lonster, your problem sounds more like a bad or dirty MAF or connector. You should carefully pull the connector and clean it up well. You might also try cleaning the MAF element according to instructions on Q45.org:
http://www.q45.org/maf.html
Search the Q45 Forum, and Infiniti Online Mechanic for MAF (be sure to search "post bodies", and "archived" as well as "recent") , and you'll get a lot of info on MAFs and stalling. Do you get any bucking on mild acceleration, too?
You should also check your transmission fluid level. If the level is low, the torque converter can lock up at rest, stalling the engine.
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The 96 doesn't have coilpack problems.