The best I can offer when it comes to these things is to crosscheck with an OEM Nissan part.
Like you, I believe thermostats do come with gaskets. The Nissan ones I've handled have a rubber one that goes over the edge of the housing.
There was a statement in your post that doesn't seem complete.
Then in the process of tightening it, The friggin housing (luckily the one attached to the hose not the engine).
Did the housing break?
Do you have pictures to post so that people can give some guidance with a visual background of your issues?