The SMJ will come apart, it's just like the plug that goes to the ecu, just a square version. Take that plastic covering piece off that covers the wires, then you can get to the bolt that is right in the center. The bolt won't come all the way out of the plug, it's meant to be like that, but loosen it until there is no more resistance, then it should come loose. Then just keep wiggling and pulling on the SMJ until it comes off, it's just one huge plug. If it seems stuck, try loosening the bolt some more.
As far as the door lock timer, headlight timer, and time control unit, I can't remember what they all do. I'm pretty sure the time control unit is an important one though, I'll take a look at my FSM and see if it's in there.
I can't remember where I got my FSM, but go to
http://www.NissanTechDirectory.com; click "General Info/FSM's" then "240sx" and download the one that says "1989.pdf", I have it posted there.