Dont expect an apology anytime soon..nah dont expect an apology period. BUt if shes ur friend she wouldnt offend you on purpose. unless you dont call them after a date, then they get really mad, like the go-on-a-rampgae-to-find-you-and-rip-out-yer-balls kinda mad. . .

[jdmfreak]

Huh?

[Jesda]

what else is new about women? u gotta mellow out jesda. telling to her to go away was kinda harsh. They always do things that may annoy/offend you, and more than liekly theyre just testing you. They arent regular people like guys, theyre females. You cant treat them like a regualr buddy, although ud like to, but u cant. why not? again bc its a female. Dont expect an apology anytime soon..nah dont expect an apology period. BUt if shes ur friend she wouldnt offend you on purpose. unless you dont call them after a date, then they get really mad, like the go-on-a-rampgae-to-find-you-and-rip-out-yer-balls kinda mad. . .

Oh, dont worry about it. I got over it and I managed to wrangle an apology out of her. The problem is, that after explaining why I was upset she continued to try and justify it, and the apology had to be wrangled out.Not a big deal, but it certainly is telling of her character, and imprinted in the back of my mind.

Such is life. Oh well.

[TachyonS14]

Man fetuses are delicious.

And from watching South Park, we can establish the fact that they give Christopher Reeves super-human strength.

[Mr1der]

Yep, those work too. I guess this thread was necessary to make that list bigger? I can't fathom why NICO is a damned sausage-fest.

I know, Women - "what's a knee sam?"

[Jesda]

what else is new about women? u gotta mellow out jesda. telling to her to go away was kinda harsh. They always do things that may annoy/offend you, and more than liekly theyre just testing you.

Ahh yes, but this time I was trying to take the high road. Typically, in an argument, she and I would get into it, exchange some regretful words, and disappear for weeks. I figured ignoring her for a while would give me some time to steam.

This time I wanted to find some productive outlets. So I talked to some friends, went to the office, worked on the Q, went for a few drives, and watched Kill Bill 1 and 2.

I liked the first Kill Bill a lot better.

-Jesda

[krazy skwerel]

I will disagree, I felt the second instalment was much better and helped the story more. Also it had that ***** gettin' her eye snatched out. That was damn funny.

[Mr1der]

Darryl Hannah = hotness. I still need to watch the second one...

[Jesda]

Whoa. Two threads in one!

[Bubba1]

what else is new about women? u gotta mellow out jesda. telling to her to go away was kinda harsh. They always do things that may annoy/offend you, and more than liekly theyre just testing you. They arent regular people like guys, theyre females. You cant treat them like a regualr buddy. .

I agree with the mellowing out part. I'd like to point out you have equal control in letting disagreements get outta hand as she does. Getting steamed, then "wrangling" an apology out of her later is unproductive IMHO. It ultimately doesn't matter who is right. But if it's that important for you to win arguments with women, especially ones you're attracted to, then the long term prognosis for opposite sex relationships ain't rosey. I recommend a dosage of chill pill.

I've got my nomex suit on, so flame away.

[Jesda]

I agree with the mellowing out part. I'd like to point out you have equal control in letting disagreements get outta hand as she does. Getting steamed, then "wrangling" an apology out of her later is unproductive IMHO.

Thanks for the tip, but the situation is resolved.

It would probably help if I revealed the actual conversation, but I'll refrain.

When I get "steamed" it means I leave the situation immediately and vent my frustrations somewhere else. Why? To avoid exerting anger -at- the person I'm having the disagreement with. It doesnt mean I blow up at the other person. If you've cooked before, you'll see that hot steam rises quickly under heat and pressure, but nothing actually explodes or bursts. Pressure is relieved and heat rises in a controlled environment -- steaming.

Second, after making a clear and rational explanation (believe it or not, vocal volume was never raised in all of this) as to why I was upset, she still did not seem to understand my point of view, and she apologized (I believe) just to end the argument. She's the kind of person who refuses to discuss politics, culture, fashion, -anything- out of fear that it may lead to "arguing." She either gives up and immediately says "yeah youre right" just to end it (frustrating), or takes a random issue and stands firm on it. Its confusing, its odd, and its really poor for communication. I really cant change how she was raised (or how she reacts to her upbringing). There's a difference between evasive and nonconfrontational.

If I'm wrong I expect to be challenged. If I'm right then one should expect me to stand for what I believe until I'm proven wrong. And that doesnt mean heated arguments -- it means respecting and caring enough to fully discuss the issue at hand. When you care about someone, you disagree respectfully. Its best to take your anger out elsewhere, and always come back and resolve the problem rationally.

At 22 years of age, there's options in front of me. And there's decisions to be made based on compatibility, character, and commitment. So I'll take Vicki's advice on this one -- its best for me to move on.

And like I said, its impossible to understand the audacity of what she did without me telling you.

-Jesda

[Bubba1]

Hmmm. I think Vicki was right too. I don't know what that girl said that was so horrible, but I've never ever gotten steamed to the point that you described with anyone. I've been married a long time, so it appears we have different perspectives on women

But I think you said it right, you're young with options in front of you. I agree, take advantage of them, relax and enjoy

Good luck

[LilGold240sx]

Maybe Jesda just needs a hug...

[Mr1der]

nah, he probably needs more then that

unless we're talking about fun hugs...