RB25 ECU is not grounding the Ignition Relay

[godzilla_753]

Hi,
I have a stagea r34 NEO rb25 that ive been working on for the past few months. Having done most of the wiring myself I got the car to start and idle but there seems to be one or two small things left.

On my ecu loom, the plastic clip is missing a wire on pin 31, which on most wiring pinouts has it labeled as having something to do with the ignition relay. If I ground the brown ignition relay myself the car will start but Nissan designed the relay to switch to ground through the ecu. This must mean that the ecu is not getting a signal from some input causing it to not ground the relay.

Here is a pinout for the ecu:
https://docs.google.com/leaf?id=0B9Awbp ... ist&num=50

Does anyone know what input im missing? I was told that if i supply my own ground as I have been doing, there is a chance I would burn up the ECU. Another option I have is to put my own pin in there and give it 12V. Im pretty scared to do that though, because I bought this as a whole front clip, and it obviously ran before so I dont want to start experimenting. I obviously would like to get the issue fixed since it seems like a small one, so any help would greatly be appreciate.

thanks!