Should I say something about that black eye?

[frapjap]

Long story short, I went to pick up the keys to my new place this afternoon. My land lady, who also lives on the top floor, is ~34-36, and all around a pretty nice person who we'll probably see often. Seems to have most of her crap together, and coincidentally is the step daughter of a higher up in my company. Though I realize that all of that may not matter to you as you form you opinion. Basically, she would be an active landlord.

However, I noticed that she had an unmistakably fading black eye that was still quite bright and bruised around the corners. There was a guy in her picture when we first looked at the place, but hes gone now- something she hinted at even when we were looking. I automatically assume its a gift from him because he looked like that kind of bunghole.

But I guess, what it comes down to is- should it be addressed or questioned?

I ask because I'd really not like to have to hear a physical/verbal fight upstairs and wonder if I should be calling the police or not to stop such an event, or if that ends up being an invasion of her privacy. I don't think it'd be rude to inquire, but if I were 100% certain, I wouldn't be asking you all.

Opinions?

[Dattebayo]

I wouldn't say anything unless I knew her better, personally...

[MellowZ32]

that is a touchy subject!regardless of what she says you should call the police if you ever hear violent noise coming form her apartment.

don't be like Horton!http://www.vidoemo.com/yvideo....Y2M28

[sbird1]

That's a toughie. I think I may be inclined to ask.

[Ajax]

I see nothing wrong with noting she's got a bruise around her eye- but don't infer what you're thinking.

[snwbrdr435]

Your posting on NICO! Who let you out of the closet!

I wouldn't say anything unless she was a close friend or family.

[frapjap]

Your posting on NICO! Who let you out of the closet!

I wouldn't say anything unless she was a close friend or family.

I read a lot, but its after everyone is done for the day, so I don't post often. I'm waiting for a mobile version to show up so I can start to whore it up again on the Crackberry.

[Bwana]

Ray's just been whoring out in other areas lately...

[Zydeco]

Just wait untill you know sonething is going on up there then call the cops.

[Mr1der]

ask her about it.

if anything it at least shows your concern for her well being.

[krimsonviper]

I wouldn't ask her unless you're trying to get with her, or you know her outside of business. Call the police if you hear abuse.

[Mr1der]

then go over there and kick the crap outta the taint while the cops drive to the place.

[krimsonviper]

then go over there and kick the crap outta the taint while the cops drive to the place.

This.

And bring a ninja costume like what I have. I'd post mine, but they never show up.

[Chaotic_Warlord]

I'm not the nosy type, but if her ex is a douchenozzle, and the abusive type, he's inclined to be back. The sad thing about abusive relationships is no matter how hard a dude beats on a girl she'll always throw him out just to take him back when he apologizes. I'd ask just out of concern, you never know it might be unrelated to her ex, she might be the partying type and have gotten in a fight at a bar or something.

Are you the only tenant in this building that call to 911 will be hard b/c they'll know it was you, but it absolutely has to be made. Domestic Disputes are the number 1 calls that lead to most officer related deaths or injuries, followed by traffic accidents, having said that if there's domestic violence occuring the police absolutely have to be called, if not you it can lead to far worse things than a vocal fight or a b**** slap, it will also lead to murders, and/or rapes 85% of the time.

[Bubba1]

Long story short, I went to pick up the keys to my new place this afternoon. My land lady, who also lives on the top floor, is ~34-36, and all around a pretty nice person who we'll probably see often. Seems to have most of her crap together, and coincidentally is the step daughter of a higher up in my company. Though I realize that all of that may not matter to you as you form you opinion. Basically, she would be an active landlord.

However, I noticed that she had an unmistakably fading black eye that was still quite bright and bruised around the corners. There was a guy in her picture when we first looked at the place, but hes gone now- something she hinted at even when we were looking. I automatically assume its a gift from him because he looked like that kind of bunghole.

But I guess, what it comes down to is- should it be addressed or questioned?

I ask because I'd really not like to have to hear a physical/verbal fight upstairs and wonder if I should be calling the police or not to stop such an event, or if that ends up being an invasion of her privacy. I don't think it'd be rude to inquire, but if I were 100% certain, I wouldn't be asking you all.

Opinions?

Unless she brings it up or makes obvious motions to make it noticeable to you, I'd recommend not bringing it up.

[93coupe]

I didn't know that asking someone about a shiner was such a touchy subject. I am always inclined to hear the story behind injuries. It is usually pretty interesting. What is the worst that could come from simply asking hot she got the black eye? Her saying that she'd rather not talk about it? I can deal with that.

[Bubba1]

I didn't know that asking someone about a shiner was such a touchy subject. I am always inclined to hear the story behind injuries. It is usually pretty interesting. What is the worst that could come from simply asking hot she got the black eye? Her saying that she'd rather not talk about it? I can deal with that.

Chances are, if she's trying hard to mask/cover it up, she doesn't want to talk about...

[sentrastace]

DONT bring it up. if you do, she most likely wont tell you the truth anyway because whether it is because her boyfriend hit her or she got in a bar brawl or something, it's embarassing.

DO pay attention if you hear arguing or yelling. If you hear some kind of struggle, call the cops. Who cares if they know its you. you're concerned for another persons safety and the other guys are right, if it was a guy and hes inclined to come back, its just going to get worse.

[93coupe]

Chances are, if she's trying hard to mask/cover it up, she doesn't want to talk about...

Is this the case?

I will always say yes, ask. The worst they can say is that they don't feel like talking about it. Show some concern.

[PapaSmurf2k3]

I didn't know that asking someone about a shiner was such a touchy subject. I am always inclined to hear the story behind injuries.

+1, Me too.

"Sweet Shiner!!! Where'd you get it?"

[Bubba1]

+1, Me too.

"Sweet Shiner!!! Where'd you get it?"

To a guy, it's no big deal to ask. To a girl, especially one you don't know well, might not be a good idea. See Stace's view.

[dusred]

I'd maybe mention it in a non direct way like "so. . . how'd the other guy look?"

[simmode1]

My policy: Don't ask unless you're prepared to do something about it, if need be... i.e.: call the cops, play the comforter or kick somebody's a$$.

[4cefed]

DONT bring it up. if you do, she most likely wont tell you the truth anyway because whether it is because her boyfriend hit her or she got in a bar brawl or something, it's embarassing.

DO pay attention if you hear arguing or yelling. If you hear some kind of struggle, call the cops. Who cares if they know its you. you're concerned for another persons safety and the other guys are right, if it was a guy and hes inclined to come back, its just going to get worse.

+1

Just make sure something is actually going on. When I was in college my girlfriend was clumsy and bruised easily. When she was home for winter break she seriously fell down the stairs and gave herself two black eyes. I was three states away. Next week at school whenever we went somewhere I got a lot of filthy looks.

[daconkiftador]

My policy: Don't ask unless you're prepared to do something about it, if need be... i.e.: call the cops, play the comforter or kick somebody's a$$.

word.

[s14_girl]

It wouldn't hurt to ask her about it, but I wouldn't make a visit specifically for that purpose. Either way, she may feel defensive or try to change the subject if that is what happened to cause the black eye. If you hear commotion, definitely call the police, but I wouldn't call them just to go over and ask questions because if the guy's around then that could cause more problems for her. It's a really rough situation.

[mmm240]

I would have said something as soon as I noticed. I believe you have missed your opportunity Ray. if you say something now it will seen awkward.

[Solar_Runner]

Nice to see you posting here again Ray.

I would ask her, "So, how you doing, is everything alright?"

Depending on what she says, you can add your follow-up questions.

George

[93coupe]

Here is what to listen for.

NSFW Language

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lw3tjdCM3LU

[frapjap]

So, she says her pitbull was jumping up as she opened the door and headbutted her. I can believe that, but I still can't believe that the guy isn't a tool. My ears will be open, though.