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1) Change your transmission fluid. I recommend MT-90 from Redline. You'll need a bit over 3 quarts, so better get 4. That will eliminate the grind in many cases, but will help if it doesn't eliminate it. Also flush and bleed out your clutch system. Last resort is to install a heavy duty clutch fork from Zspeedperformance.com. Completely eliminated my grinding.
2) $875.00 will get you the best exhaust available for the Z32, a Specialty Z exhaust. That's with resonators (highly recommended) and quad round tips (personal preference). No resonators and single rounds would be $745. It's loud, but it flows the best, other than the ricetastic HKS HiPer
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