First off, welcome to NICO.
We have a Wheels/Suspension forum that has many answers to the questions you have. You can look to the right to find it.
What the previous guy was trying to tell you was the Factory Service Manual. It is pretty much a bible for all things on our cars, but wont tell you a thing about changing out parts for the aftermarket replacements.
Definately check out the suspension forum FAQ before you post, your answers might be in there.
But, the main problem when aggresively lowering an s13 is camber. You are going to need Pillowball mounts up front, and Rear Upper Control arms out back. These two pieces will allow adjustment of the extreme negative camber that occurs when lowering your car. If you want to get into high tech suspension geometry, heres a site that sells every multi link piece known to man. There is also a diagram of your suspension.
Fronthttp://
www.splparts.com/Parts/...k.asp
Rearhttp://
www.splparts.com/Parts/...k.asp