Miss Fairlady, I happened across a site where a guy had the z32 brake conversion and was running 300zx wheels on the back as track wheels, so it looks possible. He also said something about a few Z parts for suspension. I didn't see any info on whether or not he had to do anything (like spacers) to make things fit. Here's the site.
http://custom.autos.yahoo.com/...-1862
My question to you would be, if you already have the wheels and the car, why not jack it up in the air and try fitting them? (Make your son do it...he's young and strapping right?)
As to your other suspension questions, I'll leave that to more experienced people on this board.