im in the same boat u are !!!!! i just bought a 240sx never owned 1 never worked on 1 or nothing all my experience is with DSM's,, im searching for a rb25 and have almost the same excact list of mods in mind as you do...hahaha but yea the toughest part of figureing everything out was wen i was tryin to figure out wat to tune the rb25 with..i was hopeing they had somethin for nissans simalar to DSMLINK but they dont.....ive found you either use a $200 SAFC2 which with the mods u have that would be crappy....or a $600-$800 Apexi PowerFC its like the Dad of the safc2, it is a standalone but only tuned with a handheld programmer, or Wolf 3d or AEM or sumthing... which those two are wayyyy outa my price range idk bout u tho.....i plan on using the Power FC since safc2 is outa the question and its the cheapest.....it is a complete standalone system but has a ugly hand held thing u use to tune with....but they do have a labtop program u can buy for it i gues...
http://www.paulr33.com/powerfc-faq/powerfc-faq.htm check that site out tells u everything bout the PowerFC