third3y3:
I think msvara brings up quite excellent points.
you may want to check out this thread:
post6500817.html?hilit=m problems buying used#p6500817 for some specific things that folks seem to complain about more with the M.
I have a 2006 M45 with 89k and it has been pretty much trouble free, I had a problem with filling up the gas tank once (only half full but pump kept shutting off) I gave up for a day and went to fill it again and haven't had the problem since.
I also agree with Larz, overall I think the VQ engine has had prolly fewer cases of the dreaded oil consumption issue (but you should check to see how much oil is being used with changes if you can get that info) and I really love my V8 rumble and power. (even louder now with the R2C intake on)!!
I get my oil changed at the dealer, but have done many of the maintenance items myself: changed belts, brake pads and rotors, drained and filled the transmission fluid, changed in cabin filter (super easy), and just changed my spark plugs.
good luck and keep us updated if you pull the trigger...if not, keep looking and you might find someone on the forums who is looking to upgrade and wants to sell.