So my roommate just went apesh*t

[Crunkrich]

hey everyone, I know its been a long time since I've posted... since the server change really. there's been few days where I haven't viewed the forum, but never actually posted lol. sorry :/

But in the past I've heard some excellent advice on this forum, so here it goes.

My roommate just went apesh*t. I live in a two family house, my roommate and I on the second floor, two brothers (who we are friends with) live downstairs. My roommate's dad owns the house, and basically it boils down to he thinks he owns the damn place because of that. A few months ago, the two brothers got into it and one of them broke the bathroom mirror. The next day, they were cool and they paid to have it fixed that day. My roommate was about to call his dad and have them evicted over it, but I cooled him down and everything was fine.

Fast forward to tonight... we're hangin out downstairs, playin cards, and my roommate gets pissed over something sooooo stupid I don't want to even say it. So I came upstairs (basically f this I don't wanna deal with it) and started cookin some food. Two minutes later roommate comes up and starts yelling and tryin to get me to agree with him. I didn't say a single word and jus chilled smokin my cigarette, waiting for the microwave to ding. then s*** hit the fan... he went into the living room, started yelling F this F that F the TV F the xbox F the dog F your table F your microwave, then went to his room and slammed the door.

aftermath... broken tv (his I don't care) broken xbox (his) flipped table (mine) door kicked in on the cage (with the dog inside) ripped off cord for microwave.

I stayed cool through the whole ordeal, basically because its stupid and not worth fighting (which it would have come to had I said something) I also didn't realize he kicked in the cage until I saw it. That sh*t boils my blood.

I called my parents house and told them I might need to come home for a while til I find a new place... so basically what would you do in this situation... I have sooo much crap here its unreal. furniture, all the crap here in my room, three motorcycles, all my tools (which would take two truckloads just my themselves) my workbench... its not like I can say f you I'm done I'm out. It would be a 3-4 day process to get outta here. I'm not on a lease, he signed it with his dad and I pay him every month.

Being said, this is the second and first time I've successfully moved out of my parents house and have been 100% on my own... bills, school, rent, food, gas... everything. It would really really suck to go back home... but I'm tired of this s***.

/rant. sorry I feel better now

[TroubleBound]

Go in on a new place with the bros downstairs. F*ck your roommate and his drama. And yeah it will be awkward for a few days of moving, what can ya do.

[bundy26]

Get the F out before something goes terribly wrong, it's better to go back to your parents house than to blackout and smash his head in, just saying.

[bundy26]

You should get a roommate like him, the only thing he's going to F is you know what.

[Crunkrich]

bundy... what you said is dead on. If I don't completely remove myself from the situation... if I start to react, I literally will black out and go crazy. I do NOT want to do that. Not one bit. It doesn't help that my roommate has been my best friend for years now. We've been there for each other, but leading up to this point... i dunno. f***. i love him and hate his god damn guts at the same time.

I want to get out of here so bad, but at the same time I don't. I'm on my own, and feel good about myself. I'm back in school now, and for the first time have been ace-ing all my classes. Not because I couldn't before, but because I didn't care before. Now I do.

Moving back to my parents house would be a temporary thing, but where else am I going to find a good size place, with a basement and garage, free reign to work on my projects, for $350 a month with utitilies? I have it made here, and the closest price wise is going to be 400/month, single bedroom apartment in a complex. No garage, no place for my tools or motorcycles... This decision sucks so much. I know I need to get out of here. But where the hell to? I'm 3 days away from turning 23... and don't want to spend my birthday moving back to my parents house. Again.

The reason I'm back in school is because I've saved enough to pay for rent, food, school and not have to work until I finish. It took me 2 years to do, but I did it. If I have to get another place, I might not be able to finish school. dsbacvp;eraeprufgiqrupbefvnvwh arrrrrggggggggggggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

lol I can't help but laugh at my own sh*t. f-in a.

[bundy26]

That's a difficult decision, I'm a little older than you and I can tell you one thing, people don't change. I wish you luck on whatever road you decide to take, just think before you act.

[BusyBadger]

Are you on a lease or just paying month-by-month? Document everything. You should get together with the two brothers as well so everyone is on the same page. In the event that you're on a lease and need to leave, your documentation will come in handy if you have to go to court over a broken lease.

If you're not on a lease you and the bros could just bail on the place and let him rage in the house all by himself.

[nissangirl74]

I think moving back in with your parents would be the lesser of evils. Would it make you feel better to pay them rent, so it wouldn't make you feel like you were mooching off them for a place to stay? You were already paying out the money anyway, it's not like you would miss it. If you get along with your parents, it might be the best solution to your problem. There are worse things than living with your parents, aka: the crazy f-ing roommate.

[iggyspeed]

just go apesh*it with everyone in there dude.

[bundy26]

just go apesh*it with everyone in there dude.

[iggyspeed]

just go apesh*it with everyone in there dude.

exactly.

[Crunkrich]

just go apesh*it with everyone in there dude.

lol I already have in my head... an epic battle took place and I was victorious haha.

Bex... that's what I'm leaning towards. I have gotten along with my parents very well in the past few years.

I'm waiting to see what tomorrow brings... i left everything as it is, flipped tables, sh*t everywhere... whatever. We'll see what happens tomorrow... i.e. his explanation and (doubt it) apology. for anywho who caught it... the dog is sleeping in my room tonight.

So yeah... pending tomorrow's outcome I'm either getting the hell out of here or trying to help my best friend through whatever the hell is going through his head right now. That's what friends are for, right? I just don't know if I can take it anymore.

one man wolf gang: out for the night.

[Jesda]

Dude, free meals and no tantrum-throwing ***holes.

Start packing now.

[themadscientist]

Put you stuff in storage and get liquid. I like the idea of going in with the other dudes on a place. Don't say a damned thing until it's time to go and then do a chick move where while he's at work you move out. Make sure his dad knows his son is why he just lost a revenue stream.

[iggyspeed]

Just do it dood. Apesh*t time

[Bubba1]

Are you on a lease or just paying month-by-month? Document everything. You should get together with the two brothers as well so everyone is on the same page. In the event that you're on a lease and need to leave, your documentation will come in handy if you have to go to court over a broken lease.

If you're not on a lease you and the bros could just bail on the place and let him rage in the house all by himself.

This ^ was my first thought. If you signed a formal lease, better look at the language for your breaking the lease before it expires. Depending on how its written, you might forgeit your security deposit and a few months rent. Until you figure out your financial exposure, I would suggest you remove any valuables you have there, which will limit your damage exposure should Mr. Short Fuse go off again, which seems inevitable. Also, as Badger noted, you should document the destruction/behavior as best you can, That info could be important if breaking of the lease escalates to court.

Good luck.

[PapaSmurf2k3]

He said he doesn't have a lease. Homeboy with the anger problem is the one that got the lease, and Crunk just pays him month to month.

If he wasn't your friend, I'd say you should scheme to get everyone to move out and leave him with massive bills... but that is going a bit above and beyond. Just look out for #1 this time man. Why not call his dad and tell him what happened? I guess give him a heads up that you are thinking abut moving out. Is the dad pretty cool? Have you ever met him?

[snwbrdr435]

Call his daddy explain the situation and why you are moving out after you actually move your s*** to avoid drama

[Crunkrich]

I'm sure his dad is going to hear about it... his sister was downstairs last night, after posting this I went back down and people were asking me what all the banging and yelling was, so yeah I'm sure she told him by now.

But this morning I guess he felt bad but I woke up to a completely clean house. I have yet to talk to him, dunno where he is.


If it does come down to it, his dad will surely know why I'm leaving... and there's no one to replace me lol. No one else is willing to put up with this kid's sh*t like I have. I've started packing up tools and I need to get my gsxr back together. We'll see how these next few days go.

Thanks everyone

[szh]

My thoughts: move back in with your parents for a while and pay them the $350 a month while you are there and looking for another place.

Z

[Crunkrich]

Put you stuff in storage and get liquid. I like the idea of going in with the other dudes on a place. Don't say a damned thing until it's time to go and then do a chick move where while he's at work you move out. Make sure his dad knows his son is why he just lost a revenue stream.

Good call, I'm going to start looking for storage units....

[Bubba1]

He said he doesn't have a lease. Homeboy with the anger problem is the one that got the lease, and Crunk just pays him month to month.

If he wasn't your friend, I'd say you should scheme to get everyone to move out and leave him with massive bills... but that is going a bit above and beyond. Just look out for #1 this time man. Why not call his dad and tell him what happened? I guess give him a heads up that you are thinking abut moving out. Is the dad pretty cool? Have you ever met him?

I didn't see the part about no lease. But If that's the case, then I'd suggest discreetly moving out asap. The problem with relaliation against a psycho (which is what you'd be doing by suggesting everyone else move out) is the likelihood that the psycho will escalate it right back at you. I see little value in trying to get the last word with him or punish him. If your decision is made to move out, and it sounds like it is, then just do it. And If his Dad asks you why, only then would I mention your concern about his son's violent temper. But not til after your pet and valuables are safely outta there. And don't be shocked if Dad defends his son. But even if his dad is on your side, do you really think he can stop the kid's violent temper from flaring up again and keep your pet safe? Uh, doubtful.

[Ajax]

If he went through the process of cleaning everything up, then I think you need to talk to him. His actions of cleaning would suggest he realized what he did was not appropriate behavior. I try not to burn bridges, so I think you'd be better off sitting down with him to see if you can rebuild from this episode. Definitely explain to him that you're not comfortable with what he did, and that if it came down to it, you'd consider leaving, but don't tell him you've already decided to move out- I think he'd just get vindictive at that point. Bottom line- you all need to be respectful of each other in that house, and if that respect cannot be rebuilt/regained, then it would not be practical to continue living in the same place. If it doesn't seem like you can get that normalized living arrangement, then perhaps talking to his dad might be appropriate- if you know him. If you don't know him, then its going to seem really weird, and they may just kick you out anyway.
I agree on getting things liquid- or use the term "organizing"; so in case you need to move quickly, it won't be drawn out. Certainly research all your options, which it sounds like you've already done. If you decide to leave after talking with him, give him at least a month's noticed (most leases in my state are 2 month), unless he requests you leave sooner. It just not worth it to "screw the guy" with higher rent, even if you have no care to see the guy ever again- treat others with the respect you'd like to be treated.
Good luck.

[Dattebayo]

It sounds like the kid is an angry drunk to me, but without details, no one can really just take your side on this.

[iggyspeed]

It sounds like the kid is an angry drunk to me, but without details, no one can really just take your side on this.

it doesnt matter sir. what i said. "ApeSh*t time"

[Dattebayo]

It sounds like the kid is an angry drunk to me, but without details, no one can really just take your side on this.

it doesnt matter sir. what i said. "ApeSh*t time"

Derp.